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What in life drives you?

L.Rey

Lucas, the wanderer
Long term? Love. Would like to make a small but very good friend group, and our friendship would last forever. Would like to find my soulmate, have a few kids, and we'd all spend the rest of our days happy together. Now, I've already been through enough years and muck to know it's not all rainbows and sunshine as I might've made it sound. I ain't even promised tomorrow. Yet, there's a tiny part of me that still believes in that magic...so there's still hope that all that mush IS real, and could happen to me!
"Expect the worst, hope for the best." =)

Short term? Food. Nothing like a good meal to look forward to. Especially after a long day of work, school, or whatever! Very satisfying! Pretty sure we all eat, so it's something for all of us really!

Course, I wouldn't have made it this far without my family...especially my parents. Without them, I wouldn't be here...in more ways than one. Though most of my friends are gone, for one reason or another, I still cherish our fondest memories in my heart. Which...makes a full circle back to the beginning of this post...hehe.
 

StolenMadWolf

resident Lab Wolf
Dreams.

Well... honestly I don't know. I just get up and get on with stuff that needs doing or just whatever helps me pass the time of day. I mean, at the moment my life is mainly about keeping afloat. I'm in a fortunate position to make things easier, but it still leaves me with limited options. When I was a kid, I used to have pretty big dreams which was what essentially drove me forward. Dreams of being an awesome guy doing awesome things I suppose, as I was a bit thick back then.

However, different events would happen that would essentially burn those original dreams down. I was a kid who was very much into my education. I screwed up in the early years and made one hell of a comeback in the final years of primary... then I went to high school and got bullied practically thoughout the entire experience. Well, it was actual bullying in my first three years there, where I had to put up with not only idiots from my year, but guys from further up the years. I was always a bit of an oddball, and it made me an easy target for ridcule. I had tried to intermingle with crowds who were more willing to treat me like trash. Enough that it rendered me blind to the wider range of potential friends and connections throughout. Even the later years of high school was filled with crap moments, namely by the insane younger students I had to deal with. Regardless, I push hard, and get top marks. Then I roll over to college, and I struggle to hell and back for a different reason. I actually struggled to achieve decent grades. Somehow, I made it through to University (though I think everyone was struggling there), however, I took the bad grades building up to the final tests badly, and struggled to bounce back after strings of successes. Enough that I pulled away from the career path I originally strove for and went after something else.

Don't get me wrong, I loved the topics and my time at Uni, but I wasn't pursuing the dream so to speak. Regardless, I just bit into reality and decided to find a career I could follow in the future. In the end, I picked up two degrees, one of which I wasn't really happy with as I didn't enjoy some of the topics there. But then comes the biggest doorstopper. Actually getting a job. The field I ultimately specalised in is a very small, highly specialised field. Couple that with a lack of expereince, and I kept getting turned away by employers every single time. Eventully a year, then two passed... and I gave up.

I knew I was having to compete with fresh graduates and guys with more experience than I had, so I knew my chances of getting into any STEM field was practically non-existent. Searching for jobs was not very easy even outside of STEM, and I kept getting turned away. Even a supermarket wouldn't have me. I ended up working in a very horrible cafe job during Uni, where the novelty of the location quickly ran dry. That and... I lost a friend that I got close too from there. I picked up a part-time job at a nature reserve afterwards, which was much more enjoyable. But it was only part-time and I wasn't let back in again. Now I work at repair shops around my area, sure, I learn new skills all the time. But recently it's... not been very furfilling for me. Namely due to having to deal with people being rude and ignorant. People who end up in the fields where I work often end up getting treated like dirt. COVID hasn't helped matters there. I haven't been able to maintain contact with old friends IRL, and I can't really contact them again after all this time.

Thing is, for a really long time since college, I was kinda floating around all over the place. Still am in a way.

So back to the original comment, dreams. I guess you could say I ended up having a few epithanies over the last few years. Namely about myself and who I'm actually am as a person. And what I want to get out and be in life. Well, right from the start I knew I would never be happy just being a regular guy that just becomes another cog in the machine. I want to be at the forefront, able to do something that could be noticed and encourage others to strive for the same results. That leads me onto the second epithany. I want to inspire people to strive for more, to be make themselves better people and help others along the way. Not only in making them have more comfortable, healthier lives, but where they actively strive to go that extra yard to make a difference. I want to be able to make a difference, and bring something new to the table whilst giving that push needed for people to strive for more.

And I'm not talking about just going to the local charity and dropping off food parcels and that. No, I'm talking about making truely global differences and impacts that can make life better for everyone on Earth. I want to tear down the barriers that seperate people, wipe out the predjeices people have against each other and bring people together to better understand each other and pass on ideas between them to better each other. Ultimately, build a better world together.

