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What is your Sexual Orientation: The Reckoning

What is your Sexual Orientation?

  • 0 - Exclusively Heterosexual

    Votes: 163 22.8%
  • 1 - Mostly Heterosexual

    Votes: 91 12.7%
  • 2 - Bisexual leaning Hetero

    Votes: 66 9.2%
  • 3 - Bisexual

    Votes: 80 11.2%
  • 4 - Bisexual leaning Homo

    Votes: 61 8.5%
  • 5 - Mostly Homosexual

    Votes: 74 10.3%
  • 6 - Exclusively Homosexual

    Votes: 86 12.0%
  • X - Asexual

    Votes: 46 6.4%
  • LOL - Demipansexual Multipass

    Votes: 25 3.5%
  • I don't know? Blue? Fish? Still figuring out!

    Votes: 23 3.2%

  • Total voters
    715
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Spatel

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That said, I do know I'm straight, I am very much interested in the males. But ... here's the problem. Any guy I end up taking an interest in, and feel attracted to, that catches my heart and my soul, is Gay. I'm in that predicament right this very second and have been for 2 1/2 years. It's frustrating.

What exactly is it that attracts you to gay guys? Do you just like the kinds of personalities they tend to have more, or do they come off as more physically attractive? Either way, you could try dating bi guys.
 

Ralko

New Member
Asexual, but looks like I am not the only one. I'm not special.
 

Roon Sazi

Member
I'm gonna go with a 1 on this scale. I can only ever see myself having sex with a woman but I'm incredibly comfortable around gay guys and it wouldn't really disturb me if I were attracted to a guy.
 

TeenageAngst

Banned
Banned
Whenever someone mentions they're asexual I always get this image that they're like Qui-Gon Jinn or Obi-Wan Kenobi in the Star Wars prequels.
 

JerryFoxcoon

The classy Captain Furfag
After some reflection (and some... investigation X3), it seems I'm simply asexual. I don't think furry porn (and probably porn period) is a reliable way to figure out our orientation. Come to think of it I've never had a crush for anyone nor had any form of attraction to anyone whatsoever (at least in a sexual/romantic way). I did have a sort of adrenaline-like feeling upon seeing someone twice but they may be completely unrelated. Plus I've never had a single erotic dream... EVER, and much less a sexual one. The closest thing to erotic I remember is me being in a random place with one of my former French teacher (she was actually rather pretty) and she just got on her knees over me while I was laying down... that's it, no stripping or anything. It was barely "erotic", if at all.

Considering the fact I don't need anyone to get sexual pleasure (i.e. left hand and/or sex toys are enough to me LOL), I could be described as autosexual... maybe xD

EDIT: Another thing that came back into my mind. I remember back in my first year of high school, I've received a secret letter from a girl I knew for years who asked me if I wanted to be her boyfriend. The second I read those words I instantly turned red and felt super awkward, I mean SUPER awkward! Turned out the girl in question changed her mind later the same day xD

I also remember a similar thing that happened a few years later, but this time it was guy who was known to be gay by everyone. I was in art class and he just randomly sit in front of me and started to date me! o_O I didn't feel as awkward that time but I still turned red xD

Needless to say I was never attracted to both of them. The girl has been a nice friend, but that's it LOL. The guy was a huge cunt though xD
 
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-={Dracimonde}=-

Lord of Darkness
Is it ok to feel sorry for asexual/aromantic people? Because I just can't help but to do so, they're missing out on a very wonderful highlight in life :c
 

JerryFoxcoon

The classy Captain Furfag
Is it ok to feel sorry for asexual/aromantic people? Because I just can't help but to do so, they're missing out on a very wonderful highlight in life :c

It is, but you don't have to, at least with me. I'm definitely not asking for pity LOL. I don't fell like I'm "missing" something since it's not something I'm looking for. That being said I still like having friends, it does not make me less social. Sure experiencing attraction to someone and having a relationship sounds wonderful, but I've never felt the need to experience such a thing. I've seen others actively looking for a girlfriend or boyfriend from 12 years old on, but that's never been my thing. Not a single crush, not a single sex dream, I've even tried going to a strip club and never got an erection. It was like watching a Rusian car crash compilation on YouTube: pleasant to watch, yes, but that's it.

