Vent Thread

[Deleted member 160111]

Guys, just don't answer him. This is the best you can do.

 

[RamblingRenegade]

Hey I forgot there was a block button.. now I can go back to venting in the venting thread..LOL

 

[Amepix]

Almost certainly longer than you'd like.

Just telling people to go to therapy and all that, then proceeding to argue with that person isn't gonna solve the problem. Just like a cut to the hand, everything takes time to heal, and for some people, that's a very, very long time. And sometimes, things can't be healed. Fuck off, and you know you've made me mad, because I didn't censor the word FUCK.

 

[RamblingRenegade]

Just telling people to go to therapy and all that, then proceeding to argue with that person isn't gonna solve the problem. Just like a cut to the hand, everything takes time to heal, and for some people, that's a very, very long time. And sometimes, things can't be healed. Fuck off, and you know you've made me mad, because I didn't censor the word FUCK.

just hit the ignore button and you can't read or they can't bother you anymore

 

[Amepix]

just hit the ignore button and you can't read or they can't bother you anymore

nah, I'm looking forward to entertaining myself with this argument.

 

[BooTheHamster]

Just telling people to go to therapy and all that, then proceeding to argue with that person isn't gonna solve the problem. Just like a cut to the hand, everything takes time to heal, and for some people, that's a very, very long time. And sometimes, things can't be healed. Fuck off, and you know you've made me mad, because I didn't censor the word FUCK.

No, them avoiding indulging in the art of vitriolic rage and threats of bodily harm as public spectacle would certainly help a bit though. And avoiding alcohol as a way to self-medicate, in one's case.

If the truth makes you angry, then strongly consider why it does that.

 

[Amepix]

No, them avoiding indulging in the art of vitriolic rage and threats of bodily harm as public spectacle would certainly help a bit though.

If the truth makes you angry, then strongly consider why it does that.

It makes me angry when you try to force things upon other people. As I said, time heals all wounds, and in this thread, they can vent their feelings, getting them out of their system.

Now, tell me. If you were being forced to do something, would you feel any better?

 

[BooTheHamster]

It makes me angry when you try to force things upon other people. As I said, time heals all wounds, and in this thread, they can vent their feelings, getting them out of their system.

Now, tell me. If you were being forced to do something, would you feel any better?

When venting feelings, it is generally advisable to not advertise too loudly that you intend to physically harm others.

To your question: I am not FORCING anyone to do anything. I do not have that power. I very, very strongly recommend that people not conflate venting with threats of bodily harm. Anger is normal. Threatening people? Not so much.

 

[Amepix]

When venting feelings, it is generally advisable to not advertise too loudly that you intend to physically harm others.

To your question: I am not FORCING anyone to do anything. I do not have that power. I very, very strongly recommend that people not conflate venting with threats of bodily harm. Anger is normal. Threatening people? Not so much.

Yes, but if you want to actually help someone, I find it best to listen to what they want. If anyone talking about violet actions does in fact act upon them. Then, sure, I'd agree to therapy. But if they have self control and try to get their feelings out by venting about their emotions, that's perfectly fine. Would you rather them keep those emotions bottled up?

 

[RamblingRenegade]

I mean if they actually went to therapy they would understand part of therapy is venting your emotions and bitching about what is hurting you, it's part of the steps to recovery

 

[Amepix]

I mean if they actually went to therapy they would understand part of therapy is venting your emotions and bitching about what is hurting you, it's part of the steps to recovery

Exactly

 

[BooTheHamster]

Yes, but if you want to actually help someone, I find it best to listen to what they want. If anyone talking about violet actions does in fact act upon them. Then, sure, I'd agree to therapy. But if they have self control and try to get their feelings out by venting about their emotions, that's perfectly fine. Would you rather them keep those emotions bottled up?

Saying "I'm going to hurt that guy for belching near me if he gave me some illness from his belch-fumes" instead of "I am exceedingly upset by rude, unmannerly, unhygienic people impinging on my space" isn't venting. It's a threat.

I mean if they actually went to therapy they would understand part of therapy is venting your emotions and bitching about what is hurting you, it's part of the steps to recovery

Part of therapy is identifying stressors and learning to reframe things in your mind in a way that doesn't lead to explosive, vitriolic outbursts promising harm to others, which only WORSEN your situation.

 

[Amepix]

Saying "I'm going to hurt that guy for belching near me if he gave me some illness from his belch-fumes" instead of "I am exceedingly upset by rude, unmannerly, unhygienic people impinging on my space" isn't venting. It's a threat.

Oh no! They didn't use fancy words in a thread about letting your emotions out! Boo hoo!

And honestly, I can understand getting mad at somebody for getting you sick. Being sick is awful, and knowing it could have been prevented makes you all the more upset. People tend to act a bit differently when they're sick, or getting sick. Believe me, I'd know.

 

[BooTheHamster]

Oh no! They didn't use fancy words in a thread about letting your emotions out! Boo hoo!

And honestly, I can understand getting mad at somebody for getting you sick. Being sick is awful, and knowing it could have been prevented makes you all the more upset. People tend to act a bit differently when they're sick, or getting sick. Believe me, I'd know.

I think most ANYONE can understand getting mad at another person getting them sick via carelessness. You'll find very few people entertain the idea of committing assault and battery as an appropriate response.

