Woozle
Honey, you should see me in a crown.
That's horrible. I hope he's okay. Poor kid.
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That's horrible. I hope he's okay. Poor kid.
Raever
Chaotic Neutral Wreckage
I don't usually use heavy roleplay to express myself in general chatter like this but...
*clears throat and slowly raises baseball bat*
I sincerely hope the police find them before we do.
For their own safety. *beats up the tree with ze cat because emotional support!*
Honey Lavender;
Worse than a grounded pilot: a grounded pegasus
Just offering potential explanations... nothing definitive
Honey Lavender;
Worse than a grounded pilot: a grounded pegasus
Something something 9mm kills the body, .45 ACP kills the soul?
Seriously, though. Fudd lore aside, I genuinely do not take kindly to people who mistreat kids
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Kellan Meig'h
Kilted Luthier
Aw Naw! Now some scum has crossed the line! *sounds of an enraged parent test-swinging a baseball bat* I hope the police find the perp first. I know if I was still on a beat and found the d00d, my body cam would have a malfunction right before I cuffed 'em. He would also show up at the emergency room first due to being pepper sprayed in every availble orifice and scuffed up from a meeting with my Asp baton. I do not have a bit of sympathy for scum-sucking assholes like that.
Amepix
Some Furry Artist
you beat me to it. How dare you
Frank Gulotta
Send us your floppy
Maybe you'll set a new beanie trend.
Frank Gulotta
Send us your floppy
Some dipshit rammed my car! it's got no damage except for a tiny barely visible scratch, what made me angry is the instant "it's your fault" attitude she had, first thing she said "it's your fault you shouldn't stop so fast"...I stopped for a pedestrian who wanted to cross the road on a crossing which was plainly visible! I didn't even stop that suddenly, and the fact I had no damage (despite a direct hit from her obnoxious SUV) proves that we weren't going fast at all; which proves without a doubt that she was just either driving WAY too close to me or had the reflexes of a barnacle! or both!
Minerva_Minx
Explosion loving skooma cat
How's your son?
I loathe bad drivers. But thank you for stopping as most people just ignore the fact of a protected crosswalk and either go faster to beat you or recklessly drive around you.
Kinguyakki
Alignment: Chaotic Stupid
Lazy workers, and supervisors who know who the lazy workers are but don't do anything about them. People who are on their cell phones while they're supposed to be working. I get that people have emergencies and situations where they need to be available - but casino games and chat with the girlfriend is not an emergency. Put the phone away and do your job. There are absolutely some people who deserve to get fired, and I will not feel sorry for them when it happens.
Mambi
Fun loving kitty cat
He's doing better today. He was in pain all that night but eventually it faded, and no permanent physical damage at least. He has some good bruises on his face and arms but they should heal no issues, and the phone was given to him so aside from personal loss, no monetary loss. He's now very interested in me teaching him kung-fu mind you, which I was always happy to do but now he's motivated personally (I've known how to do it since I was a teenager).
He's still pretty traumatized mind you...the first time being beaten up by idiots always is the hardest (I speak from experience sadly, a school full of assholes is what motivated me to learn martial arts early on) so he's dealing with the frustration helplessness and general fear to run into them well enough. He's afraid to see them at school, and afraid to even pursue any charges, as he knows in the end the kids will just be right back in a few weeks even if they get punished, and then they'll be targeting him as a snitch for revenge as opposed to the randomness of the initial attack. Frankly he just wants the whole thing to go away and never come back, and it hurt to tell him that school traps you with these kind of bullies so I have no good answers.
...now if *I* run into them sometime, that may be another matter. <snarl>
It's going to take some time before he's comfortable again I think but he's a smart kid and is treating this like a life-lesson. He was getting too casual with his surroundings, being 12 and all, but now he sees that caution is required and he's not invincible. A painful lesson mind you, but at least some good can come from this shit sandwich. I feel for him, and will help him all I can, but overall I think he'll be ok in the end with enough time and hugs.
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I don't know if he's verbally conveyed this to you---or perhaps he's done it in a nonverbal manner and your parental intuition picked up on it---but your little dude's self-esteem is probably shot right now. Probably feels powerless to defend himself. This really sucks and I'm sorry that happened to him.
Teaching him to fight will fix this though. I don't know much of anything about kung-fu but I've known several guys who picked up wrestling (for ground fighting and grappling) and boxing (for striking) to better handle themselves and they were better for it both mentally and physically. I also wouldn't waste time getting the school's administration involved because they're not going to do shit about it. They never do.
From my experience in the world of boys, bullying (generally) stops when you get violent. The more violent you get, the sooner it ceases. Bullies of that age are like unruly animals. They only understand the boot.
Once your son is trained up, don't punish him if he lays out some shitter at school in self-defense. The biggest mistake my parents did was punish me for getting into fights at school. All it does is teach the kid that defending themselves, probably the first or second most valuable person that an individual knows, is somehow wrong.
Fallowfox
Are we moomin, or are we dancer?
Yes get the school's admin involved. In general don't encourage children to solve their conflicts with violence, because they're going to be tomorrow's adults, and they'll continue to behave the same way.
Yes learn a martial art if it increases your confidence, and if you want the physical and emotional discipline. Most martial artists will advise you though that the best thing to do if you think a fight is about to start is to leave, because you could easily be outnumbered, or attacked with a weapon you cannot defend yourself against.
Yes learn a martial art if it increases your confidence, and if you want the physical and emotional discipline. Most martial artists will advise you though that the best thing to do if you think a fight is about to start is to leave, because you could easily be outnumbered, or attacked with a weapon you cannot defend yourself against.
Firuthi Dragovic
World Serpent, overly defensive
Mambi's enough of a firebrand that it might actually work.