The only things that turn me on are fetishes, and none of them are involving someone else. It's entirely self-pleasure. I didn't choose to be like that, but that's how I am, I can't do much to change it...
 

Xela-Dasi

PiratePiratePiratePirateP irate
wow there is far more heteros here than i tought... btw, i wanted to select Exclusively hetero but i clicked mostly :/ thats nice to see the extreme variety of sexual oriantation in the fandom!
 
What exactly is it that attracts you to gay guys? Do you just like the kinds of personalities they tend to have more, or do they come off as more physically attractive? Either way, you could try dating bi guys.

Well, not sure. Growing up as a kid, any guy that was decent looking and who was actually nice to me (the rest were jerks), I later found out in life that they were gay. I had no knowledge about sexual preferences back then. Over the years tho, I gained more knowledge about gays and who was (and wasn't) gay. Gotten to the point that pretty much any male that was nice to me and would speak to me as a normal person was either already married, in a committed relationship, or is gay.

My current situation, I met this guy whom I took an instant liking to, but my gut told me he was definitely gay because he didn't declare me a horrible person upon meeting me for the first time. We actually had the WoW common interest and other games so we became fast friends. Fast forward year and a half and he announced he was gay, which surprised me, 'cause I thought it was already known and was just something that was not talked about so I had never brought it up. Anyway, I knew already he was gay, but that didn't change my feelings for him at all. In fact, they just grew stronger and stronger to the point of no return. I struggle with my feelings every day, trying to squash 'em, trying to divert my attentions elsewhere, but I just keep getting more miserable and not caring a damn about life in general.

Basically, I should say, that I don't aim to go hunting down gay guys for a potential relationship. I take an interest in a guy, they end up being gay. I'm just that unlucky. To be truthful, I wish I were male, all my life I wished I was born male, then maybe I'd have a better chance of living a better life, and gaining a mate.

Right now, the only thing that would make me truely happy in this world is to see my bud happy and in a relationship, being taken care of in this cruel harsh world. To see him happy makes me happy. That's the only thing I want. Just sucks I can't be that person.

Anyway, I have thought about Bi Males and would like to bump into some. Well, I know 2 guys who are definitely Bi but they are 15 and 13 years younger than I am. Kids really. There's really not much to pick from around where I live so best I can do is engage in conversations online with people from out-of-province.

Ah well, see what happens.
 

-={Dracimonde}=-

Lord of Darkness
It is, but you don't have to, at least with me. I'm definitely not asking for pity LOL. I don't fell like I'm "missing" something since it's not something I'm looking for. That being said I still like having friends, it does not make me less social. Sure experiencing attraction to someone and having a relationship sounds wonderful, but I've never felt the need to experience such a thing. I've seen others actively looking for a girlfriend or boyfriend from 12 years old on, but that's never been my thing. Not a single crush, not a single sex dream, I've even tried going to a strip club and never got an erection. It was like watching a Rusian car crash compilation on YouTube: pleasant to watch, yes, but that's it.

The only things that turn me on are fetishes, and none of them are involving someone else. It's entirely self-pleasure. I didn't choose to be like that, but that's how I am, I can't do much to change it...

What if you had a really close friend and they fell in love with you, would you still feel the same?

And if you only feel attraction for yourself, what if you had a clone? Would you feel attraction and/or love for that person?
 
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Conker

Destroyer of Nazi Teddy Bears
Is it ok to feel sorry for asexual/aromantic people? Because I just can't help but to do so, they're missing out on a very wonderful highlight in life :c
You can if you must, but having seen what heartbreak can do to a person, I'm fine with just being outside of the entire equation alltogether. It's just easier. I might be missing out on the extreme happy, but I"m missing out on the extreme sad as well. It kinda evens out in the end, I think.

