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Should I protect my friend?

Distorted

Active Member
So not as serious as it sounds, but I'm a bit torn about this...

Y'see I have a coworker that I've gotten to be really good friends with. We recently came from an anime convention, and he says that he would love to go to another one. So he always ask me when another convention is. I told him that there wouldn't be any more anime conventions close by for a while, and as a joke I mentioned an upcoming furry convention that would be near us. He told me that he wouldn't mind going to one, which had me not so much worried mind you but rather........well I don't know.

Shortly upon meeting me, he told me of a certain fetish that he had. One that's very prevalent in the fandom. I don't even know what possessed him to tell me something so personal, but it didn't really bother me any. I figured that he'd already seen some of this kind of thing, but since he has limited access to the internet he's only seen manga depicting his little kink.

I guess what my concern is is that I don't want to turn him into one of those furries that just look at the fandom to fuel they're sexual desires. I know if we go to the convention he will see pictures......and he will like them. A lot. And he's really bad with money. He'd probably blow his whole wallet on stuff like he did on our last convention. I really care about this guy a lot and I just want the best for him...........in a brotherly sort of manner. Basically I don't want him to turn into.......me. :confused:

So how should I handle this? Do I just stop worrying about this and let what happens happen? Or should I intervene and keep him from the furry plague? I feel as though I might be overthinking this (as usual) so feel free to tell me if I'm being dumb.
 

Dreaming

Member
Shortly upon meeting me, he told me of a certain fetish that he had. One that's very prevalent in the fandom. I don't even know what possessed him to tell me something so personal, but it didn't really bother me any. I figured that he'd already seen some of this kind of thing, but since he has limited access to the internet he's only seen manga depicting his little kink.
...interesting, what's the kink?

Anyway, protect them against what? How old is your friend? Presumably old enough to take care of himself. So, No, there's no need to protect him. There's nothing to protect him against.
 
I live with these words in my mind "We live among men yet we all die alone." What does this mean to you? All this is is my way of finding your outlook on life.
 
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Kaamos

Guest
No, let him make his own decisions. Even if they are the wrong ones.
 

Distorted

Active Member
...interesting, what's the kink?

Anyway, protect them against what? How old is your friend? Presumably old enough to take care of himself. So, No, there's no need to protect him. There's nothing to protect him against.

He's into transformations. male to female specifically.

And I guess I don't need to protect him. He's 19 after all. I just don't want him to get any grief over this is all.

thenerdymathpimp said:
I live with these words in my mind "We live among men yet we all die alone." What does this mean to you?

Umm, that I shouldn't care 2 pharts and a snort about my coworker because eventually I'll die alone?
 
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He's into transformations. male to female specifically.

And I guess I don't need to protect him. He's 19 after all. I just don't want him to get any grief over this is all.

I believe that he trusted you enough to tell you somthing that he needed to talk about. It must be bothering him in some way. He may be looking tords you as guide. Or He is looking to see if you accept him the way he is.
 

Brazen

Terrorist Scum
Why are you worried, is he going to plaster your common work area with porn?
 

ziK

Member
wait a second, you're telling me there isn't a significant chunk of the fandom dedicated to pornography?

THINK OF THE CHILDREN
 
He's into transformations. male to female specifically.

And I guess I don't need to protect him. He's 19 after all. I just don't want him to get any grief over this is all.



Umm, that I shouldn't care 2 pharts and a snort about my coworker because eventually I'll die alone?


Thank you answering my question. If you realy want to let him brave the lion pit alone be my guest. but the way i see it you should point him in the right direction. By right direction i mean in whichever way helps him in your way of looking at the situation. I suggest that you take him for a hour or so so he cant have time to buy the stuff you talked about.
 

Bipolar Bear

Phallus Fellater
If I were you, I'd defend him. No matter what. I mean, if he wants to blow all his money away on Furry pics and merchandise just for the sake of fapping to it later, then I would be in no place to stop him. Sure, I might think that protecting him is the best solution. But then I think about what he wants to do. I would see how far down the track he'll go. And if he falls over and loses sight of where he was going, THEN I'd go help him up and put him in a new direction.

However, I'm in no place to make judgements and decisions either. But can I give you some sound advice? Do what you're heart wants you to do. Not what your brain is telling you to do. I have lived this way my whole life, and I have always been on the good side of Karma. Think about what would happen if you did protect him. Think about what would happen if you didn't.

