Vent Thread

[Baron Tredegar]

I am starting to get very concerned about one of my friends. I think he is falling down the Qanon rabbit hole. Hes even started saying some things about the war in Ukraine thats blatant Russian propaganda and he frequently has been using anti trans rhetoric. I would provide more examples of some of the things hes said that has me really concerned but they involve touchy political topics. Does anyone here have any advice for what I should do? If you want any more info about some of the other things Ive heard him say just DM me.

 

[Baud]

Perhaps they're suspicious because you're selling under average price? especially since it's an old item they could be assuming you're not completely honest about the condition it's in. Just a guess.

I mean... I included photos of the console from every side including a link to a short private video that shows it in action, how much more proof do you need from an ebay listing? Also if you are suspicious of an item why spend any money on it in the first place? I would just move on and look for a different listing. It may not be too optimistical but I really believe they simply hope to find someone dumb or ignorant enough to accept their ridiculous offers or who doesn't know the value of what they're selling.

 

[Minerva_Minx]

I am starting to get very concerned about one of my friends. I think he is falling down the Qanon rabbit hole. Hes even started saying some things about the war in Ukraine thats blatant Russian propaganda and he frequently has been using anti trans rhetoric. I would provide more examples of some of the things hes said that has me really concerned but they involve touchy political topics. Does anyone here have any advice for what I should do? If you want any more info about some of the other things Ive heard him say just DM me.

Conspiracy theories by definition are emotional and not logical. I smile, flirting, and try to change topics as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, even showing truth to conspiracy theories doesn't always work.

Best advice, research well, attempt to discuss and show truth data but don't expect a miracle or substantial change. Sorry it's a friend, but I've had to cut many friendships off from that stuff. Sucks.

 

[Minerva_Minx]

Conspiracy theories by definition are emotional and not logical. I smile, flirting, and try to change topics as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, even showing truth to conspiracy theories doesn't always work.

Best advice, research well, attempt to discuss and show truth data but don't expect a miracle or substantial change. Sorry it's a friend, but I've had to cut many friendships off from that stuff. Sucks.

Sorry. Try 2 for 1 approach. Basically, agree on two related things/topics. Like no kidding agree. Then put forth 1 topic you disagree. Might work, but again it's a difficult climb

 

[Frank Gulotta]

I mean... I included photos of the console from every side including a link to a short private video that shows it in action, how much more proof do you need from an ebay listing? Also if you are suspicious of an item why spend any money on it in the first place? I would just move on and look for a different listing. It may not be too optimistical but I really believe they simply hope to find someone dumb or ignorant enough to accept their ridiculous offers or who doesn't know the value of what they're selling.

Ah, then I don't know

 

[Baron Tredegar]

Sorry. Try 2 for 1 approach. Basically, agree on two related things/topics. Like no kidding agree. Then put forth 1 topic you disagree. Might work, but again it's a difficult climb

Yeah, last night he sent me a youtube video with a very clickbaity title of a guy interviewing people at a pride parade and asking them simple questions they didnt know the answers to. I said it was pretty funny but that they probably only kept in the few people that were idiots. I sent him this morning a video showing right wing protestors with misspelled signs to see if he thinks thats funny.

It should also be worth noting that he lives with his mother who is a fucking nutjob who is %100 Qanon. She accused me of being brainwashed and started grilling my mother about my religious beliefs. When I went over to their house a couple months ago I saw a Chick tract on the fireplace.

 

[Punji]

I am starting to get very concerned about one of my friends. I think he is falling down the Qanon rabbit hole. Hes even started saying some things about the war in Ukraine thats blatant Russian propaganda and he frequently has been using anti trans rhetoric. I would provide more examples of some of the things hes said that has me really concerned but they involve touchy political topics. Does anyone here have any advice for what I should do? If you want any more info about some of the other things Ive heard him say just DM me.

Have you expressed discomfort with these ideas to him, or asked him to not bother you with it? He might not think he's doing anything wrong if you don't tell him/haven't already.

Healthy relationships have boundaries, and it's totally fine to ask him to spare you this nonsense when you don't enjoy hearing it.

 

[Baron Tredegar]

Have you expressed discomfort with these ideas to him, or asked him to not bother you with it? He might not think he's doing anything wrong if you don't tell him/haven't already.

