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Will I be picked on for being a fur?

Bluey

Member
So basically you beat a guy qith a stick for thinking youre weird for liking animal people. Then
people inexplicably thought you were mad.

You know, irl the more seriously you take this the weirder youll be thought of and thinking that irl exists a 'we' puts you in that category, except you crossed the line thst takes you to zealousy. Theyre not afraid because you're strong or intimidating, they're afraid because they thonk you're an insane, unpredictable loonie that takes shit too far.

Wanna know how society sees it? Its like two guys at a restaurant, one orders salad and the other a burger. Salad man says "You know, that burger can make you fat." and the burger man says "It might but you know, it doesnt really matter." Saladman says "It does too!", Burger man awkwardly tries to change the topic to avoid drama "Well, I don't really care."
Then someone from a different table says "What a weirdo." to his tablemate about the salad man.
Salad man gets up from his chair and starts pointing guns at people screeching "YOU WILL TAKE DIET SERIOUSLY"

Basically, dont beat people with sticks. Being a furry should never EVER come to the point when it is necessary to overpower someone with a blunt weapon.

Please dont compare your higher culturel nation or society with mine.I grew up in a city*food basket farming community* where people migrated from places with no school and worse some of them came from criminal families.Although my family raised me like European or like American due my dad's work we had to stay there.Back then even I wasnt know Im a "furry" as in proper name.I acted like one without knowing fandom at all.So if someone talks about bullies I assume they should be real dangerous ones.

From experiance those bullies live to beat people, any negative answer and you will find 10 guys top of you and they take your cellphone and wallet after beating is over.Education in school and teachers were awesome but cant say same for students.Those people werent the kind of you can reason or tell them anything.I spend 4 years in highschool entered 7 or 8 fights got my nose broke and I was considered one of the most peacefull student LOL.

I created a false image, an image of a dangerous person to keep myself safe from people would never listen in any term, it worked.I have full support and respect of other people's choices and religon and I believe in freedom of speech but that school man :/.They curse your mother,spit on your shoes ,they jump on mud then kick your butt to leave a mark of shoe,slap your face etc etc.Now those are bully xD people you can talk with are not bullies ,they are what we consider *furry hater* and they are fine ,you exchange couple of words and then go to seperate ways.

Im from Turkish Republic, first furry of my nation and there 18 of us thus far, last year I moved to another city*capital* lol people werent negative about a furry at all but fandom in general is underrated.There are cons about marvel comics and DC universal meetings,magic players,yugioh masters and etc etc ,pokemon madness and warhammer fans but for some reason furries remain unpopular.Maybe in due time younger generations will be more into our hobby.
 

Butters Shikkon

Patron Saint of Queers
Everybody has a p***s, that does not mean you should go shove it in everyone's face. Same concept applies here.

p***s.
Pe**s
Pen*s
Penis.

Everybody has a penis. Even the girls.

Thanks furries. :V
 

Delta

Fun times in FAFylon
Dont be an obnoxious, mouth breathing basement urchin that obsesses over it and you probably wont be.
Furry is not sexuality.
Furry is not something to stand up for.
Furry is a hobby.

Dont treat it as more and generally you'll be fine.
Shower, be polite and have confidence in yourself.
 

Kitsu

New Member
My friends are all well aware that I'm crazy, so it wasn't much of a big surprise. I think the less of a big deal you make it, the less of a big deal others will. You're part of a fandom, so what?

Love this..its a fandom that people dont always understand. I am a proud furry and do walk around with my tail but I never get bullied or even picked on. I have more people curious to what it is and why am I wearing it. My friends all know and have even become more curious about it themselves. Its a fun hobby that you, yourself have to enjoy. The ups and downs. No fandom is without its dirty secrets that ppl make fun of, its the way of life. Its what makes you stronger as a person to enjoy what it is, if it embarrasses you and you feel ashamed then maybe find a new hobby, something that doesn't involve people cause everyone will find something wrong with what you like. ^-^
 

TheGr8MC

Longetivity is my middle name
About the school shootings stopping the bullying, the same happened to me. I was bullied relentlessly until one of those school shootings happened (I don't remember which one). Suddenly everybody was nice to me, they were going out of their way to try not to make my angry or sad. However I absolutely hated the nice treatment even more then the bullying because I knew they were only nice out of fear rather then compassion. Thank god I'm in college now where people are more open minded and accepting.
 

Bluey

Member
About the school shootings stopping the bullying, the same happened to me. I was bullied relentlessly until one of those school shootings happened (I don't remember which one). Suddenly everybody was nice to me, they were going out of their way to try not to make my angry or sad. However I absolutely hated the nice treatment even more then the bullying because I knew they were only nice out of fear rather then compassion. Thank god I'm in college now where people are more open minded and accepting.
+1
 

TheGr8MC

Longetivity is my middle name

Avlenna

Shadow of the Night
At the OP: You won't be picked on for being a furry as long as you don't draw too much attention to yourself.
 

Parker

New Member
It really depends on how you present yourself. And the people around you. If you try to get other people into the fandom when they're not interested, yeah, you'll probably get some shit for it. If you live in a small town, you could get bullied a bit. Not necessarily "bullied," though. Some strange looks and the occasional questioning is probably all you'll get.
 

TrishaCat

The Cat in the FAF
Well, I haven't gone around telling anyone, however some of my friends noticed I was a furry and mentioned it, joking about it and stuff. Other than that, nothing. Though I've been in this fandom for a short time.
 

Zabrina

Awoken
It all depends in who you're around, really. My best friend has never picked on me for being an otherkin, (Though that may be because we pretended to be Warrior Cats when we were little... Heh.)


If the person's kind, they won't be rude. If not, avoid that person. They clearly aren't very nice.
 

