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Vent Thread

Khione Frostfang

Moody Leopardess - Approach with caution!
Don't you just hate it when life turns out to be a super bitch? It's what my life is, right now.

I'm in so much pain right now, I'm stuck in a tailspin.
 
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DieselPowered

Well-Known Member
Like that will change anyone, human nature won't change. If you think a surficial month will change people, it won't. I'm a bit of a cynic in this respect, but I feel like it would be like saying Christians wills stop being persecuted because we have Christmas and Easter. A month of being forced into one mindset won't change people who they don't like LGBT.

And the inverse, those people can go tell you to go fuck yourself. You see? It doesn't change things in the long run of it. You cannot change these environments, pride month happens in countries that already have these liberties, pride month doesn't happen in China, North Korea, most of Africa, the Middle East, most of Latin America, and in places where people are really oppressed for being homosexual, (as in killed.) Yes, you can help people here, but that won't change the meta of the issue. It's all superficial the rest of the year.
Homophobia isn't human nature, it's learned behavour. No one's being forced into a certain mindset with pride months, it's a solidarity event.

They would already be treating me like shit, that's the point. I meant i'm perfectly capable of standing up for myself, and if people try to degrade me for my sexuality they'll end up having some problems. Not all of us can stand up and potentially risk their safety like that. These events specifically exist in western countries because we're no longer being killed, imprisoned, or chemically castrated for the crime of loving someone with the "wrong" genitals. Even so there can still be a great deal of social stigma and repression associated with stepping out of the heterosexual "norm" that was imposed upon us for 100s, if not 1000s, of years. Pride events seek to eradicate that stigma, and show those gay people who have to hide themselves that there is a place for them. That they might not have to hide forever. Again, some people need that.

I'm just an average person, i can't just go to Saudi Arabia or North Korea and "fix" homophobia there. We're lucky to be in countries that allow us to exist openly under the law. It is however a global struggle, and those countries that hold onto even more antiquated ideas regarding what's "right" sexually show what the struggle is really about. We're all human beings, so why do we have to be seen as lesser because of our immutable characteristics?

TL;DR: Pride events can show people they're not struggling alone, that they can be accepted for who they are. And maybe, just maybe, those who don't like LGBT people will be forced to ask themselves, "why?", when confronted with the gays en masse. Those are the potential long term effects on an individual level.
 

Paws the Opinicus

*Not technically* a Gryphon!
Day three of near-unbearable heat* and smoke from B.C. wildfires a thousand klicks away.

It's hard to breathe, and everyone here just has this generalized lethargy and lack of motivation for anything.

The only escape from a home with no AC is to go out. The only escape from bad air quality is to stay in.

fml.

* Well, the heat is into the third week. The smoke is three days in though.
 

Attaman

"I say we forget this business and run."
Just realized that the Heatwave thread didn't have much in the way of methods to keep cool, so I guess to start:
1) Obviously, if you can afford the water costs, cold baths / showers every now and then will help. Even if you don't like cold baths normally, you will in hot weather.
1a) If cold showers / baths really aren't your thing, or you have something (like arthritis) which make it a monkey's paw solution, consider just a foot bath instead. It won't chill you as thoroughly, but it's at least something. Also it will make humidity less a concern later, at least.
1b) In theory, if blasting enough cold water (or you have enough ice to spare with putting some in an ice water-filled bath), you can combine this with #2.
2) Speaking of water and cold, if you have a non-oscillating fan, some (rather large) bowls filled with ice set in front of the fan can help. Unless you can crank out ice like something awful it's not an indefinite solution (generally only buying a couple hours of relief at a time), but some relief is better than none. Though if ice isn't a concern (especially if you can keep it going for a while with pre-existing fridge / freezer / cooler space; or have access to a grocery store with ice bags / dry ice), try to set up a circulation in the rooms you most intend to occupy. Even without buckets, large pots, or so-on you can usually rely on at least two rooms in any given abode (Kitchen, Bathroom) to have something you can plug, fill with ice water, and put a fan relatively safely in (most kitchen sinks have counters, and most bathrooms should have somewhere to put a fan that has no risk of tipping into the water).
3) Use strips of fabric (rags, old clothes, whatever) soaked in cold water (potentially even refrigerate or - for quick results - partially freeze for greater chill) and apply as necessary. Usually for something like this you're going to apply it somewhere like around the back of the neck, on the forehead (particularly if lying down), etcetera.
4) Minimize the area within the house in which you're attempting to chill. Generally, even a single bedroom apartment is going to be a tall order to self-AC. If you have rooms that're going to be continuously exposed to sunlight and you don't need to be in them, close them off unless their air flow is absolutely necessary to maintain a current. Alternatively, if you have large chunks that can't be sealed off (and no way to impromptu seal them with things like hung blankets or the like), pick a small area and do what you can to make it as comfortable for you as possible.
5) Higher is usually worse, lower is usually better. Basement floors are much more chill to relax in than first story which is much more chill than second. Again, doesn't apply in many places, but for those it does it can be helpful if not aware of as much (if usually in a rather consistent environment, for example).
6) Laptops, Desktop PCs, certain consoles. Anything that can produce moderate to significant amounts of heat? Try not to use them. I doubt I need to mention oven / stove-top cooking, but a lot of people forget just how much heat one of the above can dump into your home if you aren't paying attention. Or, alternatively, how fast they can heat up if the environment doesn't provide its own cooling for them.

