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Telling my parents im a furry?

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stablercake

a bubblegum pink nose
@stablercake In college all my money goes on tuition, rent and food. No money for suit. :c
Bleh :c I guess my furry denial really helped me out in college since it wasn't on my radar then. You're right though, college isn't the best time for frivolous spending. It sucks but honestly I'm too broke to buy one but intend to make one, although not everyone wants to or can and I understand that, but if not for my willingness to make one I wouldn't be able to buy one for a good long while since freelance art isn't super lucrative for me yet.

Sucks but TBH it's a luxury good which requires luxury budget which most people around 22 and under simply can't afford so maybe it's just not in the cards for a while OP (save for rich understanding parents)
 

Fallowfox

Are we moomin, or are we dancer?
Bleh :c I guess my furry denial really helped me out in college since it wasn't on my radar then. You're right though, college isn't the best time for frivolous spending. It sucks but honestly I'm too broke to buy one but intend to make one, although not everyone wants to or can and I understand that, but if not for my willingness to make one I wouldn't be able to buy one for a good long while since freelance art isn't super lucrative for me yet.

Sucks but TBH it's a luxury good which requires luxury budget which most people around 22 and under simply can't afford so maybe it's just not in the cards for a while OP (save for rich understanding parents)

As soon as I graduate and begin getting an income I'm going to start saving up for a fursuit. I want one more than a nice house or car, lol.
 

Orangecoon

Fly Fly Pizza pie
@stablercake @Fallowfox Well im in college now which is being paid through financial aid and scholarships, so i have a little extra money(i wouldnt use any of my parents money ever). I just dont wanna commission a fursuit, then a couple months it comes in and my parents are dumbfounded. Tbh im not even sure why i want a fursuit(its kinda like my brain just NEEDs it), Ofc id attend cons with it but most of the other uses for them are not in my interests.
 

Fallowfox

Are we moomin, or are we dancer?
@stablercake @Fallowfox Well im in college now which is being paid through financial aid and scholarships, so i have a little extra money(i wouldnt use any of my parents money ever). I just dont wanna commission a fursuit, then a couple months it comes in and my parents are dumbfounded. Tbh im not even sure why i want a fursuit(its kinda like my brain just NEEDs it), Ofc id attend cons with it but most of the other uses for them are not in my interests.

I bought some animal one-piece pajamas and my parents laughed so hard when they were rummaging through my room and found them.
 

Copperwuff

Muzzle Nuzzler
I bought some animal one-piece pajamas and my parents laughed so hard when they were rummaging through my room and found them.
Lol, this is almost me.

Here's how I see it: being a furry isn't something you have to hide. Are you going to sit your friend down and tell them about how you like to play football and you need to come out for it? No, or at least, I hope not because it'd be extremely awkward.

Being in a fandom is a hobby. Wearing a fursuit or being artistic is a hobby. I personally would save up for my own stuff though, not asking my parents.
 

Ozriel

Inglorious Bastard
There's no need to "Come out" of the furry closet. Being a furry isn't much of a big deal, unless you participate in the furry-kink community. Then again, no one needs to know or will care.
However, people in your age group may act a bit on the ambivalent/negative side with furrydom.
 

Fallowfox

Are we moomin, or are we dancer?
There's no need to "Come out" of the furry closet. Being a furry isn't much of a big deal, unless you participate in the furry-kink community. Then again, no one needs to know or will care.
However, people in your age group may act a bit on the ambivalent/negative side with furrydom.

I think I can understand why people wouldn't want to keep their furry proclivities secret, as if it were something nasty.
 
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Deleted member 82554

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Good:
Mom, Dad, I have an interest in Anthropomorphic animals.

Bad:
Mom, Dad, I have an interest in Anthropomorphic animals and I draw porn of them.


This has been a life lesson with, Mr. Fox.
 

SodaBubbles

I will deliver the explosion
I never told my parents. Not really something I gotta tell them.

As for s.o.'s: the guy i've been with 12 years, already into that. the chick i've been with for almost four: she's a convert. used to think it was weiiiiiiiiiiiird but now she likes it and encourages me to draw porn. :D [quick clear up for that sentence: i'm poly]
 

Strangeguy32000

Dack Remus Applewold
What I did was bring up that I was building a fursuit at dinner one night (Friday, as a matter of fact).

They took it surprisingly well, given that the extent of my mom's knowledge of the Furry fandom comes from the CSI episode. ('Course that knowledge might not actually be there anymore on account of the strokes she's had)
 

Wakor

Wakor Jones
I showed my mom all the furry porn i was drawing for money. She was happy i was making money and just told me not to draw cub/child porn. XD
You have reached a level of trust with your mom that I never will. My poor Catholic family can never know.
 

