Yeah I'm sorry about that. Theres an entire site full of that creepy *expletive* and it really put me off. I know I should be judging myself and not listening to others but all of a sudden, everything you say seems like exactly what the anti furs said you would say.
I'll put it more simply.
There are lots of furries that are into that stuff. And there are lots that aren't. That's all you really need to know about the fandom.
If you go to a furry con are there going to be people dicking eachothers in fursuits in the conference hall? No. Will there be some in their rooms? Probably.
What you get out the fandom is defined by where you hang out. If you're on Furaffinity, leave the adult filter on and most of the time you can have a nice clean experience. I honestly can't tell you what the ratio of furries who aren't in it for the sex at all, compared to those that are into it for that. But I can tell you that if the anti-furs make claims that all furries are into one thing or another, they're lying. I can also tell you that even if you're into the clean stuff only, if you label yourself a furry, people are still going to assume the worst.
And that's the honest truth.