Beyond pissed. At work today, I was taking care of my old dude as usual and he asked me to change his diaper early since I usually do it before I leave. So after I was done, his daughter made mention that his bottom sheet needs to be changed. I said, 'OK' and went to go do that. I told my guy that I was going to change his bottom sheet. He said that he was in pain and didn't want to do it. Understandable. He has days were he doesn't want to do anything because he's in pain. So I told him okay, but I'll need to change it the next day. His daughter then says, "Do you want to wait until so and so comes to change your bottom sheet because she does it better than (my name)"?" I was fucking mad. Like, furious that she even said that. I do things differently but apparently she doesn't like the way I do it. If my client told me that he doesn't like that, then I understand. He's very vocal to what he needs. But I was upset. Not only I was taking out his trash, which I do anyway, but I have to pick up the trash his daughter leaves at the door when I arrive. Mind you, when I get there, she was on her computer. So why is it so hard to throw out the trash? Like her sister does it when she leaves for work, but this one doesn't. She just leaves trash and boxes, expecting me to clean it up. She does the same thing when it comes to laundry. She waits until I arrive on Monday with his clothes and bedding on the couch. She doesn't even pick up his cups that he uses to drink his milk or fruit drinks. Fucking fruit flies are at it, some dead ones in there or flying around it. Every time, I would check his milk because there has been a couple times were the milk was curdled and I throw it out and make him a new one. AND ONCE AGAIN, his daughter would be at her computer or asleep. So I make it thing now to change his milk every morning because I don't trust her.
There was a time a month ago where he asked me to come on the weekend because he doesn't get a diaper change during the weekend. His daughter said, "Well if you tell me, then I can change it." There was a time before that where he would ask me for zip-loc bags. I asked why and he said that is where he puts his shit and tosses it in the trash. I was pretty horrified. Like, I get it, you don't want to look at his private parts, but leaving him to do that? That's fucking disgusting.
She doesn't even do the dishes most of the time I'm there. When I need a dish for his food, I have to clean some bowls so that he could eat.
His daughter is making an effort now because she wants to make money taking care of him. But, the only thing that she does is cook for him (I cook for him in the daytime) and give him his pills. Even then, I don't know if she does it right since I've talked to his nurse before and she said that he hasn't any medication orders since June or July. We're in October. You cannot tell me that he's been taking them. They tell me like, "Oh, these ones keeps him from eating." Um, no, these drugs promotes him to eat. "Morphine makes him sleepy". Well, if he needs Morphine, there's a reason, right? "His depression medications make him sleepy." Give it to him at night then. Or ask the nurse to make it a night med. "Oh his oxygen makes him tired." He needs his oxygen to fucking breath. It was wonderful today, walking in and he didn't have his cannula on and his oxygen tank was off. They complain that it's too loud at night. Fucking get over it. It's in the bathroom. Close the bathroom door. I'm sorry your needs trumps your fathers and you claim that you are taking care of him. That's bullshit. I'm with him for a couple of hours and I make sure that he needs are met. I sit with him because it's companion care. I'm sorry I'm not cleaning your house because you're too fucking lazy to do it. I remember when I first started working with him, the first thing that she said to me was, "Hey, can you clean the tub?" I went to ask his other daughter because I was told he was bed bound. His other daughter confirmed that he was bed bound and that her sister can do it herself.
Sorry for this vent, but today just opened a can of worms.
