The Brutally Honest Man-Child
I hate it when I'm going through a tough time, so I ask my friends for advice on what they do to help themselves feel better during days/weeks like those, and I get promptly ignored. *Despite* the fact that I *explicitly* mentioned how I need help from them. Yet, when I send my usual funny pictures or whatever to them after, they all decide to respond to my messages.
I want to sarcastically say, "Thanks for the help, guys", and in fact someday I just might if I really feel like it, but the reason I don't is because it's just rude and doesn't help anyone. But what's ironic is, *I'm* expected to answer my friends' calls for help. In fact, I make it a pact to always do, because I know if I needed help, I would want my calls to be answered with love and care. I try to be a brotherly figure to all my friends, and let them know they're never alone. And I'm not doing it out of obligation; I genuinely care about them. They're my friends. But if I can't keep being Strong Old Lupin(tm) for *one day,* and I need the *slightest bit* of advice and care to get through it, I just get ignored? How fucking *dare* I start relying on people the same as they rely on me? How dare I ask for help and let my friends know I'm struggling and in a bad place? That's just too much, right? /s
And, keep in mind, this has been happening for such a long time. I ask for help, I get ignored. I act normal, they start paying attention to me again. It makes me sick. I love my friends, but the way they are acting, (or complete lack of action to help their own friend thereof), is stupid and ridiculous.
This is literally the only social media place my friends can't find me at, so I don't have to worry about posting this. But, honestly, even if they did see this, I genuinely feel like they wouldn't do anything about it.
That being said, if anyone else is here on this thread because they feel terrible and need to vent, just know you're not alone. A lot of things in life absolutely suck, but you are stronger than whatever comes at you. You, and you alone, have control of your life, and *you* have the ability to overcome whatever you're going through.
If this is too much for this thread, just let me know and I'll delete it or something.
Ah yes, another therapist without a therapist? UuU
I don't know what it is. Probably a combination of selfishness and ignorance? Some people genuinely don't know how to help but like... pretending you're not even there? I believe they call those 'fairweather friends', meaning they'll only come out when the sun is shining but one gray cloud and they're gone/that's 'awkward'.
Over the past few years I finally said 'fuck it' and nuked my entire social lists and I'm down to two people that I actively speak with.
"All you ever have to do is ask, Tyra ^_^"
*Everyone ignores me, and then goes to squad up and play the game I just finished suggesting, Discord even shows this*
You are not alone in this suffering, my dude. UnU