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Vent Thread

quoting_mungo

Well-Known Member
Ok, not really like a vent, just an irritating frustration.

Really hard finding an amazing artist for an sfw ref sheet. Just a normal, non-sexualized, regular boobs, non-fetishy ref sheet. Which I think I make harder by not smiling so much and having a resting uncaring expression most of the time.
As long as they don’t do them on bases, I doubt any of the NSFW artists who do ref sheets would refuse business on the basis of you not wanting “pink bits” on it? Like, I don’t know if getting a ref done by someone who also draws porn would make you uncomfortable, in itself (which is alright), or what other roadblocks there might also be. If you have a particular style in mind, let us know and maybe someone will have a recommendation for you?
 

Fallowfox

Are we moomin, or are we dancer?
The place where I used to live at for my very soon to be former job messed up my spine and shoulder. I now have scoliosis and my shoulder is bending forward and sticks outward. This is due to how horrible the bed is, sinking completely in the middle, as well as the desk being too small.

I am glad that I am getting out of this shithole.


Fuck my life, everything hurts now that I'm doing exercises to fix my spine and shoulders.

Wish you the best Rimna.
 

Firuthi Dragovic

Gamer Dragon, former speedrunner
....it's officially time to say goodbye to the local diner/restaurant.

Oh don't get me wrong, they're still open for business, but I won't be ordering anything from there ever again.

The food used to be great. Crab legs in the middle of the week, a stuffed and crusted chicken breast I couldn't get anywhere else, and good pizza and wings.

The original owners retired and passed the diner down. The new owner... while things went bad under him, my understanding is the bad stuff tends to happen behind his back, not on his watch.

The stuffed and crusted chicken breast... is still viable, but my own gluten issues make that risky. My family's avoided the crab legs since the management changed hands and I simply haven't been available on Wednesdays to indulge.

The cardinal sin... was the pizza (learned second-hand as I didn't eat any - again, gluten - apparently it tasted awful) and the wings. I will speak of the wings specifically - they weren't well-cooked, and they smelled of fish. As in, I'm pretty sure they used the same oil from frying the fish to fry these wings.

None of my family has issues with fish, so cross-contamination isn't an issue with us even if I see the major threat otherwise. Even without allergy issues though, it might as well be a culinary cardinal sin to reuse oil with vastly differing foods, for no other reason than the oil either picks up the flavors of other foods or breaks down and loses all flavor from being overused.

Ugh.

Wonder if Gordon Ramsay has had to give any restaurants hell for reusing oil.
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
Why can't I sleep.

I don't understand this.

I've followed every recommendation made thus far.
 

L.Rey

Lucas, the werewolf
Why can't I sleep.

I don't understand this.

I've followed every recommendation made thus far.
Maybe time to consider seeing a doctor or something of the like? Perhaps find out what makes you sleepy? For example, reading a book. Just a few immediate recommendations, hope you feel better
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
Maybe time to consider seeing a doctor or something of the like? Perhaps find out what makes you sleepy? For example, reading a book. Just a few immediate recommendations, hope you feel better
Probably need to get that set up, because I've tried pretty much all the "simple fixes" I can at this point. No caffeine after a certain time, no smokes after a certain time, less smoking, making sure light levels are down, some exercise a bit before bed, melatonin (pretty worthless tbh), reduce any kind of sugar intake after a certain time drastically, not a lot of water before bed, no nightcaps

the "less smoking" part in particular is an enormous pain, nic fits SUCK

as for what makes me sleepy, being bored will do it for sure. Reading, though, that backfires pretty hard (end up not being able to keep track of time and hey look you spent 3 hours reading)
 
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L.Rey

Lucas, the werewolf
Probably need to get that set up, because I've tried pretty much all the "simple fixes" I can at this point. No caffeine after a certain time, no smokes after a certain time, less smoking, making sure light levels are down, some exercise a bit before bed, melatonin (pretty worthless tbh), reduce any kind of sugar intake after a certain time drastically, not a lot of water before bed, no nightcaps

the "less smoking" part in particular is an enormous pain, nic fits SUCK

as for what makes me sleepy, being bored will do it for sure. Reading, though, that backfires pretty hard (end up not being able to keep track of time and hey look you spent 3 hours reading)

I'd recommend background noise, like calming music or maybe a documentary for a few quick examples, but that'd probably stimulate you too if a book does the same. Well, whatever works for you specifically. Not necessarily "simple fixes" y'know?
 