My friend is currently trying to get back into the good graces of a girl, and I look at it and go "well he seems happy and I hope he succeeds, but this all seems like a really large amount of work. There are better uses of time and money, surely."

Seeing the kinds of pressure people have when it comes to dating and finding love, I'm mostly just glad to not be a part of all of that. It's just one less thing to worry about, and to many, it's a significant thing to worry about.
 

Dreaming

Member
Is it ok to feel sorry for asexual/aromantic people? Because I just can't help but to do so, they're missing out on a very wonderful highlight in life :c
"Shit, all those people who ain't listening to trance... they're missing out on some real good shit! Must suck to be them" Hey, if the natural pull ain't there, there's nothing to miss. To "miss out on something" you'd need to experience some amount of desire or attraction for it first. But I would say it's okay to feel sorry for asexuals, only considering the drastic levels of mass fucking derpation that drowns out the community

THERE ARE NO WORDS FOR HOW UNBELIEVABLY RETAR- uh yeah no, "ace" has to be by far one of the worst slang terms for any sexuality out there. But yeah, if you want to be taken seriously I would completely avoid the use of that word. Avoid it like the plague ... long story, skip this and pretend it didn't happen, pls
 
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MicheleFancy

Navigator Mabel
THERE ARE NO WORDS FOR HOW UNBELIEVABLY RETAR- uh yeah no, "ace" has to be by far one of the worst slang terms for any sexuality out there. But yeah, if you want to be taken seriously I would completely avoid the use of that word. Avoid it like the plague

What's wrong with referring to yourself as "ace" if you're asexual? I've never seen anyone use it negatively before.
 

Dreaming

Member
What's wrong with referring to yourself as "ace" if you're asexual? I've never seen anyone use it negatively before.

There's a whole sector of the community that loathes the abuse of that word...
The thing about the word "ace" is that it was, and still is, popularly used to describe someone who has brilliantly achieved something, e.g. "I just ACED that exam" or "I am an ace at pool" or something like that. I don't know the exact etymology of the word, but honestly, that's why in most games played with a deck or more of playing cards, aces are highest.

Thus, I am not comfortable with the use of ace, because it just seems elitist and is basically misappropriating an existing word. But whatever, I'm sure people are all like, "nooooo, we didn't mean to sound elitist, we're just doing with "asexual" what people have done with "lesbian"! Except "lez" doesn't have a prior meaning.

... and then there's the rest of the community that wear it like some kind of 1st place gold medal. From my own point of view, it makes it a lot more difficult to take it seriously, it just seems like one of those secret club codeword things that preschoolers come up with
 

MicheleFancy

Navigator Mabel
There's a whole sector of the community that loathes the abuse of that word...


... and then there's the rest of the community that wear it like some kind of 1st place gold medal. From my own point of view, it makes it a lot more difficult to take it seriously, it just seems like one of those secret club codeword things that preschoolers come up with

Well that whole ordeal just seems kind of silly to me.
What would you rather have it shortened to? A? As? Ase? (which sounds just like Ace) Ass? Not shortened at all?

Also, you're coming off as a bit of a bully towards someone who was innocently using a term and expressing their joy of seeing others like them in the fur community.
 

Dreaming

Member
Well that whole ordeal just seems kind of silly to me.
What would you rather have it shortened to? A? As? Ase? (which sounds just like Ace) Ass? Not shortened at all?

Also, you're coming off as a bit of a bully towards someone who was innocently using a term and expressing their joy of seeing others like them in the fur community.

"A" and "Asexy" are apparently the popular alternatives... I don't know why. You think that's bullying? =P I'm not going to rose-tint it, very few people are going to take you seriously in public if you say shit like "Ace and proud!"
 

MicheleFancy

Navigator Mabel
"A" and "Asexy" are apparently the popular alternatives... I don't know why. You think that's bullying? =P I'm not going to rose-tint it, very few people are going to take you seriously in public if you say shit like "Ace and proud!"

