The Sexuality Poll Megathread

[JerryFoxcoon]

I think a lot people have a hard time understanding how someone can lack the physical attraction to someone, and that's understandable in a way. That's why I don't make a big deal out of it.

To me the term "Asexual" just made sense when I discovered it. Up until that moment I was saying to myself that attraction would arrive eventually. I'm 21 now and absolutely nothing happened so far. No crush, no relations, nothing. I don't entirely close the door but I'd be surprised if everything changes from black to white.

Then I've seen people calling asexuals (real ones that is) "special snowflakes", almost as if they were jealous of it. But trust me, there's nothing to be jealous of. In my case it actually sucks, because it sends me deeper into loneliness... And a relation with someone having a normal sexual attraction would simply not work.

 

[Vær]

"Asexuality and Autochorissexualism (Identity-Less Sexuality):
A disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies, or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein. Commonly found in asexual people; an analogous feeling may occur in aromantic people for romantic fantasies. Coined by Anthony Bogaert.’
As the previous post mentions, it’s generally considered a paraphilia or description of sexual behaviour rather than a sexuality in itself."

I thought this was relevant in light of the recent Asexuality discussion.

 

[Spicy Tuna]

This is why I'm having trouble coming out to my friends. Coming out as asexual isn't like coming out of the closet, it's more like coming out of the labyrinth. I wish I could tell people I was bi and be done with it.

It doesn't matter to me whether you believe asexuality is an orientation. However, when I'm looking for a date, I tell people I'm asexual rather than bi, because bi would imply that I want to have sex with them. Plus you might get accused of faking bisexuality for attention.

I'm not proud of my asexuality. If I could enjoy sex I would, why wouldn't you? I tell people I'm asexual because I want a partner I can open up to without the big bad sex cloud raining over my head, making me feel inadequate all the time.

 

[Cocobanana]

I've only been intimate with men, and while that remains the most comfortable preference, lately I've been thinking about how cool it would be to raise children and have them take over the world. Women don't grozz me out, but I'm not sure if I could be fully open with them because there is a lot more anxiety that comes with their seemingly higher expectations of me. When I'm with a guy, what makes them happy seems much simpler, and that's nice since the rest of my life is already too complex.

 

[joandcruz]

I m a straight guy......

 

[Andy Dingo Wolf]

Homoromantic Asexual <3

 

[Zop]

A whole 23% of us are 100% straight? I feel so much less alone now!

 

[Spatel]

I've only been intimate with men, and while that remains the most comfortable preference, lately I've been thinking about how cool it would be to raise children and have them take over the world. Women don't grozz me out, but I'm not sure if I could be fully open with them because there is a lot more anxiety that comes with their seemingly higher expectations of me. When I'm with a guy, what makes them happy seems much simpler, and that's nice since the rest of my life is already too complex.

I understand where you're coming from. Dating the opposite sex is much harder to navigate, especially if you're a shy introverted guy who hates to impose.

This is one of those few areas where I think women have it better off, though it's a significant one. Men have to be assertive and confident in pursuing women to even be noticed, but not *too* assertive or confident to where it gets into rapey pua territory. It's a difficult knife edge to balance on.

The flipside is that the dating pool is ten times larger with women so it's easier to find girls who I can get along with. (I find gay men's personalities just as unrelatable on average as straight women's.... so)

 

[Jambalaya]

How about Herto with no desire to actually have a relationship with another person due to my own baggage? Is that an option?

 

[Pantheros]

A whole 23% of us are 100% straight? I feel so much less alone now!

i know right? It's almost like our pressence is noticable! XP

 

[WolfNightV4X1]

Last time this thread was here I voted in favor of Hitler, now I figure I'm Kinsey 6 or 0 depending on how you look at it...and if romance counts I'd be more flexible and it depends on the right person.

Asexuality is unusual to me, in fact I wonder what its like to experience a complete lack of drive or romantic interest. Sometimes in the past I have wanted so bad to be Ace because urges and feelings can be annoying at times when I just want to focus on other things in life. It's also weird to want to feel asexual I guess...but its not who I am so I accept that.

Psh, either I overthink or I am in favor of Hitler

 

[jtrekkie]

I wish it was an open poll, I don't remember what I voted except that it was wrong. I don't know what I am, I'm so confused.

 

[FenrirDarkWolf]

I wish it was an open poll, I don't remember what I voted except that it was wrong. I don't know what I am, I'm so confused.