L.Rey

Lucas, the werewolf
Probably need to get that set up, because I've tried pretty much all the "simple fixes" I can at this point. No caffeine after a certain time, no smokes after a certain time, less smoking, making sure light levels are down, some exercise a bit before bed, melatonin (pretty worthless tbh), reduce any kind of sugar intake after a certain time drastically, not a lot of water before bed, no nightcaps

the "less smoking" part in particular is an enormous pain, nic fits SUCK

as for what makes me sleepy, being bored will do it for sure. Reading, though, that backfires pretty hard (end up not being able to keep track of time and hey look you spent 3 hours reading)
Meditation? It'd cost you nothing but your time, and you'd probably get bored of it eventually...hehe =P
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
Meditation? It'd cost you nothing but your time, and you'd probably get bored of it eventually...hehe =P
I've tried it in the past and it's been an abysmal failure. I can't figure out how to clear my mind. I picked through books based on everything from Zen Buddhism to CBT/DBT and I seriously can't shut off that constant stream of thought, or at least I haven't found a way yet.
I'd recommend background noise, like calming music or maybe a documentary for a few quick examples, but that'd probably stimulate you too if a book does the same. Well, whatever works for you specifically. Not necessarily "simple fixes" y'know?
White noise or something might help, I get way too into music for it to lull me, usually. Docos are also a bit too stimulating, perhaps (I could watch that "How It's Made" show for like, hours straight holy fuck why is making rubber duckies so fascinating)
 

quoting_mungo

Well-Known Member
I've tried it in the past and it's been an abysmal failure. I can't figure out how to clear my mind. I picked through books based on everything from Zen Buddhism to CBT/DBT and I seriously can't shut off that constant stream of thought, or at least I haven't found a way yet.
“Clear your mind” type stuff isn’t something I’ve figured out, either. However, there’s an app called Insight Timer that has a metric fuckton of meditation stuff, including guided meditation aimed at sleeping, by a wide variety of creators. Download it and have a browse through, trying anything that seems promising a few times.
 

L.Rey

Lucas, the werewolf
I've tried it in the past and it's been an abysmal failure. I can't figure out how to clear my mind. I picked through books based on everything from Zen Buddhism to CBT/DBT and I seriously can't shut off that constant stream of thought, or at least I haven't found a way yet.

White noise or something might help, I get way too into music for it to lull me, usually. Docos are also a bit too stimulating, perhaps (I could watch that "How It's Made" show for like, hours straight holy fuck why is making rubber duckies so fascinating)

Well, I wish you luck and better health. Take care
 

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
I've tried it in the past and it's been an abysmal failure. I can't figure out how to clear my mind. I picked through books based on everything from Zen Buddhism to CBT/DBT and I seriously can't shut off that constant stream of thought, or at least I haven't found a way yet.

White noise or something might help, I get way too into music for it to lull me, usually. Docos are also a bit too stimulating, perhaps (I could watch that "How It's Made" show for like, hours straight holy fuck why is making rubber duckies so fascinating)

Not sure if this was already mentioned/is the same thing, but my therapist made me one of those tapes where they basically tell you to imagine yourself in a quiet calm place, etc etc, feel the water running through your fingers, etc etc. Maybe finding something similar can help? Its technically not clearing your mind, but it could be enough to distract you from things that are keeping you awake.

Finding your ASMR trigger.

Buy a soft microfiber pillow~

is your room pitch black? I find I can't sleep unless I've blocked out every source of light.
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
Not sure if this was already mentioned/is the same thing, but my therapist made me one of those tapes where they basically tell you to imagine yourself in a quiet calm place, etc etc, feel the water running through your fingers, etc etc. Maybe finding something similar can help? Its technically not clearing your mind, but it could be enough to distract you from things that are keeping you awake.

Finding your ASMR trigger.