That's part of the reason I ultimately decided to focus on my own writing. I hope to not only build up a facinating world to enjoy and explore, but to inspire people with said stories. I hope to also one day get into a position where I can make dreams like that a reality for everyone. And if I can't get my first novel published (it has already been sent off to agents at least a couple of weeks to over a month ago with no reply as of yet), or I can get into a political field... then frankly I don't know what the hell I'm going to do with myself, as I won't be able to live in a position I am in now, even if it does improve.

So I guess what drives me forward is hopes and dreams leading to a better tomorrow.
 

Paws the Opinicus

*Not technically* a Gryphon!
A 2019 Mitsubishi Outlander.

Seriously though, at this stage it's just hope that this year won't be as horribly crap as /last/ year. I was just starting to work on my travel bucket list when all this pandemic stuff dropped on us and I am so very eager to resume my "Throw dart at map, go to that place" meanderings.

Speaking of which, can anyone recommend a good spackle brand? My wall is getting full of little holes.
 

Lucyfur

United forever in friendship and labour
Banned
1 part spite to those, like my parents, who stole my childhood and then some from me.

1 part live for my polycule

and the last part is not letting my pain claim victory over me
 

Stray Cat Terry

테리 / 特里 / テリー
Main reason: Minor yet multiple affections I get via interactions. That's what drives me in my life.
More reasons: Multiple desires and goals on archieving them.

Is this a life? Maybe..
But "survival" could fit better if I bring in the hidden factors threatening my process and everything,

Other than that, I got people and stuff I value, and I don't wanna give up on them. So, I live. UwU
 
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Kinare

RAWR
Nothing I guess, maybe that's my problem.

I love cats, so I tried to get involved in volunteering in the last city I lived in, but I submitted a volunteer application twice and never got a response so that shot my desire to try anywhere else. Even places that run off of volunteers don't want me. :v I hate people so much. All they do is let you down and prevent you from playing with cats all day. Big meanies.

At one point I would have said I was driven by my desire to find love, but honestly fuck all that. Every time I try I'm reminded of how I'd rather just be alone. I have not yet removed myself from dating sites because then I can say I'm still out there and trying, but I have zero hope at this point. The combo I need just does not exist. Hell, even friendship feels impossible to maintain at this point.

My only purpose in life seems to be burdening others and I fucking hate that shit so much, but all of my attempts at changing it just worsen my situation. Scared to do anything that seems beneficial because of how bad the other tries went. I'm stuck in a career that I was so certain would be my way out, but all it has done is delayed the inevitable and thrown me into situations that absolutely demolished me emotionally and it doesn't even pay the fucking bills. Now I'm looking into another career option and I failed at my first try getting into it because hands-on isn't a thing unless you're blessed to have knowledgable people around you that can provide such an environment. I, being hated by people and hating them back just as much, have no such opportunity. So, I either shovel out thousands of dollars I don't have to try school and hope it goes well (it has not in the past), take a lesser cost risk at a crash-course with some online labs that I have no idea if they're any good, waste more weeks trying other free options, or just try to find something else (tried and failed many a time at that too).

Only thing keeping me alive is my two cats. When they finally die, maybe I can get the guts to follow them. The drive to live just isn't there.
 
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Miles Marsalis

The Last DJ.
Nothing I guess, maybe that's my problem.

I love cats, so I tried to get involved in volunteering in the last city I lived in, but I submitted a volunteer application twice and never got a response so that shot my desire to try anywhere else. Even places that run off of volunteers don't want me. :v I hate people so much. All they do is let you down and prevent you from playing with cats all day. Big meanies.

At one point I would have said I was driven by my desire to find love, but honestly fuck all that. Every time I try I'm reminded of how I'd rather just be alone. I have not yet removed myself from dating sites because then I can say I'm still out there and trying, but I have zero hope at this point. The combo I need just does not exist. Hell, even friendship feels impossible to maintain at this point.

My only purpose in life seems to be burdening others and I fucking hate that shit so much, but all of my attempts at changing it just worsen my situation. Scared to do anything that seems beneficial because of how bad the other tries went. I'm stuck in a career that I was so certain would be my way out, but all it has done is delayed the inevitable and thrown me into situations that absolutely demolished me emotionally and it doesn't even pay the fucking bills. Now I'm looking into another career option and I failed at my first try getting into it because hands-on isn't a thing unless you're blessed to have knowledgable people around you that can provide such an environment. I, being hated by people and hating them back just as much, have no such opportunity. So, I either shovel out thousands of dollars I don't have to try school and hope it goes well (it has not in the past), take a lesser cost risk at a crash-course with some online labs that I have no idea if they're any good, waste more weeks trying other free options, or just try to find something else (tried and failed many a time at that too).

Only thing keeping me alive is my two cats. When they finally die, maybe I can get the guts to follow them. The drive to live just isn't there.
I don't know how helpful this will be and I'm a little ashamed I didn't pick on all this earlier since we do talk, but I'd still like to try to help you figure this out.

