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things you just dont understand

sniperfreak223

More Metal Than You !!!
Social situations IRL for me usually go one of three ways:

-I know nothing on the subject (mostly happens with pop culture/gossip-y stuff) and just stand there awkwardly
-I get WAY too excited about things and scare the hell out of everyone else.
-I become hopelessly enraged over some stupid thing that comes up and go into "throw-down" mode.
 

Aleu

Deuces
I can't speak for anyone else, but whenever I try to socialize the only thing going through my mind is "They're judging me," and then I get nervous because I want to leave a good impression. I start stuttering and mumbling because I'm nervous, making me more nervous, and it all goes downhill from there.

There's a difference between anxiety then just "how I make friend?"
 

Benji

HOMO CRUSADER o.O
I can't speak for anyone else, but whenever I try to socialize the only thing going through my mind is "They're judging me," and then I get nervous because I want to leave a good impression. I start stuttering and mumbling because I'm nervous, making me more nervous, and it all goes downhill from there.

This is why I mostly socialize intoxicated. Or in small groups.
 

Carnau

Ice cream is the only way
When I socialize I look 100% calm and collected on the outside but inside, I'm tearing my hair apart and sweating.
@Thread: The whole fedora pride thing going on. Also, I know this one bastard irl who's overwhelmingly proud of his damn bowl-cut hair and has been sporting it for years.
 

KAS3519

New Member
There's a difference between anxiety then just "how I make friend?"

Where did I ever say anxiety or "how do I make friend?" I purposefully didn't say either of those. That's just what happens to me when I try to socialize.
 

Aleu

Deuces
Also, I know this one bastard irl who's overwhelmingly proud of his damn bowl-cut hair and has been sporting it for years.
Is his name Otto by any chance? :V
Where did I ever say anxiety or "how do I make friend?" I purposefully didn't say either of those. That's just what happens to me when I try to socialize.
Uh, right here
"They're judging me," and then I get nervous because I want to leave a good impression. I start stuttering and mumbling because I'm nervous, making me more nervous,
That's anxiety.
Then there's people who literally have no clue on how to socialize. It's not anxiety but just, I don't even want to call it stupidity because it's beyond that.
I was saying that there is a difference between what you have, anxiety (just in case you're still clueless), and the point that I brought up.
 

RedDagger

Member
Then there's people who literally have no clue on how to socialize. It's not anxiety but just, I don't even want to call it stupidity because it's beyond that.

Socially inept/retarded? That's what I hear used, anyway.

Anyhoo...I was going to say a different one, but why in the hell do I always use 'anyhoo' - and do people find it stupid?
Should I care if the most rated urbandictionary terms tell me I'm retarded for using it, or the fact that I'm from the UK and have stolen some American terms for some reason?

Dammit.
 

KAS3519

New Member
That's anxiety.
Then there's people who literally have no clue on how to socialize. It's not anxiety but just, I don't even want to call it stupidity because it's beyond that.
I was saying that there is a difference between what you have, anxiety (just in case you're still clueless), and the point that I brought up.

It was just a misunderstanding, I thought you were trying to say I was claiming to have anxiety when I didn't.

just in case you're still clueless

Even tiny things like this contribute to why I don't socialize. It's not offensive, but it shows that you are judging me, and in a bad way.
 

Lomberdia

Selling bookmarks!
I don't get why people thing they are 'non-judgmental' when everyone makes a judgment about someone else the first few seconds you meet them. Everyone does it, nothing to be ashamed of. Everyone has opinions, every make judgments (opinions) about people.

A friend of mine told me one time that kinda makes sense to me and doesn't, maybe someone else can explain it:

"What do you mean "I'm shy"? Have you ever stopped to consider that what you call shyness might just be ego? Perhaps your anxiety over how others might perceive you is just a coward's version of vanity."

And in a way, I agree with it but in a way (I'm shy from time to time) I have a hard time seeing it that way too. Shyness is caring about what other people would think about you, vanity is basically the same thing just at a different spot on the spectrum. So in short, when someone is shy are they really just expressing vanity and their ego? I dunno.
 
S

Sar

Guest
@Thread: The whole fedora pride thing going on. Also, I know this one bastard irl who's overwhelmingly proud of his damn bowl-cut hair and has been sporting it for years.

My old college had a "Fedora Appreciation Club" goin' for a couple of months. I have no idea who said this needed to be "a thing" but it sure made me cringe.
 

Aleu

Deuces
It was just a misunderstanding, I thought you were trying to say I was claiming to have anxiety when I didn't.



Even tiny things like this contribute to why I don't socialize. It's not offensive, but it shows that you are judging me, and in a bad way.

You don't need to say "I have anxiety" to say that you have anxiety. It's like if I said "I have a furry domesticated animal that meows". I'm basically saying "I have a cat". What you have done is describe it and then get mad at me for saying it's a cat and now are proceeding to complain about judgement.

Yes, I judge people who do not use common sense.
 

Rassah

Well-Known Member
Extroverts who think everyone else is like them, and think that people who don't socialize because they are introverts just have "anxiety."
 

DrDingo

Moved to phoenix.corvidae.org with the others
I've mentioned this to a couple people. I ain't a religious guy, but since there doesn't seem to be any concrete answer I'll put it in this thread:

Jewish people are known to have been blamed for many things throughout the ages, right? As the story supposedly goes, Jesus was crucified and called King of The Jews.
However, if Jesus was alive at that point and persecuted by the majority, then what religion did most people follow? Couldn't have been Christianity nor the Jewish faith, so what religious idea did most of people actually believe in? And why weren't those ideas battered instead?
Christianity must have stemmed from the Jewish faith, no doubt. So again, why would they grow to hate each other?
 

