My boyfriend's upset about something, won't tell me what, now I'm at risk of making him cry in front of his family where I'm trying to prod the info out of him... Dammit, what do I do?
If someone is ever sad you must let them know that it is unbearable to know that if they are sad you feel like it is your responsibility to make them joyful. Let them know how hard it is for you to know that they are sad. Let them know you will do everything you can to make them happy.
But let them know that if they are unhappy it's hard to find happiness in yourself because they are someone you have responsibility taking care of and if they are sad you feel like you are not doing your job as a person.
I was depressed for four years but never told anyone because i wasn't going to kill myself because of my immense fear of death and life was miserable. I thought if i'm not hurting myself it's not a problem.
Also (apparently this is for the most part is a east coast america thing sounds odd to anyone who isn't from there from everyone i talked to this about).
Don't do this now obviously but say things like ayyyy come here you stinker or something along the lines of that. Not with seriousness but in a joking tone then maybe chuckle. It's good to know that if someone would not like you or based a negative aspect of you that they are such a great person as a whole that you find it humorous that someone could think that.