FoxieWoxie

New Member
Why are you approaching this like you're walking on eggshells? You like talking cartoon animals, it's nbd. I wouldn't even bother bringing it up unless it's relevant to the conversation either. If you live with her she'll notice and maybe ask what it is on her own and you can explain it then.

After I split up with my first girlfriend I received 'anonymous' emails containing thinly veiled threats to 'out me' as a furry, lol.

Sounds like a real sweet heart! /s
 

SkyFurCreations

*Revamping The Fandom*
Why the hell does anyone need to "know" you're a furry anyways? If you have an interest in collecting stamps, sea shells or have an interest in contact lenses, it just seems weird to "come out" to somebody about that. How would one even begin?

"Mom... I have something to tell you, MOM, please sit down... ok... for the past few years there's been something about me that I never told you... and I think you need to know..."

If you do that, it makes it sound like it's some sick fetish FOR animals. I think you should just live your life as normal, and if you want to buy ears or a tail, it's just your personal fashion, it's the furry trend. If you want a fursuit, going to Anthrocon is just a place where people express themselves as their unique selves as an animal.

I didn't read any of the comments, so I don't know if I'm repeating something or not.
 

Bidoyinn

Active Member
Just bring them to a furry movie. Like invite them. Tell them you really like furry movies. Or something.
Don't tell them about how you want to boink furries (if you do) and they hopefully won't care? If they're the kind of parents that will hold it against you then don't bother telling them at all, especially if you live with them.

If you live with them they might also find out anyway. Just. Don't make it weird, really.
 

misono-jam

misono.jam @ skype
I don't see any reason to tell my mom I'm a furry.

And even if I did tell her she wouldn't get it. She had a hard enough time accepting me as a bisexual atheist. Even something as innocuous as being a furry would send her brain for a loop.
 

stablercake

a bubblegum pink nose
I don't see any reason to tell my mom I'm a furry.

And even if I did tell her she wouldn't get it. She had a hard enough time accepting me as a bisexual atheist. Even something as innocuous as being a furry would send her brain for a loop.

I like sorta told my mom today bc FWA came up in conversation and she was like halfway trying to convince me I wasn't one and was just doing it to sell artwork to weirdos and I just agreed to avoid having to talk about it lmao
 

Nerine

Member
so i would like to tell my mom im a furry and i kind of would like to buy a fursuit. My mom is relatively close to me and is very accepting and back when i was a brony she didnt mind it all. I dont often go through phases a lot. for example my brony phase which im glad i dont follow anymore went by quick and while on the other hand ive been a furry for about 4 years now and i dont want her to think that im just gunna blow through being a furry like its just a phase. Im just wondering what your guys' input would be on how to tell your parents that youre a furry and if you have, how did you approach telling them?

Buy the fursuit, tell her while in character.
 

Electro⚡Spectrified

Find me on Amino!
A furry is just like an anime-lover only with anthropomorphic characters. They love the art of anime characters. We love the art of anthropomorphic ones. They go to anime cons. We got to furry cons. It's the same thing except focused on a different theme, also the furry fandom has a bunch of dirty stereotypes. They wouldn't care if you said that you like anime. The same should apply to the furry fandom for you. I understand why you would want to "come out", I have a bit of the same feeling too, but I think it's mostly because of the feeling that possibly they already know what the fandom is but have been mislead by the common stereotypes, and will criticize you. And if they do, tell them those are stereotypes, and possibly use research to back you reasoning. If you want to buy a fursuit but don't need their help, I would actually recommend surprising them while wearing it one day, just for the fun of it. (Also, the website needs to update the autocorrect to have the word "fursuit".) Anyway, just do or do not tell them. It's not something you need to tell them, as it's just an art form and hobby just like anime is, but sometimes parents just like to keep up to date on your hobbies and interests.
 
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Inzoreno

The Gentleman Owl
I never 'came out' as a furry to anyone beside a friend of mine who is also one. I cannot imagine actually telling my mom about it, I mean she couldn't accept that I registered as a democrat, or that I am an atheist, she's really not open-minded and there are just some conversations that I know are unlikely to end well.
 

Grddh216

New Member
Actually you don't have to tell them it not a big deal. It's not like your telling them your gay or your pedophile don't take it like that,because if I was a parent my kids said there a furry,I'll said okay why did you tell me that.so don't take it seriously if you want to tell them,do it but nothing will happen okay.
 
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