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Why is it so hard to make friends?

Dazreiello

Incomprehensible horror. DRAGON
You're going about it wrong. Entirely, completely wrong. You don't play games with people and expect they'll get it. And explaining just makes you look like a manipulative jerk rather than a pleasant person. Either be flirtatious, own up to it, deal with the fallout and set someone straight if you're uninterested, like I do; OR be plain friendly.

But this "I like to be flirtatious to compliment women" comes off as blatantly sexist whether you mean it or not. I'm perfectly comfortable with myself, I don't need someone else's flirtation to feel good.
guys, take it to the PMs
No worries Somn, She's got a point, I will still take to PMs but I intent to learn from this!
 
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Travel and go to events. Make online friends and visit them, most would welcome other mutains like themselves and could be a great way to travel abroad. "yea guy, come threw you can crash on my couch and draw together". Show who you are as much as you can when you can its the only way. I'm inwardly turned mostly myself but socal skills are just that, a skill you gotta work on. Most people don't care what quarks you may have, in truth it makes you more unique, likeable, trustworthy, and charming. Find those who reflect your soul takes searching.
 
Thank you all for your answers, sorry for my late answer i had to work a lot this week and its very tiring not a lot of time for the internet! Its nice to hear the advice though, i really do appreciate it, and the offers for friendship as well!
 
Hey man. I've battled with mental illness and such, I think I might have a vague idea of what you're going through. Maybe I can help? I"ll be your friend! You got a steam? That's where I'm usuallyy at.
I absolutely have a steam! what kind of pc gamer would i be? haha its under doebear12 (as spelled no capitals) :)
 

Candy Corn

New Member
Sorry for posting so late, but... I just wanted to show you that it's all worthwhile... you'll make friends! I love any fellow furry no matter what. Girl, Boy, Gay, Straight, Fursiuter, or an artist, apples or oranges. I love you all and have a good day!
FURRY FUR LIFE!
 
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Lasvicus

Guest
Girl, just get up and put yourself out there.
You cant just sit there and blame it all on a mental disorder. You wanna make friends? Make friends.
Even if you dont wanna get your ass up off the couch or out of bed, do it anyway and just do it.
Sitting there giving it more power over you than it actually has wont do you any favors.
 
Girl, just get up and put yourself out there.
You cant just sit there and blame it all on a mental disorder. You wanna make friends? Make friends.
Even if you dont wanna get your ass up off the couch or out of bed, do it anyway and just do it.
Sitting there giving it more power over you than it actually has wont do you any favors.
Thank you haha! I'm not trying to blame it all on my mental disorder though i will admit as its gotten progressively worse over time it has interfered with my motivation a lot to do anything. But i am really trying to not let it keep me down since i have a lot on my shoulders i cant put off haha! I'm hoping to go to my first furmeet in my city soon if it officially happens and while i have tried to go to clubs on campus, working two jobs and being a full time student with 15 credits doesn't leave a lot of time for activities outside of work and school! But with summer coming up i'm hoping it will give me more free time to get out there and meet new people, now to just not psych myself out before trying to talk to people! Haha! XD
 
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Glider

Guest
In school I appear to be hanging out with the "cool kidz" but IMO I barely have any real friends, also I feel exhausted in any sociable situation, even cinema for example
 

Elohiim_Koshiiri

Terradorable
Anxiety can be a real pain in the ass....

To me I feel like a bloody loner, but all I do is work....
 

Badwoof

New Member
The hardest thing with making friends is that the first step is always the toughest. I used to be a lot more shy than I am now, and I would beat myself up about not being social if I ever "didn't talk enough" when hanging out with friends. Not sure if it helps, I found it helped me a LOT to start keeping a diary and expressing myself there. It made things a lot easier since there weren't so many thoughts on my plate at one time. In my case that was the issue- just overloading myself.
 
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Helios276

Guest
I understand, I have autism (mild) and sometimes speak without thinking. I also have social anxiety and mild general anxiety.
I know it sounds hard, I'm in the same situation, but you have to overcome any nervousness and actually try to talk to people. It won't be easy! I still can't do it very well, but I know you have to! Just act kind towards people, help them if they need it, just the simple things can make a big difference.

Online socialising a lot easier but it is still good practice! Oh, and for the record, I'm 18, have a nice enough personality (most of the time!), I'm actually quite handsome (I think: www.furaffinity.net: hey there! by MAGIKzMushroom ). So sometimes it's just down to being unlucky or other people's ignorance!

I hope things improve, and I'm always here if you want to talk :)
Yeah autism makes it a lot tougher to communicate
 

Makin Pancakes

New Member
I've also been having a hard time making friends. I moved from the midwest out to Maine and I don't really know anyone. I was working but due to some complications I'm not allowed to work. I've been pretty stuck in the house for a few months now and it's been hell. It's also hard to make friends online because of anxiety and just feeling generally unlikable. I'm kind of a grump lately. :p
 
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Helios276

Guest
Its almost like not talking is bette
It's not hard once you take that "first step." Just start talking to people, who cares who they are? Talk to everyone! It'll get a lot easier, I promise <3
That first step though it just feels impossible
 

Roughmaxen

New Member
It's hard to find the right friends. Who you can talk to endlessly and always be there for them. I try, and realise people either can't be bothered because they feel content, or don't want to open up. The most important thing to people is being able to open up and show who you are. Be a little bit full of yourself :3 anything that helps!

One thing that doesn't make sense to me, is how come furries seem to have so many polyamarouse relationships going about? I've never even really heard of it before. But now it feels as if half of the furries who say they have relationships are open :D
 
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Helios276

Guest
If you want , i'm with open arms to anyone being my friends ( in the fandom of course)
 
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sebv2

Guest
I recently made a new friend on fraffinity, But its been hard trying to do stuff with him for fun. He has his own group of friends before he met me, and he seems to be busy doing things with them a lot. I can't really talk about anime or movies with my coworkers either, since they aren't into that stuff. I've tried making new friends, but its hard for me since I have trouble socialising with people, and talking to strangers is pretty nerve wrecking for me.
 
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Phoenix-Kat

Guest
For me, personally, probably because I never had the desire for these "friend" things in the first place. As a kid I just wanted someone to lecture too about my obsessions. As an adult that's pretty much what the internet is for. The internet didn't really exist as it does today when I was a kid. I didn't even have a computer until the late, late 1990's and getting on the internet was a rare occurrence because the only way to get on was dial up and it took about eight hours or more to get a connection. Anyhow, I found it hard to make friends, but I also didn't really desire them in the first place. I was bullied to the point of PTSD as a kid and my "family" wasn't really any better. I was home-schooled since the fifth grade and lived in such an isolated hick town there wasn't anyone to even try to socialize with. But like I said, I never saw the desire for friends in the first place.
 
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