Healthy relationships have boundaries, and it's totally fine to ask him to spare you this nonsense when you don't enjoy hearing it.

Ive tried and he will sometimes stop for a while but then keep doing it a couple of weeks later. It is really frustrating having a normal conversation and then he will suddenly start talking about "gay agendas" and start calling things "woke" and "degenerate."

 

[quoting_mungo]

Ive tried and he will sometimes stop for a while but then keep doing it a couple of weeks later. It is really frustrating having a normal conversation and then he will suddenly start talking about "gay agendas" and start calling things "woke" and "degenerate."

If he keeps going on about gay agendas, clearly you need to get him one.

 

[Judge Spear]

Spoiler: Headphone manufacturers are all dogshit

I have been looking for a single pair of headphones or a headset for like 5 years now. So far, every company I've tried cannot make a pair worth their ass.
I'm not talking about the sound quality. I'm talking about durability and design. No one seems to want to make a pair of headphones that doesn't have some backwards, constantly annoying design features. And even more so, no one at the very least wants to make a pair that won't disintegrate in 6 months.

I started with headsets because I figured I couldn't go wrong with a 2 in 1. I went with someone I trust that hasn't failed me in any other department, which was Logitech. I bought their tacky Artemis. The audio was great! Mic quality was crispy as well. They were heavy, but very comfortable, and the additional functionality was really handy.

They broke! c:
Actually fell to pieces as I was taking them off. Lasted for a year. But I had a warranty.
"Ok, I'll just...be a little more careful with how I put-"
They broke! c:
In the exact same way. Literally, the same fucking pieces, even the SHAPES of the fragmented pieces were the same! It was like some cartoon. 2 shitting weeks is how long they lasted!!

So fuck Logitech audio I guess.

SteelSeries! All my friends use these! Let's try these Arctis 7's!
Oh would you look at that! Broken in 2 years!
Ok, my geek friend whose opinions I trust is saying fuck headsets. So let's go for some real heavy hitters in the audio scene then with some actual headphones.
Sony! Can't go wrong with Sony! Except I did because they snapped in 8 months at the hinge.

Maybe there's some niche indie product that's pretty good. Saw a commercial for Status and my friend recommended them to me. So I get their flagship model thinking maybe I just need to splurge for higher quality. They sounded great, battery lasted for centuries, all of it's functions worked as advertised. They even looked great! Until one side broke off. c:

Ok, back to the big brands. Sennheiser just released a new model. It's fucking Sennheiser. They HAVE to be the ones.
Duds.
Right out of the box. Straight up didn't work. And felt like they were going to break like the rest too.

I don't ask for much. I just want some damn headphones. I'm not a snobby audiophile going "hmm the top end is tinny at 165dB".
All I want are headphones that go around the ear and won't cost me a million dollars. Something that can go bluetooth and plug in. I don't need the touch shit. ANC is cool, but I don't need it. I DON'T want Google assistant shit (Phillips). I just need shit that isn't trash like Beats, Raycons, or SkullCandy.
I've tried cheap ones. I've tried pricey ones. I've gone with lesser and bigger brands. All of them just break, do not function intuitively, or are fucked out of the box and I don't fucking get it.

 

[Frank Gulotta]

Gen X coworker is a drama queen

He made everybody late 40 minutes last saturday, got received by us a bit coldly and apparently an office manager was a bit rude afterwards, so he threatened to leave and more importantly, he's still whining about it now instead of accepting that he messed our day up (something we wouldn't even think about if he said he was sorry and would be more careful in the future or something like that). Guy's silly. Got a tattoo of SEGA, not sonic or anything like that just the fucking logo.
My near-retirement coworker said "it would be as if I had a tattoo that reads 'MONOPOLY'"

 

[Fallowfox]

Ive tried and he will sometimes stop for a while but then keep doing it a couple of weeks later. It is really frustrating having a normal conversation and then he will suddenly start talking about "gay agendas" and start calling things "woke" and "degenerate."

In the UK weather presenters are getting sent threatening letters accusing them of being 'woke', for mentioning climate change in relation to the 40C weather, and the worst fires since WWII.
So somewhere in England there will have been an angry English skinhead who spent his morning harassing weather forecasters, and who spent his evening being rescued from his burning home. S:

These words basically just give people an excuse to avoid thinking about anything, I guess.
I have to confess I would probably give up on your friend if I were in your position.