I know what you for a living and it's an honest day's work as well as honorable. You help people and their families, which I kind of envy because I don't always get to do that in my job. You also give a damn about the people you care for, their families, and job you do, which is admirable because I've met a few people in your profession who certainly don't meet that criteria. I remember discussing a problem you had a work with you and the effort you putting in to rectify it ... a lot of people wouldn't have been that decent. That is pretty meaningful, especially in the midst of the current pandemic.

I know someone else on here who professionally was in a similar position as you, in the same sector, but she was able to switch to a job she is happier in with a little work; I think you can do the same and I'll help as much I can with helping you achieve similar results. You're still young, so some career setbacks are to expected.

I'd say as long as your invested in a proper educational program with certification at the end of it, you're on the right path, which isn't always the easy path. Having academic credentials definitely help you in the long term.

Finally, I'm not really good at saying things like this, but one reason I'd like you to stick around is that you're my friend and I don't want lose before I get to know you better.

We can talk about this further here or elsewhere.
 

sumoncps

New Member
Typically it's something that inspires my mind busy from focusing on all the stuff that might go worth.
 

Beepsi

Member
To be frank, I don't know too well of what is my drive for my life right now. I am kind of in, I don't know, a dull point in my existence thanks to Covid quarantine and maybe College. Although my lack of ambition maybe growing day by day, I guess the only remnants of a drive in my life may be: exploring places, IRL or internet sites, drawing "crap" which appeases the mind for some reason during the process, researching things, like an anthropologist (I develop an interest around that college course), and writing; although I may be crappy at it, be it grammar rules, syntax, and general things that do not make sense.

Oh, making breakfast in the morning is also one of them; major motive to leave the bed and do at least something.

And maybe attempting to communicate to others in some way, to leave my little "lonesomeness" to say.


If all else just fails, I might as well pull a Vagrant Holiday (interesting YouTuber) to explore the world.
 

just.chillin

Well-Known Member
This is going to make me sound like a bad person but spite. Spite drives me to wake up in the morning and prove those motherfuckers wrong. Every nay sayer, bully, abuser, those who deserted me.. They're going to see my come back and my growth game is so strong that Ima have to introduce myself again because the person I was 5 years ago is not the person I am now.
 

L.Rey

Lucas, the wanderer
This is going to make me sound like a bad person but spite. Spite drives me to wake up in the morning and prove those motherfuckers wrong. Every nay sayer, bully, abuser, those who deserted me.. They're going to see my come back and my growth game is so strong that Ima have to introduce myself again because the person I was 5 years ago is not the person I am now.
At least it's "the good kind of spite". You sound very determined in yourself. Nothing bad with "proving them wrong". Believe there's a proverb that's somewhere along those lines. I hope you find peace along the way too.
 

Telnac

Fundamentalist Heretic
This is going to make me sound like a bad person but spite. Spite drives me to wake up in the morning and prove those motherfuckers wrong. Every nay sayer, bully, abuser, those who deserted me.. They're going to see my come back and my growth game is so strong that Ima have to introduce myself again because the person I was 5 years ago is not the person I am now.
That doesn't make you a bad person. I've been there. There is no better revenge than succeeding when everyone else says you'll fail. And yes, that revenge is sweet indeed.
 

KimberVaile

Self congratulatory title goes here
This is going to make me sound like a bad person but spite. Spite drives me to wake up in the morning and prove those motherfuckers wrong. Every nay sayer, bully, abuser, those who deserted me.. They're going to see my come back and my growth game is so strong that Ima have to introduce myself again because the person I was 5 years ago is not the person I am now.
I see nothing wrong with this at all. Negative feelings can serve as powerful motivation. It's motivated me more than a few times, if just to get the final laugh at people who tried to drag me down. It's a great feeling!
 

Yakamaru

Cyberpunk musta Susi
This is going to make me sound like a bad person but spite. Spite drives me to wake up in the morning and prove those motherfuckers wrong. Every nay sayer, bully, abuser, those who deserted me.. They're going to see my come back and my growth game is so strong that Ima have to introduce myself again because the person I was 5 years ago is not the person I am now.
Depends on the reasoning behind that spite I would say. If it is to show those that would try and drag you down that you ain't letting them then that is arguably a valid reason, as it is not necessarily out of malice but to prove someone wrong for having been wronged and dragged down by people who would much rather see you fail. And when you HAVE shown them they were full of shit.. You can let go of it and move on. But not before a bloody victory dance!

I've been there, so I know exactly how you feel.
 

Stray Cat Terry

테리 / 特里 / テリー
Those who show interests on me, and those who gets my interests UwU♡
 

Tennet_G

Cup O' Depresso
Pain, although a volatile source of fuel, still provides a lot of energy to drive this person. Although it is hard to steer. That, and it's the most abundant feeling I have.
I really wish I was making an edgy meme when I said this.
 

Canis Dirus

Extinct Pleistocene canid
Apathy and Newton's First Law:
Every body perseveres in its state of rest, or of uniform motion in a right line, unless it is compelled to change that state by forces impressed thereon.
 
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