Think about this for a while, Distorted.
 

sunandshadow

Impractical Fantasy Animal
Don't worry about it. Keeping someone ignorant != protecting them. You're still pretty young so you probably haven't seen it from experience, but generally people who dive into a fetish or hobby will get bored of it after a few years due to it just not being new and interesting any more. Being able to put money and enthusiasm into a new interest is one of the simple joys in life, if its not to the extreme of going into debt or the interest isn't something too destructive.
 

Bipolar Bear

Phallus Fellater

Viridis

Avatar by Soryane
And he's really bad with money. He'd probably blow his whole wallet on stuff like he did on our last convention.

I don't see why this would be so wrong. He would get exactly what he paid for, and anyone selling something would love him for his extravagant purchases.

Although, he would end up poor and he might blame you. You would have to tell him that it's not your fault that he bought something he wanted.

IMO, I would warn him that there will be things for sale that include his kink. If you do go to a con, it might also be best to take his wallet; you know, like taking away car keys from someone who's drunk.
 

BouncyOtter

Member
If he want's to know more, I think talking to him about it wouldn't hurt but you should steer him in the right direction.
 

Fay V

Lost to this world
He's not a toddler, you don't need to try and protect him from something he might enjoy or watch his money for him. It's nice that you care for you friend but you're treating this like he's a drug addict on the edge of relapse. If he goes near TF then in about a week he'll be giving handjobs in the parking lot for commission money. NO

No you shouldn't try to guide him on what you think is best. After all, what do you know anyway? Just let your friend have some fun, he's an adult and if he fucks up with his money then that's on him.
 

Kitutal

cute newbie kitten
I myself got into the fandom through my own fetish and recently have been finding myself spending a substantial amount on it, though part of that is investing in a small business (one secret to keeping interest in one fetish is to keep trying newer and bigger things in it) and i have very much enjoyed the results of this, been the best few months ive had, as much for the friends ive met here as anything else, but now with the money running low im thinking of slowing down for a few months and enjoying what i have.
I would reccomend letting them see what the fandom can offer them, and particularly the free art available on this site and others, take them to the con but casually advise them not to spend too much, that is what friends are for, and make sure you reassure them that you accept them as they are. Dont try to take so much control over their life and force them to follow one route unless you sre seriously concerned things will go terribly for them with no hope of anything better, not least because they will wonder what you are hiding from them, and then what will you say.
Take it carefully, make sure you are there to advise amd guide them. Good luck to both of you.
 

Aetius

It's Me Gordon, Barney from Black Mesa
Turn him in to the nearest office of the inquisition :V
 

Verin Asper

The Smart Idiot
male to female...thats more prevalent in animu than furries :V
and also your friend need to make their own decisions, if anything just warn them so you wont feel guilty for not not...well warning em.
 

RayO_ElGatubelo

My gif animation doesn't work
He's into transformations. male to female specifically.
My advice to you is HOLY HELL WHERE CAN I GO MEET THIS DUDE, HE'S AWESOME!
 

ElectricBlue1989

Living a Boy's Adventure Tale
I say it depends on his personality. If he has the type of personality that gets seriously hooked on stuff, then do something within acceptable limits as a friend (only you know said limits), not a parent. In the case of porn, it can get to be just as addictive as any drug. If he gets tired of it, naturally he may try something different (read: stronger). I don't wanna see an update on this to find out that he's arrested due to trying something really messed up (apply worst case scenario here). Just because the select few answering in this thread have alleged control of their fetishes doesn't mean it may be the same with this guy. This isn't to cause you to worry, the guy may not be like this at all.

He's been really open with ya, right? Now it's your turn. Tell him how you feel. If he's in denial, show him evidence (example: all the stuff bought at last convention/being broke for awhile afterwards). Talk things out, guy to guy. Come to an agreement if you have to.

Just because he's he's reached adult-age by law doesn't make him instantly mature. Again, you know the guy.

Another thing. Make sure he doesn't end up as a charity case. You care for the guy, but one has got to draw the line (apply definition of said line) if things gets out of hand (over-spending, skewed priorities, blatant bad habits, etc). Call it tough love or something.

On the flip side, nothing may happen. Worse case scenario on this side of the coin would be a total turn-off to the fandom, to say the least. Depends on how wild the convention is. Maybe he'll return to his anime, hopefully avoiding delving into the hardcore stuff.

I may be (am) over-thinking this. Hope any of this helps.
 

Mojotaian

is not impressed...
Deep and meaningful, I like this...

It's not really up to you to "protect him".. So I wouldn't really think three times about introducing him... twice maybe... He SHOULD be old enough to control his finances, I mean seriously... (you can also get a lot for free on the interwebz anyway, but seeing as he has limited access... hmm... finicky)

Good of you to think twice though!
 
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