 

[Fallowfox]

I don't know man. Maybe I'm just a literal imbecile but I think that maybe if an employer hires someone and they state multiple times that no previous experience or knowledge is required, that the same employer would at least spend more than idk 20 minutes to train the employee or at least be there to help them when they stumble across something they have never seen before and don't know how to handle at all. Maybe when the employee makes the same mistake like 10 times in a row, it might be a good idea to pull them to the side and ask them to show you what their thought process is, and then correct them and explain why they are wrong.

But maybe it's just me and I'm not really a good fit for this world.

Perhaps there have been previous employees who had similar problems and who now know the solutions. Can you shadow anybody to learn on the job?

Good luck settling in and I am sure you will, even if it is not this specific job, find something that fits.

 

[The_Happiest_Husky]

Work hired a new manager, obese guy who never helps out (which is expected of managers here), tells us constantly to go faster, gets upset with us for his own mistakes, and gets in the way as he stands in the middle of everything eating

And like, he's a nice guy. We thought he was gonna be a great manager. But for some reason he does this and won't think about changing

 

[Punji]

I don't think I've ever dealt with one single manager who was consistently useful in any job.

Last one he was occasionally useful but more often than not he was just there. Except when he wasn't, because he was on vacation during the highest workloads to make sure he wouldn't be useful on days when he was needed.

 

[The_Happiest_Husky]

I don't think I've ever dealt with one single manager who was consistently useful in any job.

Last one he was occasionally useful but more often than not he was just there. Except when he wasn't, because he was on vacation during the highest workloads to make sure he wouldn't be useful on days when he was needed.

We're lucky, while wo do have this one guy, our other two managers are not only super helpful, but actually better and faster than any of us on the line. Just sucks when he's the shift manager

 

[Miles Marsalis]

I don't know man. Maybe I'm just a literal imbecile but I think that maybe if an employer hires someone and they state multiple times that no previous experience or knowledge is required, that the same employer would at least spend more than idk 20 minutes to train the employee or at least be there to help them when they stumble across something they have never seen before and don't know how to handle at all. Maybe when the employee makes the same mistake like 10 times in a row, it might be a good idea to pull them to the side and ask them to show you what their thought process is, and then correct them and explain why they are wrong.

But maybe it's just me and I'm not really a good fit for this world.

A lot of employers expect you to know the job even if they explicitly say no experience is required to get people for the position. It's not right and counterproductive, but it happens.

Since you're not able to get coworkers to assist with the problems you're having, you're going to need to study on your off time what exactly you need to do your job. I know what you do, but I don't know what the specific aspects of job you're having problems with. However, I do know there are resources for the field you're in and probably tutorials that could teach what you need to know. It can suck to be taking your own time to learn aspects of the job when you could relaxing, but it might be your only option if you want to stay in the position and you should always be looking out for ways to do your work better. Furthermore, you've been concerned about having no skills or experience; this setback might be an opportunity to acquire some. (Though you have rather good language skills.)

As a backup, it might be prudent to keep applying to other jobs regularly until you're more confident in your ability to do the job.

 

[Smityyyy]

There are no sources and no tutorials and no theory or examples that apply in any way for the specific software that this company uses.
I look at an invoice, on it I see only one date written and I must fill in AT LEAST 4 dates in the program we use. Are all those four dates the same as the one written on the invoice? Fuck if I know, no one told me, there is no guidelines or tutorial or manual.

I was told to literally copy what is written on the invoice. Well the invoice has a deposit return of some sort, or a cancellation. On the invoice, it is written a payment with a negative value. So I write the negative value in the app and it's wrong. I must never EVER write a negative money value. But I was told to write what I see. So how in the fuck do I process the negative value payment? The invoice shows -126.74€ but I'm not supposed to write that. Well good luck figuring it out.

Don’t have much advice to offer but I’ll offer you some sympathy. Hope everything works out alright for ya, Rimna. Settling into new jobs can be really hard and as @Miles Marsalis mentioned — it seems like most employers will say job is entry level and/or requires no experience but then expect you to know what to do nearly straight away. Hang in there <3

 

[Miles Marsalis]

There are no sources and no tutorials and no theory or examples that apply in any way for the specific software that this company uses.
I look at an invoice, on it I see only one date written and I must fill in AT LEAST 4 dates in the program we use. Are all those four dates the same as the one written on the invoice? Fuck if I know, no one told me, there is no guidelines or tutorial or manual.

