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ExtinguishedHope

ExtinguishedHope

I lost my sock
Nonu said:
One of my friends confessed to me... i turned them down because im well... uh... how do i say this... lesbian and they're now contemplating suicide... i've known they've had deppresion for a long time and it REALLY sucked to crush them like that...
Im kinda panicking right now TwT
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Hello! I was summoned.

Now even though I don't know the full scope of things, I've definitely had relevant experience with this. @Erix is right in that you should be with them in support, if they live nearby and you can get to them, that would be a huge plus, if not, Facetime/Skype/whatever you guys use to video chat would probably be sufficient. Perhaps try and distract them by making plans for the future or reminiscing on positive moments you've shared.

Let them know they'll get through this. A moment of sadness is just a drop in the bucket of life- we all have these moments of letdown, but in contrast, we all have moments of happiness. Tell them of the good things they could miss, let them know that even though you don't wish to date, that they are a true friend who you would surely miss. Inform them that they can trust you, and that you'll be with them through anything they need. Death is permanent, thus life is truly worth living- even for the bad things, because every experience shapes who we are.

Sorry if all of this comes off weird. I'm not quite the best at rattling off thoughts into text.
 
ChickenEatingCeramicBowl

ChickenEatingCeramicBowl

Pubby, pubby, pubby!
ExtinguishedHope said:
Hello! I was summoned.

Now even though I don't know the full scope of things, I've definitely had relevant experience with this. @Erix is right in that you should be with them in support, if they live nearby and you can get to them, that would be a huge plus, if not, Facetime/Skype/whatever you guys use to video chat would probably be sufficient. Perhaps try and distract them by making plans for the future or reminiscing on positive moments you've shared.

Let them know they'll get through this. A moment of sadness is just a drop in the bucket of life- we all have these moments of letdown, but in contrast, we all have moments of happiness. Tell them of the good things they could miss, let them know that even though you don't wish to date, that they are a true friend who you would surely miss. Inform them that they can trust you, and that you'll be with them through anything they need. Death is permanent, thus life is truly worth living- even for the bad things, because every experience shapes who we are.

Sorry if all of this comes off weird. I'm not quite the best at rattling off thoughts into text.
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I rhink it may be too late
 
ExtinguishedHope

ExtinguishedHope

I lost my sock
Can you get ahold of them at all? Or get ahold of someone who can intervene (like a parent/roommate that lives with them, or someone who can show up at their place)?
 
ExtinguishedHope

ExtinguishedHope

I lost my sock
If they only trust those two people, perhaps those two could make sure your friend is okay. Suicidal thoughts are certainly something that need to be addressed, and if someone can help them at all, it'd be best to get their attention about the situation.
 
Simo

Simo

Professional Watermelon Farmer
Nonu said:
One of my friends confessed to me... i turned them down because im well... uh... how do i say this... lesbian and they're now contemplating suicide... i've known they've had deppresion for a long time and it REALLY sucked to crush them like that...
Im kinda panicking right now TwT
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Hopefully some of the advice so far has helped; the hotline is certainly a good place to start.

Here is a link to a chatline/support network, that I found useful in the past. One 'problem' with the suicide hotline, is that if you're just very depressed, and want to talk...it can be hard, because they tend to ask if you're in immediate danger of harming yourself: a person tends to get almost scared, or at least I did, of having the police show up, and all of that. It's hard to explian exactly, but it can sometimes be hard, to get them to just talk and listen, on the national suicide hotline. At this place, they'll listen, and offer advice, and I found it really useful.

I found the link on the website of Linda Grey Sexton, daughter of the late poet Anne Sexton; no stranger to extreme moods:

IMAlive – Free and confidential online crisis chat

www.imalive.org

It's also nice, because in ways, it can be easier to chat via text, than voice.

But also, don't feel guilty that you can't 'love' them in all the ways they want; it's certainly not your fault, so try and not feel bad over having been honest about a part of yourself that may have been difficult to share.

*hugs*
 
JuniperW

JuniperW

Birb Fanatic
@Erix, thank you for alerting me to this. While I am not an expert on giving advice, I will try my best. @Nonu, I hope your friend is well. It would be best to help direct them to a professional. I am aware that hotlines aren’t always the best, and that it can be hard to find therapy, but the most important thing to remember is not to give up. It is perfectly valid for anybody to feel this way. At the same time, there will inevitably be periods where we feel happier. No matter what happens, live is worth living.
 
Tacoshark

Tacoshark

Defender of the Sacred Nuggs
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How, looks like I lissed some very heavy stuff. Ok, as someone that has been suicidal and in need of help, Juniper gives a lot of good advice. It is important to get help, be supportive, and to take gradual steps towards a positive and stablenplace once more. It wont be easy
, but effective
 
Guifrog

Guifrog

Blue frog
I was pinged and dang, I'm really bad with advice... People seem to have offered valuable inputs. I love this place and how supportive people can be towards situations like this

You two may need a lot of talk and all the love you can get, is all I feel able to say right now. Feel free to use the Vent thread, or create a thread just for this, if more emotions need to be poured, and embrace everything that makes sense for you

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Foxy Emy

Foxy Emy

Polygenic DID System. Life is wild.
@Nonu

Check your DMs, I sent you something. Prefer to discuss there as forum games is not really the place for such a heavy topic.
 
ben909

ben909

vaporeon character != mushroom characters
.. that got ...
Not really anything i can add, so back to the numbers i guess

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ben909

ben909

vaporeon character != mushroom characters
Hopefuly things work out

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ben909

ben909

vaporeon character != mushroom characters
Continues to breakfast quietly

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ben909

ben909

vaporeon character != mushroom characters
Sips coffee
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Skittles

Skittles

Queen of FaF. Empress of Fløøf.
-Slams in like the Kool aid man- OH FLØØØØØØØF!!
 
ben909

ben909

vaporeon character != mushroom characters
Skittles

Skittles

Queen of FaF. Empress of Fløøf.
I will find 352 ways to fløøf you so hard.
 
ssaannttoo

ssaannttoo

Joy Boi
Hey. hey! How is everybody?

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