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Okami_No_Heishi

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KiaraTC said:
It's hard for me to deal with bullying now too, because people found out i'm in special ed, and found out I had a panic attack a few weeks ago. Now every time anyone says anything to me, they say "Careful, guys, she might hyperventalate and cry!"
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Dang girl. *hugs you* I am so sorry! Do your folks know this crap is going on?
 
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Okami_No_Heishi

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KiaraTC said:
It's hard for me to deal with bullying now too, because people found out i'm in special ed, and found out I had a panic attack a few weeks ago. Now every time anyone says anything to me, they say "Careful, guys, she might hyperventalate and cry!"
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And please dont cry. That gives those fuckers power. But I know it hurts when people are so mean and cruel to you. I dealt with some bullying growing up. Looking back now, I take solace knowing that all those assholes are either flippin hamburgers or are fucked up on meth or crack.
 
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Okami_No_Heishi

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KiaraTC said:
Yes, but they said they can't do shit about it.
Its an entropy...
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Our son was being bullied. Had to pry it out of him. We knew something was wrong. Finally he told us, and bhutrflai basically went up there and raised bloody hell. The kid was removed from his class. We dont tolerate that shit. Your parents only option is to demand it stop or tell them that they will go to the superintendant or state level. They will change their minds about helping you.
 
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BahgDaddy

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KiaraTC said:
I'm pissed right now.
I'm gonna rant here about bullying.
So, at my school, i'm told that selling my body would be the only way I would ever earn any respect or money, either that or I should "slit my wrists to do everyone a favor" by the same girls. And apparently its MY FAULT because I defended myself! What the hell! I'm actually crying right now what the hell. Every single day i'm told that i'm ignorant and ugly and that no one will ever love me, and if I say one little thing back or tell them to shut up its MY fault? Oh my fucking god what the fuck. A few days ago I was asked by some ignorant asshole to suck him off, and I told him he was an ignorant fuckboy for saying that, and it was my fault. You know what was done about this? NOTHING. I got detention and he got off scot free because I said something back. I'm so fucking pissed off right now
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Oh no, that really sucks sweetie! You don't deserve to have guys telling you shit like that. I can't stand the immature bullying atmosphere of high schools in this country, it's terrible really. You just have to keep in mind your own sense of self worth and realize that you're a person worthy of respect, and even if other people won't (they often won't), you should know that you are a person worthy of respect and dignity.
 
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Okami_No_Heishi

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BahgDaddy said:
Oh no, that really sucks sweetie! You don't deserve to have guys telling you shit like that. I can't stand the immature bullying atmosphere of high schools in this country, it's terrible really. You just have to keep in mind your own sense of self worth and realize that you're a person worthy of respect, and even if other people won't (they often won't), you should know that you are a person worthy of respect and dignity.
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That's the TRUTH right there!
 
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Kiaara

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Okami_No_Heishi said:
And please dont cry. That gives those fuckers power. But I know it hurts when people are so mean and cruel to you. I dealt with some bullying growing up. Looking back now, I take solace knowing that all those assholes are either flippin hamburgers or are fucked up on meth or crack.
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Thats the only thought that brings my comfort. It feels like i'm in a battle between my own sense of whats right against my own self doubt. Its like the two are battling in my heart and head and each time I lose a little bit of myself... It gets hard to breathe sometimes because of it... Its fucked up what ten years of bullying has done to myself... I used to be a good person and now I just feel like an isolated husk of what I once was. Sometimes I feel like theres no hope for me, but my own mind has joined the battle. I'm pushing so hard to try and get rid of these thoughts of self doubt, but each time I take a step forward and try to help myself for the good, something bad happens and I completely lose myself again.
Okami_No_Heishi said:
Our son was being bullied. Had to pry it out of him. We knew something was wrong. Finally he told us, and bhutrflai basically went up there and raised bloody hell. The kid was removed from his class. We dont tolerate that shit. Your parents only option is to demand it stop or tell them that they will go to the superintendant or state level. They will change their minds about helping you.
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My dad and step mom would be the ones to care about this, but they can't do anything. My parents never married, and shortly after I was born, my mom turned against her religion and her love and went with the psychopath i'm forced to deal with known as a step dad. My step dad's parents were never around for him, so now he just lashes out at me and my little sister a lot. Once, he locked me in a room with nothing but a mattress and two sets of clothes. No bed frame, no nothing. My real dad can't do anything about this because my entire family is in a tight situation when it comes to money. Getting my help requires a lawyer, and a lawyer is a lot of cash. I'd get my mom to help me, but she is never home, and when she is, she's sleeping. She works third shift to support me, my sister, and a mooching step father.
BahgDaddy said:
Oh no, that really sucks sweetie! You don't deserve to have guys telling you shit like that. I can't stand the immature bullying atmosphere of high schools in this country, it's terrible really. You just have to keep in mind your own sense of self worth and realize that you're a person worthy of respect, and even if other people won't (they often won't), you should know that you are a person worthy of respect and dignity.
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Thank you.
 
bhutrflai

bhutrflai

Okami The Wolf is my crazy half!
KiaraTC said:
It's hard for me to deal with bullying now too, because people found out i'm in special ed, and found out I had a panic attack a few weeks ago. Now every time anyone says anything to me, they say "Careful, guys, she might hyperventalate and cry!"
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Hey girl! First off, nice to make your acquaintance! Band Geeks Unite!!