Duality Jack

Feeling Loki with it.
How polarized thinking in multi-aspect problems has become so prominent, be it Liberal-Conservative, Feminists-MRAs, Capatalists-Socialists,

God damn people, can't you see both sides are so ever unforgivably wrong?
One side can be right one day the other right another, but usually they are both wrong on the same day.
 

Misomie

Lazy Artist
"That makes me even more confused. How does a man know he's really a woman inside and vice versa?"

when you unvolinarily picture yourself as a girl, when you dont speak because of your voice, when you panic inside when someone mentions your gender or applys gender roles to you, when you cant stand the hairy boxy ape in the mirror, when you feel like you have breasts that aren't there, and when you cry when knick yourself shaving and are reminded why you are


sorry, in a bad mood

That really resonated with me (except reversed sexes) and made me kinda sad for some reason. :(
 

sniperfreak223

More Metal Than You !!!
I've mentioned this to a couple people. I ain't a religious guy, but since there doesn't seem to be any concrete answer I'll put it in this thread:

Jewish people are known to have been blamed for many things throughout the ages, right? As the story supposedly goes, Jesus was crucified and called King of The Jews.
However, if Jesus was alive at that point and persecuted by the majority, then what religion did most people follow? Couldn't have been Christianity nor the Jewish faith, so what religious idea did most of people actually believe in? And why weren't those ideas battered instead?
Christianity must have stemmed from the Jewish faith, no doubt. So again, why would they grow to hate each other?

It's a simple matter of superiority complexes within the respective religions, much the same way the Jews looked upon the polytheistic religions that preceded them, and in a more modern sense, the same way Muslim extremists demonize the Christians...because, keep in mind, even Islam evolved from the same religious tree as both Judaism and Christianity.

It's more a matter of human nature and interpretation than anything else, after all, Jesus himself was a Jew, and much of the story of his birth is constructed specifically to meet the necessary criteria of the Jewish messiah. Both Christianity and Islam preach acceptance and tolerance towards other "People of the book", but a lot of the fanatical followers of these religions seem to ignore that part.
 

Punnchy

Feed Me Pizza
When people that are new to anything, don't ask questions, and assume things. It's scoring a bullseye to get back lashed by the community or random people because they're not actually trying to learn or become a part of the place they're associated with.
 

Rassah

Well-Known Member
Jewish people are known to have been blamed for many things throughout the ages, right? As the story supposedly goes, Jesus was crucified and called King of The Jews.
However, if Jesus was alive at that point and persecuted by the majority, then what religion did most people follow? Couldn't have been Christianity nor the Jewish faith, so what religious idea did most of people actually believe in? And why weren't those ideas battered instead?

Jesus was a jew, and most of the religion in that area was jewish. He was crucified with the title of "King of the Jews" as a mockery. Not because people hated jews at the time, but because they wanted to show him as being preposterously arrogant. Kind of like how Christians would crucify anyone now who would proclaim to be the next bestest of all christians and declare themselves to the their ruler (e.g. someone comes out and says "I'm the new Pope, and all Christians should worship be instead"). Though maybe not literally crucity, and also now we'd use air quotes whhile calling that person "King of Christians."
At least that's the alleged story in the bible.
 

Gnarl

The Arcane Sage
I spend 80% of my waking time alone, either driving or working on electronics at unmanned remote locations. If you can get me to talk in RL then the problem starts. I admit having someone listen, causes me to not shut up! I have learned to tell when people were just being polite and that does shut me up but you would probably never see me again.
Electronics is so much easier to deal with! It either works or needs repair!
 
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Sylver

Active Member
Like I said before, there's a difference between that and just ignorance.
I think I understand the kind of people you're talking about. I'm assuming you're talking about the the blissfully ignorant individuals who just don't know how to socialise, but are continuities in that they never seem to learn how to change the way they act. They don't have a mental disorder or social anxiety, they are just...well...they just don't know how to socialise and most of the time don't even realise it. Haha, I probably got this all wrong D: pls dunt kill me

I don't understand why people feel the need to write hateful / stupid comments for no reason. Like if there is a black person on a viral YouTube video, someone will post "nigger" in the comment section just for the sake of posting something stupid and hateful. I like to consider myself quite empathetic, but I just can't mentally comprehend why someone would do that.
 

RedDagger

Member
I don't understand why people feel the need to write hateful / stupid comments for no reason. Like if there is a black person on a viral YouTube video, someone will post "nigger" in the comment section just for the sake of posting something stupid and hateful. I like to consider myself quite empathetic, but I just can't mentally comprehend why someone would do that.

Some people honestly just think it's funny. Not the best of reasons, but still.

In relation to what Aleu was saying, I don't understand a person at my school. I've been in the same school for just under 5 years, and they've 'flirted' with no less than 3 times that many people. By 'flirted', I mean they're the kind of person who doesn't understand social interaction - with other things like they often ignore what someone is saying to finish/repeat what they've said, repeat what people say as if they thought of it (despite being told constantly that someone else literally just said that), and seem to have absorbed all their opinions from reddit. Imagine someone with the opinions of the default reddit subs, and there you go.
...anyway, despite being told to knock off what they're doing because it's always creepy and making the other person uncomfortable, they just don't seem to comprehend not just basic interaction, but actually remembering what people tell them about this.
I just don't understand because they're told all the time; heck, you can tell them to stop staring at the person 3 feet away, and they carry on 10 seconds later.

Just...how.
 

Armess

Member
I do not understand the selfish people living only for and I "want" the, boorishly falling into with the family.
 
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