A poll inspired by that. Out of curiosity, what's the personal space you need to feel comfortable? Crowded places like public transport or mass events doesn't count!
Personal space
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Evan of Phrygia
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It's super contextual for me. Most people I try to maintain at least a foot or two in most to all situations, but I won't complain if circumstances demand closer.
However for a particular circle of friends, there is plenty of lap sitting, cuddles and so on to be had. However that one is definitely a very small group and more often than not I don't feel that comfortable with it unless they're gay or a guy who's okay with it. I've cuddled with girls but it just makes me nervous.
However for a particular circle of friends, there is plenty of lap sitting, cuddles and so on to be had. However that one is definitely a very small group and more often than not I don't feel that comfortable with it unless they're gay or a guy who's okay with it. I've cuddled with girls but it just makes me nervous.
Kerocola
Member
I agree, it depends on the situation. I don't mind being on a crowded bus or in a crowded supermarket (unless said people are the ones that like to just stand in the middle of the aisle and do nothing fhefuhroghrsfNO), but I'd prefer to have a moderate distance from strangers if possible. With friends, there is no such thing as personal space whether you like it or not 
Plastic-Fox
Member
Purely contextual for me. Usually don't even notice it. However if someone gets in my personal space I am hesitant to back up. That's my space - they back up - I can't relinquish control - unless they stink - then I'm OUTTA THERE!
Sarcastic Coffeecup
Hand. Cannot. Erase.
Generally 2m or so unless I know the person. Then it's 1-1,5m
belmonkey
Bel
I've never ever hugged a friend before. The closest I've ever really been to someone is across a table, otherwise we're usually 2+ meters away. The idea of cuddling (or lap sitting) with anyone but a SO seems foreign to me (not that I've been close enough to someone else to want to do something like that). Is it a furry thing to generally have closer contact with others (at least in terms of hugging)?
Fallowfox
Are we moomin, or are we dancer?
I am comfortable being under half a metre from people, in informal situations, and especially if I know them well.
In formal situations, a little bit more space is necessary.
One of my friends tried to stick his finger up my bum, in broad day-light in the street, in front of everybody else, the last time he got drunk.
In formal situations, a little bit more space is necessary.
One of my friends tried to stick his finger up my bum, in broad day-light in the street, in front of everybody else, the last time he got drunk.
Evan of Phrygia
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...so i DO have a british twin...
Hachiro
I'm SeckZ and Frii
It will always depend on the people, you feel comfortable being close to some and want to be away of others, generally, meh you can touch me idc.
Also I don't think anyone would be comfortable having a stranger being all over you...
Friends: Hug
Known people: Hug
Strangers:0.5-1M
Weird people: 1M+ enough if they try something funny to get speed in my arm.
P.S. : What if this subject is put in a con context?
Also I don't think anyone would be comfortable having a stranger being all over you...
Friends: Hug
Known people: Hug
Strangers:0.5-1M
Weird people: 1M+ enough if they try something funny to get speed in my arm.
P.S. : What if this subject is put in a con context?
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Distorted
Active Member
I like to keep a 1.5 m circle out in public. Around friends it goes to zero since they're the hugging kind. I'm ashamed to admit that I've been known to violate other people's personal space when I find them attractive. I gravitate towards them without even realizing it, and had to be told to back up a couple of times. Xp
Schwimmwagen
Well-Known Member
It really depends on the person, but I stay out of crowds if that means anything.
Alexxx-Returns
The Sergal that Didn't Vore
The answer I gave was for the amount of space I want to have NOBODY IN. That 0.5m, or 1m, is for myself.
Unless people are in a crowd, there's no reason to need to get closer than that with people. In school, I was in the lunch queue and someone was squishing RIGHT against me. Not like, brushing against because there's limited space, but REALLY PRESSING THEMSELF ONTO ME. It made me very uncomfortable. I think this person had no concept of personal space, for themself or for others. Since then I've been pretty hot on having my space.
Unless people are in a crowd, there's no reason to need to get closer than that with people. In school, I was in the lunch queue and someone was squishing RIGHT against me. Not like, brushing against because there's limited space, but REALLY PRESSING THEMSELF ONTO ME. It made me very uncomfortable. I think this person had no concept of personal space, for themself or for others. Since then I've been pretty hot on having my space.
Kitsune Cross
**** that **** now! Bitch
Outside of the jab distance, I don't want you to touch me, not even by accident, this is different when talking about a girl obviously.
SkyboundTerror
Thrashing About
I don't care enough to have personal space. I'm okay with friends, even strangers, being up in my grill. Just don't try anything funny.
Maelstrom Eyre
Ahmoua Wolf
Depends how well I know them, but generally I don't like talking to people who are right up in my face or staring at me.
Feste
I haven't found an answer yet
Why are the Italians vibrating ? Does that happen often if you put two Italians in the same room with each other? I hope their explosion is made of vodka sauce.
Anyway, I think 1m sounds about right, 1.5m with strangers. I might give a bro-hug or 2, but generally I like my space.
? Does that happen often if you put two Italians in the same room with each other? I hope their explosion is made of vodka sauce.Anyway, I think 1m sounds about right, 1.5m with strangers. I might give a bro-hug or 2, but generally I like my space.