Buy a soft microfiber pillow~

is your room pitch black? I find I can't sleep unless I've blocked out every source of light.
...I do remember having a propensity for falling asleep in the bath/shower and for some reason an idling marine diesel is almost hypnotic. Light is usually minimal to non-existent in my bedroom during sleep.
 

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
...I do remember having a propensity for falling asleep in the bath/shower and for some reason an idling marine diesel is almost hypnotic. Light is usually minimal to non-existent in my bedroom during sleep.
Maybe taking hot baths to help relax before bed?

I'd love to sleep in water but I feel like it might not end well for my skin...
 

JacobFloofWoof

Metal Misanthrope
Parents need to be more accountable for their child's suicides or shitty livelihoods. Them never taking any fault and blaming only external influences, like "it must have been the music he/she listened to, or, "the chemicals in the food is what made them depressed" "I'm a great parent, it's everyone else/thing's fault for my child's shortcomings", instead of realizing the foundation they've laid for the environment, neglect, lack of support, and upbringing caused by them that fundamentally ruined that child's well-being. I despise ignorant parents, especially of the boomer/Gen-X variety who thinks millennials are simply "ignorant narcissists", when the parents themselves are leading examples. Their impulsive assumptive attitude without listening to the pain of their children is toxic and just flat out wrong, and, the worst part is, is how they shift the blame on their children for "hurting them" when their children just wants them to understand. I see the flaws in the last few generations, but I also see how going further back shows the foundation that led to the ramifications in the latter in almost every imaginable way.



Why can't I sleep.

I don't understand this.

I've followed every recommendation made thus far.

Tfw people ask why you don't get help, and you are lost for words.
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
Maybe taking hot baths to help relax before bed?

I'd love to sleep in water but I feel like it might not end well for my skin...
Something I already do (shower before bed, I absolutely cannot get to sleep if I feel dirty) but wondering if there's something else I can do with that. Maybe more than the perfunctory getting clean part. Lavender oil?
 

Stray Cat Terry

테리 / 特里 / テリー
Dang! I wanna sleep for a day! My current job won't allow me TwT
 

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
Something I already do (shower before bed, I absolutely cannot get to sleep if I feel dirty) but wondering if there's something else I can do with that. Maybe more than the perfunctory getting clean part. Lavender oil?
I just got home with some clearance Lavender soap and was about to pitch it to you. XD
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
Get home, crash and burn before 6 pm, wake up around midnight, can't get back to sleep. I mean, I know I should have tried to stay up a little longer to get my Circadian rhythm unfucked, that's on me. Still annoying. Adjusting from a night shift to a day shift over a weekend's time is surprisingly difficult.

Also annoyed with myself because I wanted to cook, and that pretty much went right out the window the moment I got home and realized that I was in no shape to be operating a stove.

Also also I really hate having to smile for photos. I don't even know exactly why anymore, it's just unpleasant.
 

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
Ugh...

Shitty sleep...

Sleep walking... I remember playing with my bedroom curtains (ripping them open to shine light on something for some reason, closing, then opening again). They were still partially open when I woke up.

I don't remember anything from the dream except the porn I was watching and later on, I was listening to some masked dude talk about the history of the 8 enchanted weapons that were once used to save humanity and how they now needed to be destroyed.
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
I'm kind of glad I don't remember my dreams often anymore, if my waking state is any indication they're not good ones.
 

Minerva_Minx

Succumbing to her own psychosis
I have a love/hate relationship with my cpap.

I swear the cord is a saw if I roll over.
 
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O.D.D.

Guest
I have a love/hate relationship with my cpap.

I swear the cord is a saw if I roll over.
The earloop mask cords give me that same feeling, the smothering feeling I get used to but the way those cords cut in is awful especially if I lower the mask for a drink or a cigarette.
 

RAM

Well-Known Member
Reddit continues to be garbage that should have been trashed a long time ago. The developers have rolled out the next phase of their "get everyone on the app so we can farm the shit out of their data and sell it to the highest bidder" master plan by making it so that most of the subreddits that I frequent require me to sign into their poorly-engineered app in order to view them.

Fuck this website. I wish a superior alternative would come along already and kill this piece of shit for good.
 
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