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TyraWadman

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
BooTheHamster said:
I think the worst part for me is that the warning signs were always there, and I was stubbornly ignoring them or attributing them to my own flaws, or just clinging to the idea that I was capable of things I clearly was not.

I should have tapped out much, much sooner, but lol I'm a fucking dumbass.
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Right in the feels.

For me, I convinced myself the reason why I was miserable and alone is because I was too 'strict'. I needed to be 'fun' and 'let loose' like everyone else and ease my impossibly high standards...

Shoulda dropped his ass the first minute I felt something was off cause all he did was try to drain my soul. )8<
 
BooTheHamster

BooTheHamster

Banned
Banned
TyraWadman said:
Right in the feels.

For me, I convinced myself the reason why I was miserable and alone is because I was too 'strict'. I needed to be 'fun' and 'let loose' like everyone else and ease my impossibly high standards...

Shoulda dropped his ass the first minute I felt something was off cause all he did was try to drain my soul. )8<
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Rule 1: Narcs lie.
Rule 2: Narcs are INCAPABLE of love. See 1 if they claim otherwise.
Rule 3: The best way to deal with narcs is to go no contact. No exceptions, ever.

They will learn your boundaries so they can violate them. They will remember every single thing you did and it will be held against you the moment you have a problem with something they're doing. You won't convince them they're doing something wrong, that isn't even part of their mental calculus, so cut your damn losses and cut contact.
 
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TyraWadman

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
BooTheHamster said:
Rule 1: Narcs lie.
Rule 2: Narcs are INCAPABLE of love. See 1 if they claim otherwise.
Rule 3: The best way to deal with narcs is to go no contact. No exceptions, ever.

They will learn your boundaries so they can violate them. They will remember every single thing you did and it will be held against you the moment you have a problem with something they're doing. You won't convince them they're doing something wrong, that isn't even part of their mental calculus, so cut your damn losses and cut contact.
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100%!

The two people I dated always played the amnesia game. "Whaaat? I don't remember doing that but I'm sorry if I did???" Bullshit. )8<
 
Frank Gulotta

Frank Gulotta

Send us your floppy
It's frostbutt time again :'D
 
quoting_mungo

quoting_mungo

Well-Known Member
TyraWadman said:
The two people I dated always played the amnesia game. "Whaaat? I don't remember doing that but I'm sorry if I did???" Bullshit. )8<
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I genuinely feel terrible when I have to deliver that line. From me, it's 100% sincere, though - my memory is absolutely atrocious. Compounded by the fact that my brain will gladly create false memories that I then have to figure out were false.
But it's pretty obvious when people routinely "don't remember" things that are inconvenient to them. My dad used to do it all the time; thankfully he's gotten a bit better about it over the years (or maybe it's just me not living with parents' anymore meaning he's got less opportunity to do/say things to "not remember" later).
 
ssaannttoo

ssaannttoo

Joy Boi
BooTheHamster said:
Rule 1: Narcs lie.
Rule 2: Narcs are INCAPABLE of love. See 1 if they claim otherwise.
Rule 3: The best way to deal with narcs is to go no contact. No exceptions, ever.

They will learn your boundaries so they can violate them. They will remember every single thing you did and it will be held against you the moment you have a problem with something they're doing. You won't convince them they're doing something wrong, that isn't even part of their mental calculus, so cut your damn losses and cut contact.
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I dealt with one recently tbh… he was somebody I cared so deeply about I was happy when I was hanging out with him I was happy when we got to talk. But he would take liberties with some of the things I told him. He called my school against my wishes once, he would leave for weeks at a time before coming back, he would always be right about how people were treating me even if I told him otherwise. It sucked and it hurt more than I could have ever imagine. It was worse when he cut things off, again.
 