Second, high school sucks. It's all about people trying to bring others down to make themselves feel better. I got plenty of shit for being in the band, for not wearing the cool clothes, for just being me. And it messed me up for a long time. (And i am a very emotional cryer, so i feel ya.)

But once your done there & you get out into the world, you won't ever have to think about or see those shitty people again.

Keep your chin up, sweetie. This too shall pass. And high school does get a bit easier to cope with every year, btw. The shitty ones always find it easier to pick on newbies. You'll find your feet one day, and then you can just tell them to go to hell, flip your hair, and walk away.

Gotta go find you a video real quick...brb.
 
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Kiaara

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bhutrflai said:
Hey girl! First off, nice to make your acquaintance! Band Geeks Unite!!

Second, high school sucks. It's all about people trying to bring others down to make themselves feel better. I got plenty of shit for being in the band, for not wearing the cool clothes, for just being me. And it messed me up for a long time. (And i am a very emotional cryer, so i feel ya.)

But once your done there & you get out into the world, you won't ever have to think about or see those shitty people again.

Keep your chin up, sweetie. This too shall pass. And high school does get a bit easier to cope with every year, btw. The shitty ones always find it easier to pick on newbies. You'll find your feet one day, and then you can just tell them to go to hell, flip your hair, and walk away.

Gotta go find you a video real quick...brb.
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I envy the day i'll be in marching band, and I aim to be the best bass clarinet! I want to show those bastards that i'm more than they say I am. I'll keep practicing until the day that they realise that maybe some people will crack under pressure. I try my hardest not to let it get to me.
 
bhutrflai

bhutrflai

Okami The Wolf is my crazy half!
KiaraTC said:
I envy the day i'll be in marching band, and I aim to be the best bass clarinet! I want to show those bastards that i'm more than they say I am. I'll keep practicing until the day that they realise that maybe some people will crack under pressure. I try my hardest not to let it get to me.
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It's so hard to keep everything in check, especially when other people are around. I still have lots of those moments. Teenage years are the hardest in my opinion. But thank the gods, it's a fairly short time.

Believe in you. That's all that matters. No one else's opinion can affect you unless you let it.

And like I said, they're just being shitty to make themselves feel better.

I personally think you are pretty bad ass cause the clarinet is not an easy instrument.
 
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Okami_No_Heishi

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KiaraTC said:
Thats the only thought that brings my comfort. It feels like i'm in a battle between my own sense of whats right against my own self doubt. Its like the two are battling in my heart and head and each time I lose a little bit of myself... It gets hard to breathe sometimes because of it... Its fucked up what ten years of bullying has done to myself... I used to be a good person and now I just feel like an isolated husk of what I once was. Sometimes I feel like theres no hope for me, but my own mind has joined the battle. I'm pushing so hard to try and get rid of these thoughts of self doubt, but each time I take a step forward and try to help myself for the good, something bad happens and I completely lose myself again.

My dad and step mom would be the ones to care about this, but they can't do anything. My parents never married, and shortly after I was born, my mom turned against her religion and her love and went with the psychopath i'm forced to deal with known as a step dad. My step dad's parents were never around for him, so now he just lashes out at me and my little sister a lot. Once, he locked me in a room with nothing but a mattress and two sets of clothes. No bed frame, no nothing. My real dad can't do anything about this because my entire family is in a tight situation when it comes to money. Getting my help requires a lawyer, and a lawyer is a lot of cash. I'd get my mom to help me, but she is never home, and when she is, she's sleeping. She works third shift to support me, my sister, and a mooching step father.

Thank you.
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Just remember! Before too long, tmyou will be done with all that crap. You will be an adult! Don't give up!! Don't ever give up! I gave up a few times in my life, and I regret it. But life and karma have their own plans for you. I would have never been with bhutrflai if I hadnt given up on the Marine Corp. I never would have had these two wonderful kids. I once almost gave up on life! But I had an epiphany that THERE WAS SOMETHING MORE FOR ME! I just had to go out there into the world AND LIVE! And I did. And now here I am! 20 something years later, HAPPY! I AM HAPPY. Times are still tough, money is still tight, worries abound, but I AM TRULY HAPPY WITH MY LIFE BECAUSE ME AND BHUTRFLAI ARE ONE HELLUVA TEAM!!!*hugs* dont ever give up!
 
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aloveablebunny

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@KiaraTC ;

I was bullied badly in school. I can relate to you.

Kids can be very cruel. And it can be almost impossible to ignore what gets said.

Please remember that their behavior speaks only of them, and not of you.

It's really hard to look past it, but please do whatever you can to be the bigger person.

Bullies are cowards. Nothing but COWARDS.
 
