@Aprilycan @Chomby Just to be clear, I didn't say it's not possible for others to get connected with things they adopt, only that for me I need that creative process.
Specifically to Chomby... On a depressing note, I am an adopted child who has not adopted siblings and, while my parents say there's no difference, 100% they love my 1st brother more, especially my dad. They thought they couldn't have kids and so bought me, so when the miracle of birth occurred he was so special and they've shown it. I can hear the eyes rolling now, but that's how it is.
I've also had conversations with many people on the subject of adoption because it's the only way I'm willing to have a child, and they specifically said they felt that they couldn't love a child they adopted as much as one they made, so we couldn't go any farther than friends.
Now, you may be wondering, "why would you adopt a kid only, but can't adopt a character?" Well, see, the creation process isn't quite the same. With a kid, you can't decide every little detail about what they are and will become. Nature and nurture of course have a play, but overall they say who they will become. A character you can decide everything for, and I very much enjoy doing so, to the point that I can't imagine skipping all of that and just buying one. People who refuse to adopt kids say the same thing, they want to experience the process of having their own child at least once. I, as a female, am not the least bit interested in this process. xD Among other reasons for wanting to avoid anything else having my DNA, that process doesn't interest me at all.