What people? The ones who don't like the term Ace? General population? "A and proud" or "Asexy and proud" has a similar ring to it.

I don't like the term dyke or fem, but I'm not going to go around telling other lesbians who refer to themselves as that that it's retarded and no one will take them seriously.
 

Dreaming

Member
General population? "A and proud" or "Asexy and proud" has a similar ring to it.

I don't like the term dyke or fem, but I'm not going to go around telling other lesbians who refer to themselves as that that it's retarded and no one will take them seriously.
I never used the word "retarded"... ?? Well, that's your approach to that I guess, forgetting that fact that "ace" is an in-thing that holds very little meaning outside of that particular community


I hope this isn't "derailing", is it??
 

MicheleFancy

Navigator Mabel
I never used the word "retarded"... ?? Well, that's your approach to that I guess, forgetting that fact that "ace" is an in-thing that holds very little meaning outside of that particular community


I hope this isn't "derailing", is it??

You hinted at it by only spelling part of the word and cutting yourself off, so no you didn't ACTUALLY say it. Unless you were thinking retardant, then I apologize for being confused. :V

I'm just saying, leave them alone and people who use the word alone, seriously. There's no specific term that ANYONE can agree on in any of the LGBTQ communities as the acceptable slang term to refer to themselves as. Just use the term you want and get on with your day.
 

Dreaming

Member
I'm just saying, leave them alone and people who use the word alone, seriously. There's no specific term that ANYONE can agree on in any of the LGBTQ communities as the acceptable slang term to refer to themselves as. Just use the term you want and get on with your day.
A great deal of effort is spent focusing on semantics in the asexual community, is all I'm saying. Though I can speak from personal experience, most of that slang will get you some funny looks, think of it as that old guy who shouts at the kids playing near the cliff edge... he fell down there once

If you're "ace and proud", Summer, then great, you've taken the biggest step an asexual can take. Better to take pride in your sexuality as opposed to seeing it as you greatest failing in life (unfortunately, that's not an uncommon scenario for asexuality). Keep up that pride... if that means sticking with the slang, heck go for it kid, you only get one shot so make the most of it =P
 

MicheleFancy

Navigator Mabel
A great deal of effort is spent focusing on semantics in the asexual community, is all I'm saying.

No worries.

Like I said, there's no win. For example in 2008 there was a bit of an uproar in the lesbian community over the word lesbian, because some people of the Greek island Lesbos (where the term lesbian comes from because of the poet Sapphos who wrote poetry about her love of women) were upset that their name was being used in that context and even took it to court. Craziness.

Also I guess at this point I might as well say I'm a lesbian in the context of this thread.
I think it might be obvious, now, though..
BUT JUST IN CASE.
 

JerryFoxcoon

The classy Captain Furfag
What if you had a really close friend and they fell in love with you, would you still feel the same?

And if you only feel attraction for yourself, what if you had a clone? Would you feel attraction and/or love for that person?

I won't immediately conclude I'll never feel any sentimental attraction for anyone ever (even if it didn't happen so far). But that's something I can't control. If I'm not attracted to that friend, there's not much I can do, no matter what the other feels...

Your other question is pretty interesting. I don't think I'd feel attraction of any sort even if it's my clone. That's the idea of being in contact with another human body that just doesn't attract me...

You can if you must, but having seen what heartbreak can do to a person, I'm fine with just being outside of the entire equation alltogether. It's just easier. I might be missing out on the extreme happy, but I"m missing out on the extreme sad as well. It kinda evens out in the end, I think.

My friend is currently trying to get back into the good graces of a girl, and I look at it and go "well he seems happy and I hope he succeeds, but this all seems like a really large amount of work. There are better uses of time and money, surely."

Seeing the kinds of pressure people have when it comes to dating and finding love, I'm mostly just glad to not be a part of all of that. It's just one less thing to worry about, and to many, it's a significant thing to worry about.

Gotta agree with that. Plus there's not much to "miss" if it's not desired in the first place.
 
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