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BahgDaddy

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KiaraTC said:
Thats the only thought that brings my comfort. It feels like i'm in a battle between my own sense of whats right against my own self doubt. Its like the two are battling in my heart and head and each time I lose a little bit of myself... It gets hard to breathe sometimes because of it... Its fucked up what ten years of bullying has done to myself... I used to be a good person and now I just feel like an isolated husk of what I once was. Sometimes I feel like theres no hope for me, but my own mind has joined the battle. I'm pushing so hard to try and get rid of these thoughts of self doubt, but each time I take a step forward and try to help myself for the good, something bad happens and I completely lose myself again.

My dad and step mom would be the ones to care about this, but they can't do anything. My parents never married, and shortly after I was born, my mom turned against her religion and her love and went with the psychopath i'm forced to deal with known as a step dad. My step dad's parents were never around for him, so now he just lashes out at me and my little sister a lot. Once, he locked me in a room with nothing but a mattress and two sets of clothes. No bed frame, no nothing. My real dad can't do anything about this because my entire family is in a tight situation when it comes to money. Getting my help requires a lawyer, and a lawyer is a lot of cash. I'd get my mom to help me, but she is never home, and when she is, she's sleeping. She works third shift to support me, my sister, and a mooching step father.

Thank you.
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I know what this is like and what it can do to a person, vicariously. My mom suffered bullying in school as a student, and worse, the at-home situation was, well, just use your imagination. Basically all the people who were supposed to take care of her abused her in many numerous manners. She never got any support from them and eventually ran away from home when she was 16. So I know very well what a bad home situation can do to a person. The only thing a person can do is strive for a better future. It can happen. It does happen. My mom managed to get rid of all the abuse and drama from her life. It absolutely can be done.

And bullying basically does that to you - even though you know they're wrong, those words dig into your mind like knives and they can be really, really hard to get back out. You just have to keep in mind why these people bully.

Let's employ some psychology. Why do people bully? Because they're upset, depressed, angry, agitated, frustrated. Many of them probably have really bad at-home lives. They want to bring people down to their level, because when people around them feel bad, they feel less bad about their own situations. They may also feel very out of control with their lives. Someone like you is just an easy target so they can feel like they have some control over their lives.

And you might not feel like you have too much control, as well, but you do. You can choose how those people impact you. You can choose to ignore them if, fundamentally, you know they're wrong when they say bad things about you, because they are wrong.
 
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Kiaara

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Okami_No_Heishi said:
Just remember! Before too long, tmyou will be done with all that crap. You will be an adult! Don't give up!! Don't ever give up! I gave up a few times in my life, and I regret it. But life and karma have their own plans for you. I would have never been with bhutrflai if I hadnt given up on the Marine Corp. I never would have had these two wonderful kids. I once almost gave up on life! But I had an epiphany that THERE WAS SOMETHING MORE FOR ME! I just had to go out there into the world AND LIVE! And I did. And now here I am! 20 something years later, HAPPY! I AM HAPPY. Times are still tough, money is still tight, worries abound, but I AM TRULY HAPPY WITH MY LIFE BECAUSE ME AND BHUTRFLAI ARE ONE HELLUVA TEAM!!!*hugs* dont ever give up!
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aloveablebunny said:
@KiaraTC ;

I was bullied badly in school. I can relate to you.

Kids can be very cruel. And it can be almost impossible to ignore what gets said.

Please remember that their behavior speaks only of them, and not of you.

It's really hard to look past it, but please do whatever you can to be the bigger person.

Bullies are cowards. Nothing but COWARDS.
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Everyone here is so god damn amazing <3
Thank you all for these kind words and encouragement! :)
You're all so nice and understanding its truly amazing <3
 
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Kiaara

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BahgDaddy said:
I know what this is like and what it can do to a person, vicariously. My mom suffered bullying in school as a student, and worse, the at-home situation was, well, just use your imagination. Basically all the people who were supposed to take care of her abused her in many numerous manners. She never got any support from them and eventually ran away from home when she was 16. So I know very well what a bad home situation can do to a person. The only thing a person can do is strive for a better future. It can happen. It does happen. My mom managed to get rid of all the abuse and drama from her life. It absolutely can be done.

And bullying basically does that to you - even though you know they're wrong, those words dig into your mind like knives and they can be really, really hard to get back out. You just have to keep in mind why these people bully.

Let's employ some psychology. Why do people bully? Because they're upset, depressed, angry, agitated, frustrated. Many of them probably have really bad at-home lives. They want to bring people down to their level, because when people around them feel bad, they feel less bad about their own situations. They may also feel very out of control with their lives. Someone like you is just an easy target so they can feel like they have some control over their lives.

And you might not feel like you have too much control, as well, but you do. You can choose how those people impact you. You can choose to ignore them if, fundamentally, you know they're wrong when they say bad things about you, because they are wrong.
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I know they're wrong





Can't wait until i'm twenty something and I walk into a McDonalds and see my childhood bullies working the registers
I just can't wait :D
 
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