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Telling my parents

Sergei Nóhomo

Spicey Memes
Banned
also no. I've seen most people use feminine pronouns to describe her. Now back to the topic at hand.

Well mate if it's not 100% known then I'm sticking with dood


Sorry but, wtf is telephone? Is that another American thing ;)
You'll likely find him to be pretty damn obnoxious and childish mate. I don't recommend it
 

_Hushy

Well-Known Member
That was kinda scary to me sorry :p

Edit: to be fair all I saw was fursuit and I'm really not into that, to me it has nothing on good art works.

also no. I've seen most people use feminine pronouns to describe her. Now back to the topic at hand.

Okay on topic, I understand how you feel, scared shitless here. It sounds like they already kind of know though, can you just do it more subtly than 'coming out'. There's nothing wrong with some art work, close off less of what you do, bit by bit. That's all I can suggest, but best of luck :)
 

Troj

Your Friendly Neighborhood Dino Therapist
It saddens me how many people care more about what "tribe" others belong to than whether they are fundamentally kind or good, or--as in the case of parents judging their kids' friends and associates--whether those people treat their loved ones with loyalty and respect.
 

um_pineapplez

Mage of Void, dammit.
I mean, it's only my family I'm having trouble telling. I tend to use both "furry" and "yiff" around my friends, considering I know most of them couldn't care less.
 

KittenAdmin

Sup nerds
So I was on FAF religiously about 7-8 or so years ago, I was a young teen who's father found his huge stash of furry porn. He said to me that everyone has fetishes, some weirder than others. He didn't really care, but he wanted to make sure that older more experienced folks online weren't taking advantage of me, as the community does tend to be rather sexual. I suppose I was rather lucky to have an accepting father.

Plenty of furry folks let being a furry be a large part of their external life, I am not one of these people. My wife and I are both furry, but we tend to keep it in the bedroom and it doesn't really come up unless folks ask.

I know many people try to divide being a furry into something different than a fetish, but for the most part in my opinion it's not. S&M folks, Lolicon, Swingers, if you wear your fetish on your sleeve you'll get some odd looks and have some interesting conversations. Not saying you should be ashamed, but you should try to keep your furry banter with other furries and people who share your interests. You don't know where you'll be in eight years.
 

um_pineapplez

Mage of Void, dammit.
It's not a fetish. It's a fandom. No, it would be a fetish if I got hard while watching Zootopia (which I don't.)
 

SoulaCola

Low Fat Cat
It's not a fetish. It's a fandom.

I personally haven't told my parents, but I can definitely imagine it being worthwhile if you think yours won't form a negative opinion of you for it. I'd emphasize that it's a fandom and that it's just something you're interested in. With that in mind, I'd avoid making it sound like a confession or 'coming out.' You'll probably have to explain the sexuality, since it's a pretty big part of the fandom, and they've already caught you with it. If you manage to do that without weirding them out though, (with luck) you're going to be fine.

You did say that you're seeing a therapist, though. I'd consider bringing it up with them first, since I doubt any harm can come out of that.
 
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Troj

Your Friendly Neighborhood Dino Therapist
Unless your parents are avid Googlers or researchers, I don't even necessarily think you have to mention the sexual piece, aside from perhaps mentioning as an aside that every geek fandom has "those people." I don't think you have to mention the high number of LGBT people, either--and if your parents make any comments or ask any questions in that regard, you can feign disgust, disinterest, and/or ignorance/obliviousness.

But, my bias is that it's OK to lie to bigots to prevent their irrational bigotry from creating needless, pointless drama in your life.
 

Sergei Nóhomo

Spicey Memes
Banned
So I was on FAF religiously about 7-8 or so years ago, I was a young teen who's father found his huge stash of furry porn. He said to me that everyone has fetishes, some weirder than others. He didn't really care, but he wanted to make sure that older more experienced folks online weren't taking advantage of me, as the community does tend to be rather sexual. I suppose I was rather lucky to have an accepting father.

Plenty of furry folks let being a furry be a large part of their external life, I am not one of these people. My wife and I are both furry, but we tend to keep it in the bedroom and it doesn't really come up unless folks ask.

I know many people try to divide being a furry into something different than a fetish, but for the most part in my opinion it's not. S&M folks, Lolicon, Swingers, if you wear your fetish on your sleeve you'll get some odd looks and have some interesting conversations. Not saying you should be ashamed, but you should try to keep your furry banter with other furries and people who share your interests. You don't know where you'll be in eight years.

Majority of the fandom started up due to porn
 

Yakamaru

Bara mig och lite bensin

Sergei Nóhomo

Spicey Memes
Banned
Wait, wut? Jessica Elwood? Now I have to investigate this shit.

Spoiler!

Jessica Elwood ripped off other artists work nearly identically with her own little touch.

She's also a dood who paid some low-tier cam whore to pose as her
 

um_pineapplez

Mage of Void, dammit.
There's a reason Picard's my profile. It's so I don't have to take extra time to find facepalm images.

No, I'm not a zoophile, although I keep getting molested by domesticated animals for some odd reason. It's just that I don't know how to tell my parents without being to dramatic or them not approving of this whole fandom.
 
There's a reason Picard's my profile. It's so I don't have to take extra time to find facepalm images.

No, I'm not a zoophile, although I keep getting molested by domesticated animals for some odd reason. It's just that I don't know how to tell my parents without being to dramatic or them not approving of this whole fandom.
Well, if you absolutely have to tell them... why not a educational video from someone with an un-bias opinion?
 

_Hushy

Well-Known Member
Coming out with a video would be kinda weird I think.. if they know of the misconceptions it's easier to just talk about it.

Or turn them with a good picture.

Edit: that's friends I'm talking about. Family.. not so much.

Edit again: seeing as your parents already have an idea you're one of us then perhaps best start with the misconceptions. Perhaps video is a better fit in this situation. Now I'm keen to see....
 
Coming out with a video would be kinda weird I think.. if they know of the misconceptions it's easier to just talk about it.

Or turn them with a good picture.

Edit: that's friends I'm talking about. Family.. not so much.

Edit again: seeing as your parents already have an idea you're one of us then perhaps best start with the misconceptions. Perhaps video is a better fit in this situation. Now I'm keen to see....
That might help as well, a still shot of every day life with anthros or something.
 

_Hushy

Well-Known Member
It's not a fetish. It's a fandom. No, it would be a fetish if I got hard while watching Zootopia (which I don't.)

Given this I have to wonder if you're attracted to any anthros. Are you simply into the art style etc. Or are you attracted to any anthropomorphic character/picture?

For clarification I don't get hard over zootopia. It's sort of like the bugs bunny example. Yuck to me. But the right anthro, F yeah man.
 
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