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Once you go furry...

Renarde

Little Fox
So as you all may or may not know, I'm relatively new to the fandom. I was introduced by a past partner, and it became a pretty significant part of certain parts of our relationship. I'm not thinking about dating anyone at the moment, but when I try to think about dating again, let alone trying to find a partner I'm compatible with who's ALSO in the fandom I get exhausted. I love all the friends I've made here, and things I've learned but... ugh. Sometimes I wish that hadn't happened because it's like, now I can't go back, you know?

Do you all have days where you wish you were never introduced to the fandom?
Or, how important to you is it that prospective partners are also in the fandom?
 

Sylox

boi...chill out!
There are days where I wonder what life would be like if I didn't join, but I wouldn't say I've gotten to the point where I've wished that I never joined in the first place. In regards to a partner, I'd rather have somebody who's also in the fandom or at the very least, knows what it's about and isn't a judgmental asshole about it.
 
It doesn't matter to me at all whether or not I date a furry. My current partner is a non-furry who is very critical of the fandom. We don't always see eye-to-eye on things, but we actually agree a lot about what annoys us or bothers us about the fandom. He was uncomfortable at first, but he has let me to embrace the fandom because of how it has affected my drawing skill. I find that drawing in the fandom has motivated me to improve.

I've never thought about not wanting to be in the fandom because its not an important part of my life. Although I do dedicate a lot of time to it through drawing and socializing, ultimately its my art itself and my relationships themselves that are most important to me, not the vehicle that brought me there if that makes sense.
 

Charrio

Artistic Mouse
I think a partner should definitely have similar tastes, maybe not in furry but many places where it makes you, YOU.
For me, I need someone who enjoys animation and comics, but also can tolerate my Adult art works and commissions.

They needn't be a furry but probably would be way more compatible as they would know what i am talking about.

As to if i wish i hadn't joined the fandom.
Well I was a furry way before the fandom really came together, before the Internet and dial up modems.
I've always loved animals and since a kid wanted to draw, didn't have the courage to try till about 12ish.
I was wanting to get better then the comics i saw at the time, which to be honest weren't very good compared to
the works here at FA by the wonderful artists who share their works, for free mind you.

So nope, always a furry and even if there was no fandom I'd still be one, just more of a animal specialized cartoonist.
Funny Animal Drawings is what it would be, the term way before Furry was a genre
 
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Filter

Scallywag
I'm glad I found the fandom, and I think it would be fun to date another fur. We could encourage each other and do random furry themed things together. What's not to like about that? I've only dated non-furs in the past, and I realize that the fandom demographics aren't exactly in my favor, but I'd love to date a fur someday. So much potential for awesomeness.
 
Honestly I don't really see being a furry as something I need to drop out of ,mostly because I keep it mainly on the internet but also because how quickly I moved through fandoms ( well more..idk gaming fandoms?) when I was younger until I reached scalie territory , then I transferred into the furry fandom a month or so later. So I could just drop out of the whole thing and move on too something else in the span of a week although I'm pretty settled on the fandom now so I'm probably here to stay.

Also I don't have a partner but if I did I probably wouldn't even mention the fandom unless they found out/brought the topic up.
 

Charrio

Artistic Mouse
Also I don't have a partner but if I did I probably wouldn't even mention the fandom unless they found out/brought the topic up.

I think that would be a bad move, since keeping secrets is never good.
They don't have to enjoy furry like you do, but they should definitely know and know it's part of
what you like and makes you happy.

Just as you would want to know about their hobbies, which you may have no interest in just as they
might not like furry. Its the whole you have to look at not the what you like in interests.

God i hope that makes sense, I had to rethink it a bit.
 

SkyboundTerror

Thrashing About
The fandom hasn't been a negative factor in my life, at least not yet. I do get teased by friends because I'm "in" the fandom, but that's the extent of it.
 
Its understandable for people to want to date someone who is a part of the fandom - meeting people with similar interests at events geared towards those interests is usually how a lot of relationships start, yeah? But I think its impractical to narrow your scope to JUST people within the fandom. You could date someone from another fandom and they'd at least be familiar with yours & what yours is like (probably)
 
I think that would be a bad move, since keeping secrets is never good.
They don't have to enjoy furry like you do, but they should definitely know and know it's part of
what you like and makes you happy.