I was told to literally copy what is written on the invoice. Well the invoice has a deposit return of some sort, or a cancellation. On the invoice, it is written a payment with a negative value. So I write the negative value in the app and it's wrong. I must never EVER write a negative money value. But I was told to write what I see. So how in the fuck do I process the negative value payment? The invoice shows -126.74€ but I'm not supposed to write that. Well good luck figuring it out.

You could give the name of the software; unless it's proprietary, I can see if there are resources to help you. However, if it's software, there has to some sort of manual for it. Customer service for the software might be able to assist you or at least direct to you a manual PDF.

But from what you're saying, you're coworkers seem to have some idea of what they're doing; they either know the job from previous experience or got some training. Ask how they learned what they know if they won't tell you how to fix the mistakes. Press on them on it.

 

[Minerva_Minx]

I don't know man. Maybe I'm just a literal imbecile but I think that maybe if an employer hires someone and they state multiple times that no previous experience or knowledge is required, that the same employer would at least spend more than idk 20 minutes to train the employee or at least be there to help them when they stumble across something they have never seen before and don't know how to handle at all. Maybe when the employee makes the same mistake like 10 times in a row, it might be a good idea to pull them to the side and ask them to show you what their thought process is, and then correct them and explain why they are wrong.

But maybe it's just me and I'm not really a good fit for this world.

Your supervisor is missing skills as well.

 

[Miles Marsalis]

Don’t have much advice to offer but I’ll offer you some sympathy. Hope everything works out alright for ya, Rimna. Settling into new jobs can be really hard and as @Miles Marsalis mentioned — it seems like most employers will say job is entry level and/or requires no experience but then expect you to know what to do nearly straight away. Hang in there <3

I wouldn't say most, but many do, because they to fill the position quickly. I've have clients do it and when my team reviews their hiring practices, we see it and the HR department will wonder why new hires aren't as performing well.

 

[Smityyyy]

I wouldn't say most, but many do, because they to fill the position quickly. I've have clients do it and when my team reviews their hiring practices, we see it and the HR department will wonder why new hires aren't as performing well.

Must just be my field then. When I first got into it, as well as my peers, a lot of the labs weren’t the best with training even though they claimed to be entirely entry level with no prior experience.

It’s unfortunate. Although, I have noticed (these days) that a lot of entry level jobs now require several years of experience. What a pain.

 

[Miles Marsalis]

Must just be my field then. When I first got into it, as well as my peers, a lot of the labs weren’t the best with training even though they claimed to be entirely entry level with no prior experience.

It’s unfortunate. Although, I have noticed (these days) that a lot of entry level jobs now require several years of experience. What a pain.

To a degree, a lot of employers tend to stack qualifications for entry level jobs that don't really warrant that. On one hand, it freezes out prospective employees who would be dead weight and can get employees with advanced experience who know the job and require little to no training. On the other, it can prevent talent such who may be college and trade school graduates that don't have on-the-job experience from applying or being considered.

The good news is that many employers eventually develop realistic expectations and hire someone who may less experience than the stated criteria.

 

[SirRob]

Spoiler: Headphone manufacturers are all dogshit

I have been looking for a single pair of headphones or a headset for like 5 years now. So far, every company I've tried cannot make a pair worth their ass.
I'm not talking about the sound quality. I'm talking about durability and design. No one seems to want to make a pair of headphones that doesn't have some backwards, constantly annoying design features. And even more so, no one at the very least wants to make a pair that won't disintegrate in 6 months.

I started with headsets because I figured I couldn't go wrong with a 2 in 1. I went with someone I trust that hasn't failed me in any other department, which was Logitech. I bought their tacky Artemis. The audio was great! Mic quality was crispy as well. They were heavy, but very comfortable, and the additional functionality was really handy.

They broke! c:
Actually fell to pieces as I was taking them off. Lasted for a year. But I had a warranty.
"Ok, I'll just...be a little more careful with how I put-"
They broke! c:
In the exact same way. Literally, the same fucking pieces, even the SHAPES of the fragmented pieces were the same! It was like some cartoon. 2 shitting weeks is how long they lasted!!