I got split between the uprights (like, requiring hospitalization kind of split) in a disastrous case of bullying at his kid's age. School actually tried to brush it off as "boys will be boys". Getting the culprit suspended for the year required my mother to raise a massive stink.
So not every parent can get the school to listen, but Mambi really should try.
Miles Marsalis
The Last DJ.
@Mambi , you should lean on the school administration to step if there is a wider bullying problem and I hope your kid is okay, but it's worth pointing out that if your son was maced and hospitalized ... you should file a police report because that is assault. I guarantee you legal consequences will make that kid's parents sort him out and it will put the school on notice, since they could be sued if this happened on the premises.
The best to your family.
The best to your family.
Baron Tredegar
Master of Forgotten Lore
Its always great when your left alone at home. Im sorry they yell at you like that.
Punji
Daedric Prince of Secrets
Violence as a solution is an important lesson to learn, but it's also one few people learn correctly. It works and sometimes it's necessary, but it usually carries unfortunate consequences and doesn't always solve the problem. Too many people are reliant on it when it's not a solution. Most people should never have to rely on serious violence in their lives, though it sure gets suggested a lot.
I do second ignoring the school system. They never do anything for anyone. If the attackers are known (and exist) this would be a criminal offence and the police will be more likely to respond to such a complaint.
I do second ignoring the school system. They never do anything for anyone. If the attackers are known (and exist) this would be a criminal offence and the police will be more likely to respond to such a complaint.
Firuthi Dragovic
World Serpent, overly defensive
In less depressing news, I've switched houses. Now it's my parents in one house, my brother and his wife off in the city... and me alone in the house where I grew up.
I'm not truly living on my own yet - I will have to worry about dogs (which means my tail - yes, seriously, I have a tail I got at a convention some years back, sadly it's a blue-and-purple striped cat tail and not a gator or dragon tail - and any of my plushies or hats can't be on lower racks) being here a couple days a week, and I do have some house maintenance stuff I might not have to worry about if this were truly my own place.
Some observations:
-A 40 inch TV is NUTS as a computer monitor, even if it means I can only go 1920x1080. So now I'm rocking three monitors technically.
-I have way more clothes stashed than I expected to have, and it is really time for me to consider throwing out or donating some.
-Moving 4 heavy shelves and a bunch of smaller carts, alone (it's an issue of independence, not machismo) in a single day, is murder on the legs. I made the mistake of trying to haul all my laundry over on day 2, and I was REALLY out of it today.
-No more need for headphones, thank god!
-I have a lot of paranoia to undo regarding housework.
I have a few minor things that I need to carry over still, but I'll deal with that in the next week or so.
I'm not truly living on my own yet - I will have to worry about dogs (which means my tail - yes, seriously, I have a tail I got at a convention some years back, sadly it's a blue-and-purple striped cat tail and not a gator or dragon tail - and any of my plushies or hats can't be on lower racks) being here a couple days a week, and I do have some house maintenance stuff I might not have to worry about if this were truly my own place.
Some observations:
-A 40 inch TV is NUTS as a computer monitor, even if it means I can only go 1920x1080. So now I'm rocking three monitors technically.
-I have way more clothes stashed than I expected to have, and it is really time for me to consider throwing out or donating some.
-Moving 4 heavy shelves and a bunch of smaller carts, alone (it's an issue of independence, not machismo) in a single day, is murder on the legs. I made the mistake of trying to haul all my laundry over on day 2, and I was REALLY out of it today.
-No more need for headphones, thank god!
-I have a lot of paranoia to undo regarding housework.
I have a few minor things that I need to carry over still, but I'll deal with that in the next week or so.
TyraWadman
The Brutally Honest Man-Child
I remember those days. Sorry you have to deal with that. I know it's easier said than done, but I promise you'll be much happier once you save up and move out.
Woozle
Honey, you should see me in a crown.
I'm in touch with dignitas. I want it to end. I've been trying to top myself for years; maybe I need professional help to do it properly. I'm feeling hopeful but I can't escape from the fear of death.
That's kind of weird. I want to die but I'm scared of dying. Wtf.
Does it hurt? Will I go to Hell? What does it feel like to *not exist*?
Don't say it.
That's kind of weird. I want to die but I'm scared of dying. Wtf.
Does it hurt? Will I go to Hell? What does it feel like to *not exist*?
Don't say it.
Mambi
Fun loving kitty cat
The police were the ones that called ME, so they know. When I arrived, the police were there with the ambulance as they were helping him, catalogued his wounds, took his statement, and the cops were right beside me when we walked to where it happened and they found the smashed phone and the canister of the spray, which they collected. They 100% are aware and involved, as is the school principal (I was talking to him today and told everything). The cops are going to be useless of course, as expected, but at least it's reported.
Mambi
Fun loving kitty cat
No, but at least they know about it, and that's all I can do. Sadly I know about bullies and am keeping my expectations low.
Solved my bullying problem when I learned how to fought back. The catch is using violence to solve the problem only puts you in their world, where all problems are solved with violence and so you end up giving them exactly what they want. Still though I will be teaching him how to defend properly.
Oh I would never do that! My own father is a perfect example of this. One day on the schoolbus I was attacked and fought back very successfully, leaving the other guy broken and bleeding. The bus driver even said as I was exiting "I never saw anything", knowing that he deserved it becasue he watched the whole thing. By that time I was very good at kung-fu (Mantis style) so it was a very quick fight. <giggle>
When my father heard the story, all he said was "Did they deserve it?" I nodded yes, he nodded back, and that was that, nothing more said. I would do the same because I trust him and would always give him a chance to prove he didn't start the fight. To punish him for being attacked is only hurting him even more and I could never do that.