Just as you would want to know about their hobbies, which you may have no interest in just as they
might not like furry. Its the whole you have to look at not the what you like in interests.

God i hope that makes sense, I had to rethink it a bit.

I could probably live without being in the fandom and happy but you make a good case , I'm pretty paranoid about the whole telling people I'm a furry thing because people in my area will always think of whatever stereotype you fit into and a lot of them are assholes. I'll keep it under my hat for now because I don't feel like being known as being into beastility and being gay aswell as my usual assumed stereotypes: posh ,quiet , emo and a nerd.

^^ don't ask me about the emo one but some people think I am one :/
 

Charrio

Artistic Mouse
I could probably live without being in the fandom and happy but you make a good case , I'm pretty paranoid about the whole telling people I'm a furry thing because people in my area will always think of whatever stereotype you fit into and a lot of them are assholes. I'll keep it under my hat for now because I don't feel like being known as being into beastility and being gay aswell as my usual assumed stereotypes: posh ,quiet , emo and a nerd.

^^ don't ask me about the emo one but some people think I am one :/

I'm really sorry you have to deal with harassment like that.
It really sucks we can't just be ourselves in public and not be considered
a freak who sexualizes animals.

But to be honest, if my dog looked like the furry babes i draw, hell yeah I'd tap that lol
I'm really lucky as in, I was always an outsider freak. My keeping to myself and drawing was
ignored or praised when i drew video game art, like Mortal Kombat or such. Oh I drew ALOT
and i mean ALOT of the Chipettes in the covers of my textbooks. There was never was a complaint
for that either, made me smile.

My parents were just happy i found something i was passionate about and could find happiness with.
As being alone and sullen was where i was before i learned to lose myself in my own world and draw.
 
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I'm really sorry you have to deal with harassment like that.
It really sucks we can't just be ourselves in public and not be considered
a freak who sexualizes animals.

But to be honest, if my dog looked like the furry babes i draw, hell yeah I'd tap that lol
I'm really lucky as in, I was always an outsider freak. My keeping to myself and drawing was
ignored or praised when i drew video game art, like Mortal Kombat or such.

My parents were just happy i found something i was passionate about and could find happiness with.
As being alone and sullen was where i was before i learned to lose myself in my own world and draw.

Oops sorry there , did you think I'm bullied? Just making clear im in high school and there's essentially a group of people who ( I refer too as assholes but their more idiots) literally make up something mean for anyone , e.g in my first year of high school one of them called me a nerd because I was quiet , however, I taken it with a grain of salt because the coward didn't even say it too my face . I'm not harassed at all , I just know that's what some people think of me...in some ways their right , I can be a posh bastard sometimes :V

If they knew about the furry thing I'd probably become a lot more aggressive because I don't like things being assumed about my sexuality , especially when their purposely pissing me off ( I don't mind you guys having a joke around :3)
 

Ryouzen

Vanguard of Solitude
Personally I actually wish i'd known about it sooner haha. But thats because i had the idea in my head for a few years. As for partners honestly I'd really like them to be a furry. It would be a lot less awkward should the topic come up haha. But so long as they are open to it I couldn't care less. I wouldn't really mention it until later on, and that would be because of my art being of furries haha.
 

Mintys

Member
Being a furry is something I'd be iffy on sharing, outside myself only one other person knows that I associate with the fandom and that my boy. He's not a furry, he looked into it and knows about the fandom, and he even has a sona that a friend made him but he does not draw or write so I think that's the reason he couldn't get into it.

When we first started dating he looked up one of my old nicknames and found my da accounts then commented furries in front of me. He's big into games and a lot of his online friends were furries.. I think that's how that happened anyways, I'm not sure when he found out but he knows everything about it now and even looks over what I draw to give me hints on what can be fixed. We have full conversations about the fandom too, mostly about the things that piss me off but it's fun.


I love the art,characters, and stories about this fandom. If anything the reason I wouldn't want to be involved in it is because I'll probably never go to a con without my face being covered. Yep. I'm that worried about my privacy and coworkers.
 