So fuck Logitech audio I guess.

SteelSeries! All my friends use these! Let's try these Arctis 7's!
Oh would you look at that! Broken in 2 years!
Ok, my geek friend whose opinions I trust is saying fuck headsets. So let's go for some real heavy hitters in the audio scene then with some actual headphones.
Sony! Can't go wrong with Sony! Except I did because they snapped in 8 months at the hinge.

Maybe there's some niche indie product that's pretty good. Saw a commercial for Status and my friend recommended them to me. So I get their flagship model thinking maybe I just need to splurge for higher quality. They sounded great, battery lasted for centuries, all of it's functions worked as advertised. They even looked great! Until one side broke off. c:

Ok, back to the big brands. Sennheiser just released a new model. It's fucking Sennheiser. They HAVE to be the ones.
Duds.
Right out of the box. Straight up didn't work. And felt like they were going to break like the rest too.

I don't ask for much. I just want some damn headphones. I'm not a snobby audiophile going "hmm the top end is tinny at 165dB".
All I want are headphones that go around the ear and won't cost me a million dollars. Something that can go bluetooth and plug in. I don't need the touch shit. ANC is cool, but I don't need it. I DON'T want Google assistant shit (Phillips). I just need shit that isn't trash like Beats, Raycons, or SkullCandy.
I've tried cheap ones. I've tried pricey ones. I've gone with lesser and bigger brands. All of them just break, do not function intuitively, or are fucked out of the box and I don't fucking get it.

If that many headphones are breaking on you, the problem might be you

 

[Miles Marsalis]

Spoiler: Headphone manufacturers are all dogshit

I have been looking for a single pair of headphones or a headset for like 5 years now. So far, every company I've tried cannot make a pair worth their ass.
I'm not talking about the sound quality. I'm talking about durability and design. No one seems to want to make a pair of headphones that doesn't have some backwards, constantly annoying design features. And even more so, no one at the very least wants to make a pair that won't disintegrate in 6 months.

I started with headsets because I figured I couldn't go wrong with a 2 in 1. I went with someone I trust that hasn't failed me in any other department, which was Logitech. I bought their tacky Artemis. The audio was great! Mic quality was crispy as well. They were heavy, but very comfortable, and the additional functionality was really handy.

They broke! c:
Actually fell to pieces as I was taking them off. Lasted for a year. But I had a warranty.
"Ok, I'll just...be a little more careful with how I put-"
They broke! c:
In the exact same way. Literally, the same fucking pieces, even the SHAPES of the fragmented pieces were the same! It was like some cartoon. 2 shitting weeks is how long they lasted!!

So fuck Logitech audio I guess.

SteelSeries! All my friends use these! Let's try these Arctis 7's!
Oh would you look at that! Broken in 2 years!
Ok, my geek friend whose opinions I trust is saying fuck headsets. So let's go for some real heavy hitters in the audio scene then with some actual headphones.
Sony! Can't go wrong with Sony! Except I did because they snapped in 8 months at the hinge.

Maybe there's some niche indie product that's pretty good. Saw a commercial for Status and my friend recommended them to me. So I get their flagship model thinking maybe I just need to splurge for higher quality. They sounded great, battery lasted for centuries, all of it's functions worked as advertised. They even looked great! Until one side broke off. c:

Ok, back to the big brands. Sennheiser just released a new model. It's fucking Sennheiser. They HAVE to be the ones.
Duds.
Right out of the box. Straight up didn't work. And felt like they were going to break like the rest too.

I don't ask for much. I just want some damn headphones. I'm not a snobby audiophile going "hmm the top end is tinny at 165dB".
All I want are headphones that go around the ear and won't cost me a million dollars. Something that can go bluetooth and plug in. I don't need the touch shit. ANC is cool, but I don't need it. I DON'T want Google assistant shit (Phillips). I just need shit that isn't trash like Beats, Raycons, or SkullCandy.
I've tried cheap ones. I've tried pricey ones. I've gone with lesser and bigger brands. All of them just break, do not function intuitively, or are fucked out of the box and I don't fucking get it.

Polaroid makes cheap, but decent headphones with Bluetooth capability along jacks for plugging in. The sound is good as well.

I try not spend more than $25 on headphones since most don't hold up for years, though. It's easier to miss cheap headphones.