Kagisnad

Member
Obviously. Unless we're talking about understanding people that you'd be opening up to. But in general, yes you will be ridiculed for it. I personally suggest only admitting your furry allegiance to close friends you know would understand, or other furries. Otherwise, keep it to yourself and furry communities.
 

redhusky17

Member
Nope. Maybe they joked about it, but my friends didn’t picked on me.
I remember one day with a tail, cat ears, and a collar in school. No, I don’t have a fursuit , but I want one.
 

Ravy Marie White

Loves a blueberry addict.
New to the forums and I must say, it's pretty bad when you skim through an entire forum and have nothing to say beyond a Dr Seuss quote. "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

It's supremely disappointing to see so much unfriendliness and debate surrounding a common interest. So many attempts to define what it is or isn't to be a furry. Aside from Dr Seuss I'm left with nothing save for adapting Steve Hughes' thoughts on secondary smoke to the furry fandom:

"I'm not particularly worried about the fact that recently the two most powerful nations have illegally invaded a Mideastern country under false pretenses so that they could steal it's natural resources and build permanent military bases to start more theaters of conflict so it could implement a third world war to create a planetary fascist police state, it's [a fur fandom]. I’m not worried about the fact that the world bank and the IMF go into third world countries and put them into unfathomable debt so they can steal their natural resources, destroy the culture and implement them into the global banking system, it's [a fur fandom] and, you know, I didn't choose to [be a furfag] and I could be affected."

Yeah...so, there was that.

For the record, I'm into fur suits, am an anthro artist, find nothing wrong with allowing furry interest to become part of one's sexuality (or to keep it separate, your choice), enjoy making animal noises, think of myself as a civilized feral (ironic, I know) and won't condemn anyone for any interpretation their creative minds can come up with regarding being "furry".

Really, if you enjoy it and it isn't hurting anyone....just enjoy it. It's really that simple to me.
 
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Ozriel

Inglorious Bastard
Your first approach and impressions (as well as your body language outside of the 'net) can make the difference between people "not giving a fuck" and people thinking you are a "target".


It's supremely disappointing to see so much unfriendliness and debate surrounding a common interest.

Just because everyone has the same interest doesn't mean people will conform to the same ideas, or agree with the same ideas.
 
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Ravy Marie White

Loves a blueberry addict.
Just because everyone has the same interest doesn't mean people will conform to the same ideas, or agree with the same ideas.

This is quite true. My post was meant to illustrate that the definition of furry is subjective. As such, it strikes me as petty to have so many debates surrounding the idea of defining it. The experience will be different for everyone. I'd simply like to see more acceptance and less trolling. ;)
 

Ricky

Well-Known Member
This is quite true. My post was meant to illustrate that the definition of furry is subjective. As such, it strikes me as petty to have so many debates surrounding the idea of defining it. The experience will be different for everyone. I'd simply like to see more acceptance and less trolling. ;)

Why do you NEED acceptance? Especially from a bunch of random internet people. Just do your thing and you will find like-minded people. You are NEVER going to get acceptance from EVERYONE so there's really no point worrying about it.
 

Ozriel

Inglorious Bastard
This is quite true. My post was meant to illustrate that the definition of furry is subjective. As such, it strikes me as petty to have so many debates surrounding the idea of defining it. The experience will be different for everyone. I'd simply like to see more acceptance and less trolling. ;)

Acceptance comes with Friendship as a side dish. If you want people to accept you, they have to know you first. Asking for acceptance first is like asking to be wed on the first date. You shouldn't expect such a thing from strangers.

Besides, people should learn to accept and love themselves first unconditionally before expecting acceptance from others..
 

Ravy Marie White

Loves a blueberry addict.
I think I may have been misunderstood. I'm not here seeking acceptance. I just found it sad to see how much brow beating goes on in the forums in general. I think my first post, if taken as a whole, would make my intentions a little more clear than the piece meal quotes that have been taken from it.

To give a more concise synopsis: I think a lot of time is wasted in these forums by attempting to give being a furry a finite definition rather than accepting the inevitable variations that will occur in perspective. I wonder if there is simply nothing else of significant interest to talk about with all these sticky posts about how being furry is not this thing or that thing and should not be viewed in certain ways. It strikes me that the goal of these forums is to be more limiting than liberating.

Just don't treat it like some kind of sexuality... please. -_-

This was the second response to the OP's question and, only slightly further down, this with a link to the "coming out" thread:

IT'S A STICKY. IT'S JUST SITTING RIGHT THERE AT THE TOP OF THE PAGE. HOW ARE PEOPLE MISSING THIS?

Here, I'll help you out. You're clearly incapable of lurking and might hurt yourself along the way.

Hold tight...

Strap your special helmet on...

Yes, the one with the Spongebob stickers on it.

Ready?

That being said, my lament was aimed at the fact that this was sold to me as the most active furry forum on the web and, yet, it so immediately portrays a warning of inherent judgment. I became quite secure with my furry side and every nuance attached to it on my own before I came here, and thankfully so, as I may have been afraid to explore it to the extent with which I have had I come here when it was budding. For the sake of people beginning to investigate the interest, I offered a nord to the wise to be mindful of what they say to people. Simply that...and nothing more.
 

Ricky

Well-Known Member
Correct. The stickies are there because it gets discussed ad nauseum, and it was to try and prevent repetitive circomlocution. And yes, people run out of things to talk about so there is a lot of meta discussion here.

That said, there are some inherent truths, such as not needing to "come out as a furry." That sticky exists as a reality check for someone going down that spiral. If you are at that point, you need to reassess your priorities because it isn't healthy to take *anything* to the point of obsession like that.

You'll notice on every forum things become circular after a while. Some people are just bored in work though, and don't really care;3
 
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