It's not a perfect list, and in general is only really short-term (if your house gets above a certain point, none of the above will especially help: Bite the bullet and go to a family member, friends, or business wherein it is below that point), but they can make things a little less insufferable. This coming from somebody in a top story apartment who has had to deal with 95°F+ days outside with their AC busted.
 

Khione Frostfang

Moody Leopardess - Approach with caution!
Had to have my oldest cat put to sleep today, and it's fucking killing me! All was fine, until the night on my birthday was when he started to go down hill, but he was fine a few hours before, he was eating, he was purring, just being himself, but around 10PM or so, he started to act strange, so the vet kept him over night and they said for 19, he was in good health, he had a good heart, kidneys and the like, but when we got him home, he was just not himself, at all.

He wouldn't eat or anything, he'd purr, but that was it. So he had to be put down today, and I'm so heart broken, that I wish I could of done SOMETHING, ANYTHING for him! We lost his brother when they were both 8, and Baby was a nervous cat, as he and his brother were badly ill-treated by an asshole, but we adopted them and all was fine, but I believe because Sidney (or Sid we would call him) may of had some fear of water, as he and Baby were tossed into a river in a bag, when they were young, which lead up to kindey issues for Sidney.

By Christmas they would of been 20 this year... I'm so broken inside, I can't stop crying, if I go by my Mom's room I break down, as he was always on her bed, just happy as anything, but looking into her room and seeing Baby no longer there seriously kills me more. Second oldest is 18, current one is about 10-11. baby is my avatar, he was such a beautiful boy, and I miss him so damn badly, I'd rather have a time machine and go back and find ways to help them both... I'm just hurting so fucking bad.
 

Chomby

Impulsive? Impulsive.
People constantly ignore me online. Of course not all the time, and I don't take being acknowledged for granted, but I get ignored so much that I can't help but feel isolated.

This happens to me on instant messaging platforms on an incredibly frequent basis. It depresses the shit out of me. Yeah I know there are valid reasons to not respond to something, but is my luck really this bad? Is there something wrong with me? Am I boring? Why am I ignored 80% of the time?

I even joined a mental health server to vent to someone about this, and my support ticket (made so I can talk to someone specifically) was closed without an explanation.

Ignored again.

And again.
And again.
And again.
And again.

I want to scream.
 

Chomby

Impulsive? Impulsive.
Had to have my oldest cat put to sleep today, and it's fucking killing me! All was fine, until the night on my birthday was when he started to go down hill, but he was fine a few hours before, he was eating, he was purring, just being himself, but around 10PM or so, he started to act strange, so the vet kept him over night and they said for 19, he was in good health, he had a good heart, kidneys and the like, but when we got him home, he was just not himself, at all.

He wouldn't eat or anything, he'd purr, but that was it. So he had to be put down today, and I'm so heart broken, that I wish I could of done SOMETHING, ANYTHING for him! We lost his brother when they were both 8, and Baby was a nervous cat, as he and his brother were badly ill-treated by an asshole, but we adopted them and all was fine, but I believe because Sidney (or Sid we would call him) may of had some fear of water, as he and Baby were tossed into a river in a bag, when they were young, which lead up to kindey issues for Sidney.