If you intend to nitpick vocabulary, I would remind you that the words you choose to articulate a feeling do indeed matter a LOT in therapeutic settings. (The better way to reframe is actually "I feel upset", as this gives you a way to step back from the negative feeling and acknowledge it while not letting it BECOME and DEFINE you.) It need not be "fancy" words, but some are much more helpful than others.

 

[RamblingRenegade]

 

[RamblingRenegade]

turn lyrics on lol

 

[Amepix]

I think most ANYONE can understand getting mad at another person getting them sick via carelessness. You'll find very few people entertain the idea of committing assault and battery as an appropriate response.

Everyone is a little different. And they'd have a reason as to why they see it as an appropriate response. It'd also depend on what the harm is, too. Sure, I know it's wrong to hurt people, and so do other people. But in all honesty, everyone can and will hurt someone, it's in all our brains naturally, I don't quite remember what this part of the brain called, but for some people, it's stronger than it is for others.

I've hurt people before, and felt bad afterword and apologized. Some people may not want to go to therapy, or have tired it and it just wasn't right for them. Not everything works for everyone. I can't understand what not having a love life is like, as an Asexual man, I don't feel the need for that. But what I do understand is that everyone is different and will react differently.

I can understand wanting to hurt someone for something they did, but they can try to get these feelings out of their head, and thereby the impulse to comit that harm, out of their system by venting. And what do you do with a therapist? Vent your emotions. What they're doing here isn't much different than therapy, it's just without the therapist. But all the same, sometimes the best thing to do is let it all out.

I have been Choco Licious, and thank you for coming to my ted talk.

 

[BooTheHamster]

Everyone is a little different. And they'd have a reason as to why they see it as an appropriate response. It'd also depend on what the harm is, too. Sure, I know it's wrong to hurt people, and so do other people. But in all honesty, everyone can and will hurt someone, it's in all our brains naturally, I don't quite remember what this part of the brain called, but for some people, it's stronger than it is for others.

I've hurt people before, and felt bad afterword and apologized. Some people may not want to go to therapy, or have tired it and it just wasn't right for them. Not everything works for everyone. I can't understand what not having a love life is like, as an Asexual man, I don't feel the need for that. But what I do understand is that everyone is different and will react differently.

I can understand wanting to hurt someone for something they did, but they can try to get these feelings out of their head, and thereby the impulse to comit that harm, out of their system by venting. And what do you do with a therapist? Vent your emotions. What they're doing here isn't much different than therapy, it's just without the therapist. But all the same, sometimes the best thing to do is let it all out.

I have been Choco Licious, and thank you for coming to my ted talk.

Indulging those who think threats of violence are appropriate expressions of anger and frustration is not helping them in any sense. It really isn't. Hollering about intending to commit violent acts is not typically helpful for the prevention of such. Moreover, an expression of anger or frustration voiced as a threat of bodily harm does not tend to elicit empathy for your plight from others. It tends to put them off. It closes doors. People do that a lot. They close doors that don't need to be closed, and trap themselves.

turn lyrics on lol

I prefer these in the present context.

 

[Amepix]

Indulging those who think threats of violence are appropriate expressions of anger and frustration is not helping them in any sense. It really isn't. Hollering about intending to commit violent acts is not typically helpful for the prevention of such.




I prefer these in the present context.

Did you not hear me say that, yes, it's wrong. But with out some people's lives have gone, they'd have a different psychology, and see certain actions differently. Not one person on this planet is the same, and never will be. I've thought about committing violet actions on occasion, but I've restrained myself. And these were when my emotions got really out of check, and venting helped. So yes, venting does in fact help.

Do you wanna hear this? I almost committed suicide, but thankfully my friends were there to help me vent my feelings out and I've been better ever since. Venting does help, shut your mouth, go read a book on psychology, and have a nice day.

 

[Vino The Strange-One]

We should make a 'Fighting Thread' if you guys are stilll going to keep arguing. (Or maybe it's called a 'Debate Thread')

Lol

 

[BooTheHamster]

Did you not hear me say that, yes, it's wrong. But with out some people's lives have gone, they'd have a different psychology, and see certain actions differently. Not one person on this planet is the same, and never will be. I've thought about committing violet actions on occasion, but I've restrained myself. And these were when my emotions got really out of check, and venting helped. So yes, venting does in fact help.

Do you wanna hear this? I almost committed suicide, but thankfully my friends were there to help me vent my feelings out and I've been better ever since. Venting does help, shut your mouth, go read a book on psychology, and have a nice day.

There is no "but".

I have a few books on psychology.
I recommend this one.

Have a nice day.

 

[Vino The Strange-One]

There is no "but".

I have a few books on psychology.
I recommend this one.

Have a nice day.

Have a nice night too.

 

[Amepix]

There is no "but".

I have a few books on psychology.
I recommend this one.

Have a nice day.

You too, man. Just try to remember that these people make their own choices. And if they'd rather vent, then they're gonna vent. Now, if you don't mind, let's let people get back to using this thread for what it's for, alright? We're only human, after all.

 

[RamblingRenegade]

You too, man. Just try to remember that these people make their own choices. And if they'd rather vent, then they're gonna vent. Now, if you don't mind, let's let people get back to using this thread for what it's for, alright? We're only human, after all.

speak for yourself, here I'm a horse..lol

 

[Deleted member 160111]

We're only human, after all.

Yes. Where the hell do you see humans? *Scratching the horn*