ssaannttoo

ssaannttoo

Joy Boi
ssaannttoo said:
I dealt with one recently tbh… he was somebody I cared so deeply about I was happy when I was hanging out with him I was happy when we got to talk. But he would take liberties with some of the things I told him. He called my school against my wishes once, he would leave for weeks at a time before coming back, he would always be right about how people were treating me even if I told him otherwise. It sucked and it hurt more than I could have ever imagine. It was worse when he cut things off, again.
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He would tell me things to get me to think he was on my side. I sorta bore my heart out to him a few times. He would tell me things about how he thought he liked me, then others he would talk about how much he hated wanting to be around me. He'd use the things I told him as arguments about how people were all trying to get things from me, that he was different. In the end it felt like he just wanted to control me, to make me do the things he viewed as right even if I didint agree.
 
Rimna

Rimna

Well-known Monkey
ssaannttoo said:
I dealt with one recently tbh… he was somebody I cared so deeply about I was happy when I was hanging out with him I was happy when we got to talk. But he would take liberties with some of the things I told him. He called my school against my wishes once, he would leave for weeks at a time before coming back, he would always be right about how people were treating me even if I told him otherwise. It sucked and it hurt more than I could have ever imagine. It was worse when he cut things off, again.
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This person called your school? That's scary! I hope you didn't get in trouble for it.
 
TrixieFox

TrixieFox

Blood Rose Faction Leader
I need a counselor thats free... I've heard TrevorChat is good... but IDK
 
ssaannttoo

ssaannttoo

Joy Boi
Rimna said:
This person called your school? That's scary! I hope you didn't get in trouble for it.
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I was kinda freaking out at the time when he told me. I wasnt contacted but it supposedly happened.
 
ssaannttoo

ssaannttoo

Joy Boi
I told him about something that happened in my family. And he called the school social services.
 
ben909

ben909

vaporeon character != mushroom characters
in his defense, do you think he had reason to think you were in danger?
 
BooTheHamster

BooTheHamster

Banned
Banned
Eyleifr said:
I caught a cold.
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Usually once they're already in full swing there's not much to do but ride it out. Fluids, rest, and stuff to treat the symptoms as they arise. Supposedly echinacea, zinc and vitamin C can help at the very start, if you notice it early enough, not sure they help in the middle of a full blown cold though. Hot tea with honey and lemon or similar is good, sometimes a warm damp towel wrapped around your head and sinus areas in particular can help from what I hear. Warm steamy showers can also help, if nothing else they feel nice.

I'd tentatively say just explain to your clients that you're under the weather and your ability to work is going to be impeded a bit while you fight off the funk, I would hope they'd understand.
 
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ssaannttoo

ssaannttoo

Joy Boi
ben909 said:
in his defense, do you think he had reason to think you were in danger?
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He said he didn't want me to get abused. I told him I wasnt, and I didint want him to do anything, and that if I needed it that I would reach out to social services myself. He did it anyways despite me asking him not to multiple times. It was that sorta thing a few times, where he put his judgement about my own situation above my own.
 
Fallowfox

Fallowfox

Are we moomin, or are we dancer?
Hole in my shoe. :\ Nearest shoe shop 5 miles away and expensive. Other shoe shops 7 or more miles away and I don't know whether they'll carry my foot size.

TyraWadman said:
100%!

The two people I dated always played the amnesia game. "Whaaat? I don't remember doing that but I'm sorry if I did???" Bullshit. )8<
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I still insist I don't remember dating you.
 
KimberVaile

KimberVaile

Self congratulatory title goes here
Fallowfox said:
Hole in my shoe. :\ Nearest shoe shop 5 miles away and expensive. Other shoe shops 7 or more miles away and I don't know whether they'll carry my foot size.
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You can always call their number and ask. Pretty sure Google can display local shoe shops and their numbers.
 
TyraWadman

TyraWadman

The Brutally Honest Man-Child
It looks like I got shot in the butt and now the wound won't close. It's huge and it hurts and I have to sit on it all day and I don't have enough money to buy a box of patches and even if I did I can't physically see the area I'd be applying it to.

I hate this
It's probably going to take over a month to heal and I hate it.
 
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