By Christmas they would of been 20 this year... I'm so broken inside, I can't stop crying, if I go by my Mom's room I break down, as he was always on her bed, just happy as anything, but looking into her room and seeing Baby no longer there seriously kills me more. Second oldest is 18, current one is about 10-11. baby is my avatar, he was such a beautiful boy, and I miss him so damn badly, I'd rather have a time machine and go back and find ways to help them both... I'm just hurting so fucking bad.
I know what it's like to lose a beloved cat. I'm very sorry.
Cherish the time you had with him.
You made him a very happy boy up to his final day.
 

Khione Frostfang

Moody Leopardess - Approach with caution!
It hurts so damn much, like when we were putting him into the carrier, the way he was looking at me even though he was blind, it was like to me, that I felt I had let him down.
 

Chomby

Impulsive? Impulsive.
It hurts so damn much, like when we were putting him into the carrier, the way he was looking at me even though he was blind, it was like to me, that I felt I had let him down.
You didn't let him down.
I think he knew it was his time.

He was old and in pain, and you granted him a painless escape.
You did the right thing.
Don't blame yourself
 

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
People constantly ignore me online. Of course not all the time, and I don't take being acknowledged for granted, but I get ignored so much that I can't help but feel isolated.

This happens to me on instant messaging platforms on an incredibly frequent basis. It depresses the shit out of me. Yeah I know there are valid reasons to not respond to something, but is my luck really this bad? Is there something wrong with me? Am I boring? Why am I ignored 80% of the time?

I even joined a mental health server to vent to someone about this, and my support ticket (made so I can talk to someone specifically) was closed without an explanation.

Ignored again.

And again.
And again.
And again.
And again.

I want to scream.
To be fair, the quality of the discord server depends on the quality of its owner. So if you have someone (like a minor) trying to run a health server, it's probably not gonna end well. And of course, you wouldn't know that unless they told you. You're not crazy for feeling this way, but try not to overthink it. If you tried to book therapist in person and they didn't show, THEN you need to go and get some answers. XD

I personally don't have anything I feel is newsworthy so I tend to let people come to me if they want something nowadays. I don't watch or play anything that others seem to. Maybe some of the people you talk to are similar?

Most of the people I have encountered online, throughout my whole life, are/were self centered. It had to be about what.they wanted to hear or they just didn't acknowledge you existed. Its sucky, but all we can do is keep looking. :(
 

Khione Frostfang

Moody Leopardess - Approach with caution!
My most oldest cat was 22, she was a ginger-tabby, and she lasted until she was 22. She would get called "Ginger Whinger" because it was all she would do, was whinge at everyone.

This humid air is suffocating, it's gross.
 

quoting_mungo

Well-Known Member
It hurts so damn much, like when we were putting him into the carrier, the way he was looking at me even though he was blind, it was like to me, that I felt I had let him down.
I’m so sorry. Losing a beloved pet always sucks, and having to make the call to let them go is… one of those things that come with second-guessing yourself, a lot of the time. I certainly did/do about ragdoll’s sister, even though intellectually I know it was the right decision.

You gave him your love and did your best for him. That’s all any pet really asks from their humans.
 
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the sleepiest kitty

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LameFox

Well-Known Member
People constantly ignore me online. Of course not all the time, and I don't take being acknowledged for granted, but I get ignored so much that I can't help but feel isolated.

This happens to me on instant messaging platforms on an incredibly frequent basis. It depresses the shit out of me. Yeah I know there are valid reasons to not respond to something, but is my luck really this bad? Is there something wrong with me? Am I boring? Why am I ignored 80% of the time?

I even joined a mental health server to vent to someone about this, and my support ticket (made so I can talk to someone specifically) was closed without an explanation.

Ignored again.

And again.
And again.
And again.
And again.

I want to scream.
I do get the sense that most highly visible servers—the ones you're most likely to find—tend to be very impersonal. Maybe it's the high turnover. Seems like you'd have to be there, actively, for ages before you even stand out enough for people to decide how they feel about you.

I wouldn't be surprised if that's why the population tends to be so young as well, as they've got the time and energy to throw into the void on the off chance something happens. Kinda like my agegroup did with chatrooms and free message boards in the early 2000s.
 
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