You are you Trekkie!
A very sweet guy and someone that needs a lot of hugs right now

 

[VintageLynx]

Honestly I think dating and forming relationships is just too hard work to be fun recently. So many preconceived ideas, past hurt and mistrust clouding what could be with negativity. I'm naïve and this makes me see everyone as either as ok, but from experience so many people are going about their day with negative thoughts about people they barely know like passing in the street or similar. So not only have you I got to prove my intent is good, I have got to win them over romantically too.

Its easier to shut out desire and love than keep the heart open to be cross examined by people who don't really care and will move on at a moments notice to 'something better' if their ideals are not met in a short time - which is a mistake, but also hurtful too - its like 'what did I do wrong there'?

Its hard to place myself - and I really do need a bit of honest reciprocation to help me understand myself. That is all to rare...

 

[Vær]

How about Herto with no desire to actually have a relationship with another person due to my own baggage? Is that an option?

Not on this list it's not. But I guess at this point you'd be Heterosexual-Aromantic?

 

[TheMetalVelocity]

I'm straight leaning bi. I guess I am a bi-plane. I honestly don't fucking care about orientation labels.

 

[Jambalaya]

Not on this list it's not. But I guess at this point you'd be Heterosexual-Aromantic?

I read that as Heterosexual-Aromatic and was like...

"I'm straight and smell nice. I guess that is about right."

It's not that I am opposed to intimate relationships (I've had good and bad in the past), maybe again later in life, but currently I don't have the emotional or mental energy to put into one due to my carry-on being full and the airline refusing to check anymore of my luggage.

 

[WolfNightV4X1]

Im a dragosexual

 

[Mikazuki Marazhu]

I read that as Heterosexual-Aromatic and was like...

"I'm straight and smell nice. I guess that is about right."

It's not that I am opposed to intimate relationships (I've had good and bad in the past), maybe again later in life, but currently I don't have the emotional or mental energy to put into one due to my carry-on being full and the airline refusing to check anymore of my luggage.

What must I do to make you fall in love again? Should I play horny and romantic hurr durr panda? It's been a while since I flirted with anyone here... So it's a win-win situation

 

[Jambalaya]

What must I do to make you fall in love again? Should I play horny and romantic hurr durr panda? It's been a while since I flirted with anyone here... So it's a win-win situation

If one day I woke up and got a call from the airline called life telling me that they had lost all my luggage I think I would be grand. ;P Its not like I'm socially inept or anything, I do fine with people, can carry on an interesting conversation like apples in pie. I just have nothing left to give in the way of an emotional connection anymore. Too much luggage to drag through the terminal has left me tired with 0 motivation. I just don't have the energy it takes to carry on a serious relationship. However what you (and others) are doing here (scampering around the forum) has admittedly brightened my smile and urged me to crawl out of my self imposed hermitage.

 

[Mikazuki Marazhu]

If one day I woke up and got a call from the airline called life telling me that they had lost all my luggage I think I would be grand. ;P Its not like I'm socially inept or anything, I do fine with people, can carry on an interesting conversation like apples in pie. I just have nothing left to give in the way of an emotional connection anymore. Too much luggage to drag through the terminal has left me tired with 0 motivation. I just don't have the energy it takes to carry on a serious relationship. However what you (and others) are doing here (scampering around the forum) has admittedly brightened my smile and urged me to crawl out of my self imposed hermitage.

People who have lived a life of hermitage tend to be very thoughtful. Living such life have it's appeal and should never be resented

 

[Jambalaya]

People who have lived a life of hermitage tend to be very thoughtful. Living such life have it's appeal and should never be resented

True, but it is stigmatized heavily by our society. Alone = Broken. But as I said above I am okay being alone with my three dogs to love, and a friendly online community to provide some socialization. I answer to no one and owe nothing to anyone. I am working on me being me right now and that is the most important part of my life. I was not me for a long time and it did some major damage.

PS you can practice your flirting on me anytime out of practice panda. ;P

 

[Mikazuki Marazhu]

True, but it is stigmatized heavily by our society. Alone = Broken. But as I said above I am okay being alone with my three dogs to love, and a friendly online community to provide some socialization. I answer to no one and owe nothing to anyone. I am working on me being me right now and that is the most important part of my life. I was not me for a long time and it did some major damage.

PS you can practice your flirting on me anytime out of practice panda. ;P

It's hard to flirt on my andriod.. Especially when both my hands are busy touching myself inappropriately reading your post XD

 

[Jambalaya]

It's hard to flirt on my andriod.. Especially when both my hands are busy touching myself inappropriately reading your post XD

Well your first problem is fondling robots, you're just asking for all kinds of pinched parts and chafing.

 

[WolfNightV4X1]

Revive!