Traven V

Luna-tic.
Not really but I agree with others I wish I would of found it sooner.
 

Harbinger

The Last of Us.
To be honest i think it'd just be easier to date another fur, not just because of the shared interest angle but more so that you dont have to over explain your furry porn collection to them...
 

Maelstrom Eyre

Ahmoua Wolf
I don't consider the fandom something to join or drop out of like a club.

To me, it's just the fact that I enjoy stories and art that use animal characters with human-like personalities and characteristics. I liked it before I met my (non-furry) significant other and I am not going to stop liking it just because he isn't a furry. No more than any other hobby, really.

Though I agree it is a good thing to share some interests with your SO and have things in common, at least for me, it doesn't matter that he isn't interested. He likes things that don't interest me that much but I don't try to discourage him from following those interests.

I can see how it might interfere if one partner is heavily into fursuiting, going to Cons, spending money on art, etc. if the other has no interest and may be a little resentful if they feel that a lot of money is going to fund the furry person's "hobby." Again, though, it could just as well be any other hobby - I have a horse and had some difficulty in past relationships with guys who had no interest in horses or riding because they did not understand the time and expense involved in owning a horse. One of them became almost jealous, he expected me to spend all my free time with him and only do the things he enjoyed (which, to me, were boring). Fortunately, my sig-other and I both have horses now so we just go riding together, spend time working around the barn and pasture, etc. He understands how much work horses are so I never get "guilted" by him.

There are some things in a relationship you just have to compromise on, but be wary of those partners who try to control what you are "allowed" to like, whether it is music or a movie or art or a hobby. Or, being in a fandom.
 

Logan Who

Professional Ninja'ing Victim
well, I really wished I had discovered the fandom earlier, and will definitely not quit for a long while.

I can imagine though it would have been an issue with some of my earlier relationship partners, because, to be frank, they were quite... mainstream people. You know, those that resent anything not mainstream and "publicly accepted".

And yeah, I am damn glad my current gf has no problem with the furry fandom :D
 

Alexxx-Returns

The Sergal that Didn't Vore
To be honest I'm more intent on finding a partner who shares my interest in the sciences than any other shared interest.

I also very much wish I'd found the fandom sooner. It's like a second home for me and I'd only ever leave if everybody else jumped ship and I was the last person involved.
 

Renarde

Little Fox
Iunno I just found that there were certain perks of dating a furry that would be hard to replicate with someone outside the fandom. I wouldn't be opposed to dating someone outside the fandom obviously, but like... there are some things I'd definitely be aware I was missing out on. And now it's like... hard to think about not doing those things.
At the same time I adore the fandom, and I wouldn't be able to give it up in either case, I don't think.
 

Crunchy_Bat

Incoherent Babble Master
I feel I would agree with the original post, If my current relationship were to end, I would find it incredibly difficult to date a non furry individual. It's not something you generally want to bring up on the first date with some one who isn't a furry. And the freedom coupled with the shared interest in the furry fandom my current relationship gives me is awesome, just. Awesome. I don't think I would be easily convinced to give dating a non fur a try. No sir, furry love is best love <3
 

Astrium

King of the Noodles
The only people I know of who suspect/know I'm a furry are my one artist friend who always makes me feel bad about my drawing skills and the people in my Kik chat who are into infinitely weirder things than furries (except the other guy who is one). The only reason most of them know or have an idea is because I ask them to critique my drawings. Unless I actually know someone else here IRL and they deduced who I am through the various clues I've given around the site, nobody IRL knows I have an FA(F) account yet.
 

Charrio

Artistic Mouse
The only people I know of who suspect/know I'm a furry are my one artist friend who always makes me feel bad about my drawing skills and the people in my Kik chat who are into infinitely weirder things than furries (except the other guy who is one). The only reason most of them know or have an idea is because I ask them to critique my drawings. Unless I actually know someone else here IRL and they deduced who I am through the various clues I've given around the site, nobody IRL knows I have an FA(F) account yet.

*hugs* Sorry you have had someone ridicule your art skills. It can be very hard to hear and take, as we are our own worst critics.
I think you show promise, and I'll be watching so I can see you grow as an artist. That and to hopefully make a new friend.
 
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